ihateslowjams Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 (edited) never mind... i know i know Edited August 6, 2012 by ihateslowjams
Author ihateslowjams Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 you know what...I may not be the biggest help right now...but I've learned to do what you feel or you will regret it later. Unless your breakup involved cheating or abuse in any way...then text them back if it feels right. You just never know... Yeah, ill respond, but after my paper is completed. I need to focus on that right now and only that. everything else is second
Author ihateslowjams Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 (edited) What did the text say? Asking for my password on something i gave back to her when we BU, which was 2 months ago; practically full NC since. Edited August 6, 2012 by ihateslowjams
Author ihateslowjams Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 AH HA!! I did that when I broke up with my ex. I wanted to contact him but I didn't know what to say. So I figured I'd make something up where he would have to respond....she doesn't need the password, she really wants to talk to you... you'll have to let us know how it goes. Were you the dumper or dumpee?
M30USA Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Unless your breakup involved cheating or abuse in any way...then text them back if it feels right.... I agree with you about cheating or abuse as being exceptions. The popular mantra we hear is that "both" people need to make an effort if a relationship or marriage is going to work out. But this is only true in cases where there isn't abuse or infidelity. I recently separated from my wife primarily due to her domestic violence against me. She texted me a few times after saying she wanted to reconcile. However, there was never any apology even when I asked for one. So why the hell does she want to reconcile? Does she really think it's "both" of our problem when she's the one who beat my ass?
Author ihateslowjams Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 AH HA!! I did that when I broke up with my ex. I wanted to contact him but I didn't know what to say. So I figured I'd make something up where he would have to respond....she doesn't need the password, she really wants to talk to you... you'll have to let us know how it goes. It was nothing. I didn't even receive a thank you in the past hour since my response
Author ihateslowjams Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 I had a private number call me last night at 1 am... do businesses call people that late??? -_- I didn't pick up
Author ihateslowjams Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 I broke up with my ex. I regretted it and we are now back together. But anyways...she called you on private. Take it from a girl who did the same thing. I called my ex on a private number just to hear his voice. He didn't answer either. Just made me want him more. She is playing a game with you because she wants you to miss her too. Don't play back quite yet. Keep her on a loose tie. Let her fight for you since she broke up with you. And if she really loves you, she will fight for you, just like I fought for my ex and won him back. I wish you were right, but I think its more of a SUPER RARE coincidence than anything else. You still have feelings for your dumpee. One of the reasons of my BU was because she doesn't love me anymore... so I've accepted that and I'm trying to move on. However, I've never received a private number phone call past 8pm. Life can really mess with a person's head sometimes (since Im viewing it as a coincidence)
Author ihateslowjams Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 this last contact threw me back a few steps... Im bummed out that I didn't even receive a damn "thanks" or "thank you" reply. And now I'm wondering if that private number phone call was her or not... -_- ALL DAY i kept thinking about this and wondered why she would even bother if it was her. In fact, why does she feel the need to block her number if it was true. I know that there is no guarantee it was her. Most likely it was just a HUGE coincidence of it happening and it was either a wrong number dialed or "i have no freaking clue but it couldn't have been her" phone call. Im bummed out now and thinking I should have answered that call so I would have known for sure...
PainsChains Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 You were right not to answer it. Trust me. My ex called me at 1 AM and told me that she missed me and had been second-guessing her decision to breakup with me. I said very little at first and then she kept on until I cracked. When I told her I still loved her the whole conversation did a 180 and she then told me she was moving in with the guy she left me for. She then began telling me why we weren't good for each other and that she just needed closure. She ended up hanging up on me! Set me back after 2 months of NC. You don't need that and shouldn't regret your decision.
Author ihateslowjams Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 You were right not to answer it. Trust me. My ex called me at 1 AM and told me that she missed me and had been second-guessing her decision to breakup with me. I said very little at first and then she kept on until I cracked. When I told her I still loved her the whole conversation did a 180 and she then told me she was moving in with the guy she left me for. She then began telling me why we weren't good for each other and that she just needed closure. She ended up hanging up on me! Set me back after 2 months of NC. You don't need that and shouldn't regret your decision. Yeah, you're right. It shouldn't matter whether it was her or not. Time to shrug it off and move right along.
WordvAction Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 You made the right decision; next time don't even bother responding to a text. It will only set you back. Good luck
Author ihateslowjams Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 You made the right decision; next time don't even bother responding to a text. It will only set you back. Good luck Yeah, I've been regretting that response. I should have never answered her. If another moment like this arise, ill not respond.
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