El Brujo Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Last Friday evening, I remembered to wear my slacks and shirt instead of sweat pants and T-shirt when I went out to meet my friend where he plays in the band (he's been trying to talk his rabbi friend into hiring me to build an ark for a pair of Torah scrolls). Well, the women after the service weren't hitting on me (some things never change), but when I found my friend in the crowd, the women he introduced me to were more willing to talk to me when he introduced me around. And, best of all, this 50-ish brunet with green eyes (who was at the get-together last month and I think she looks kind of cute) actually looked at me and smiled... even though TTBOMK my musician friend doesn't know her. Weird, how a goy like me ends up being attracted to Jewish women... Anyhow, guys... if you're a PUA, you can stick with your leather jacket and denims, but if you're short, fat, or---like me---a giant, save up your bread, buy a nice pair of black or navy blue slacks, a true blue cotton shirt, maybe a tie, and a pair of nice black Oxford shoes, and women will be a little more willing to find out how smart, funny, or interesting you really are. BTW I got the go-ahead to build the scroll ark.
USMCHokie Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Anyhow, guys... if you're a PUA, you can stick with your leather jacket and denims, but if you're short, fat, or---like me---a giant, save up your bread, buy a nice pair of black or navy blue slacks, a true blue cotton shirt, maybe a tie, and a pair of nice black Oxford shoes, and women will be a little more willing to find out how smart, funny, or interesting you really are. Anyone would be better off dressing better, PUA or average guy alike... 3
ascendotum Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Anyone would be better off dressing better, PUA or average guy alike... If your usual attire is 'sweat pants and T-shirt' you don't need to go out and buy Esquire or GQ to get a leg up on looking more stylish. lol. Brujo thats good you are getting more postive responses. You needed to say hi to that jewish woman...go for it next time you are there eh.
USMCHokie Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 If your usual attire is 'sweat pants and T-shirt' you don't need to go out and buy Esquire or GQ to get a leg up on looking more stylish. lol. Yea...if your usual attire for going out is sweat pants and anything...then there are probably bigger issues at hand...
Lonely Ronin Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Some times I think it's more about the fact that you actually care about how you look, than anything else. 2
yongyong Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I am sure people who claims 'I don't judge a book by its cover' will treat you differently when you walk around with sweat pants Vs slacks. 1
It's Just Me Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Oh, God! DO NOT get me started on how men show up for a first date/meet when OLD. Crap... too late. Here I go. I live in a major metropolitan area, and come from a French-influenced fashion-forward city (Montreal). I'm not a snob, but I care how I look, and orient my wardrobe to the activity at hand. When meeting someone for dinner indoors (whether a restaurant, pub, or roadhouse), gentlemen, please, DO NOT: 1. Wear your best white sneakers. Wear dress shoes, even with jeans. 2. Wear a baseball cap. Seriously. I don't give a crap if you're balder than Jean-Luc Picard. Not cool. 3. Wear beach sandals with your dockers. 4. Wear flip-flops, under any circumstance. 5. Wear a Hawaiian-print shirt. Ever. 6. Wear a sweatshirt. 7. Wear sweatpants, or anything velour. 8. Wear a t-shirt. Collars only, please. The way you dress not only demonstrates how you feel about your date and the event, but it also speaks volumes about how YOU care about yourself. And before some of you get your knickers in a twist about how shallow women are, consider how you'd feel if the girl you asked on a dinner date showed up in yoga pants, flip-flops and a t-shirt at your favourite fancy restaurant. 2
Lonely Ronin Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 8. Wear a t-shirt. Collars only, please. I have to disagree with number 8. I think number 8 is fine depending on your date, and the location. For example, This is a common look for me. http://s7d2.scene7.com/is/image/EddieBauer/EB12IC_0336286_956C1?$canvas$&wid=400&hei=497 A collard shirt would be out of place at most of the bars in my city.
madjac74 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Oh, God! DO NOT get me started on how men show up for a first date/meet when OLD. Crap... too late. Here I go. I live in a major metropolitan area, and come from a French-influenced fashion-forward city (Montreal). I'm not a snob, but I care how I look, and orient my wardrobe to the activity at hand. When meeting someone for dinner indoors (whether a restaurant, pub, or roadhouse), gentlemen, please, DO NOT: 1. Wear your best white sneakers. Wear dress shoes, even with jeans. 2. Wear a baseball cap. Seriously. I don't give a crap if you're balder than Jean-Luc Picard. Not cool. 3. Wear beach sandals with your dockers. 4. Wear flip-flops, under any circumstance. 5. Wear a Hawaiian-print shirt. Ever. 6. Wear a sweatshirt. 7. Wear sweatpants, or anything velour. 8. Wear a t-shirt. Collars only, please. The way you dress not only demonstrates how you feel about your date and the event, but it also speaks volumes about how YOU care about yourself. And before some of you get your knickers in a twist about how shallow women are, consider how you'd feel if the girl you asked on a dinner date showed up in yoga pants, flip-flops and a t-shirt at your favourite fancy restaurant. I can't believe you didn't mention your belt should be worn above your ass! 2
FitChick Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Worse than a baseball cap is a baseball cap worn backwards.
It's Just Me Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I can't believe you didn't mention your belt should be worn above your ass! That too!
It's Just Me Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Worse than a baseball cap is a baseball cap worn backwards. Hell, yeah. Seen it. Laughed at it. Dumped it - what are you, 14 years old?
It's Just Me Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 (edited) I have to disagree with number 8. I think number 8 is fine depending on your date, and the location. For example, This is a common look for me. http://s7d2.scene7.com/is/image/EddieBauer/EB12IC_0336286_956C1?$canvas$&wid=400&hei=497 A collard shirt would be out of place at most of the bars in my city. I still disagree. Luckily, we don't live in the same city, nor are we in the same age group. Edited August 6, 2012 by It's Just Me Typo
Lonely Ronin Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 nor are we in the same age group. You sure about that?
Els Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Course it helps. It would not matter much to the right person, I'd think, and it definitely shouldn't be what matters MOST... but it should help. Surely you'd find a woman in a nice dress more attractive than one in sweatpants and a baggy tee, all other things being equal. Why is it a surprise that this also works the other way around?
Author El Brujo Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Hell, I'll even spring for a monocle, if I could find a place that still sells them. And maybe a top hat. I agree though about baseball hats. I think they're too well liked by the kind of guys Jeff Foxworthy makes fun of. I prefer a captain's hat anyway (can't you tell by my avatar?).
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