Ummm Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Hi. I'm in the uk and I'm about to start my third yr of high school. I've always had these "friends". Since primary there has been times when they just wouldn't include me. They passed notes about me and stuff like that too. They even told my teacher id made a racist comment about this boy in our class. I spoke to one of these girls about it and she said she felt like I was bulling her !? Anyway since we all started high school these girls were in my classes so I just kept hanging around with them. More and more though I've noticed how much they shun me out and totally ignore me. They'll arrange to go out together right in front of me and not include me and things like that. I have different music tastes and things from them all of which they say suck. I just dont want to be around them anymore. But that's the thing. My schools really small. There's no one I my year who hasn't been a part of the rumour mill about me. I have no one. Moving school isn't an option either. I just don't know what to do. My mum and me aren't very close. I deleted Facebook and twitter cause they were always posting pictures of they're days out and deliberately tagging me so I knew Id been left out. I'm dreading going back to school. My best friend who has never let me down moved to Australia two years ago. She's always been they're but it's so hard finding time to talk to her. Another thing these girls do is bitch about each other to me then tell the person they were bitching about that I had said the things. Help. Please.
gskyo Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Kids these days can be harsh, sometimes they don't realise it because they think it is funny. Nonetheless, it isn't right behaviour. I too used to be bullied, by popular girls. They would make me feel so horrible about myself. It was times like these, I'd rather be alone. Looking back now, I wish I had it in me to ignore these people. However, I was lucky I had some good friends at that time. I suggest joining clubs or activities outside of school that would expose you to people from other schools, make new friends there. At the end of the day, it gets better. College was a great time to start anew for me. My advice is to find friends outside of this ecosystem, though carefully of course and endure until college! You can still keep in contact with them, be cordial but when they bitch, never offer any opinion, just say "mm". If you dont offer any gossip, they cant use it against you. Dont let their FB taggings bother you, real life is never as exciting as life projected on social media. It's a perception game. Once you start to perceive them as so pathetic that they have nothing productive to do and need to use FB in order to make you feel left out to feel good about themselves, you'll feel sorry for them. Good luck!
BellaMarieOC Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I am so sorry you have to deal with this bullying. If I were you I would seek counseling, it sounds like you really need someone to talk to. Is there a guidance counsler at school you can talk with? I think the best thing you can do is distance yourself from these girls. Maybe join a couple groups at school or even outside of school that share similar interests and meet people that way. I know this may not help, but please remember that this will pass and things will get better. I'm 30 years old and when I look back at high school I laugh so hard. I hardly speak with people I was friends with back then because we have all grown in different directions, at the time it felt like if I let go of toxic friendships I would be all alone, but it's simply not true. I do keep a few friendships close, but beyond that my current friends are people I meet at work or during activities.
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