Matt145 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Me and my ex where into 9 days of NC and she called me today. This is the 4th time she has broke NC now. She told me that her mum has kicked her out of her house because she kept going home at like 5am in the morning drunk when she went out and that she is living with her nan. But she said shes stopping it now because she only done it to try and get over me and she didnt like going out anyway. But she also told me her parents have split up too and she is very very stressed out and that she has no one to talk to about it all and she said she doesnt trust anyone but me and thats why she told me. So she asked me to be her friend and she said she cant live without me, what a ****ing joke! Trying to use me because times are hard for her and she has no one else in her life to help her get through it. I told her no its a relationship or nothing. She said she doesnt want a relationship. So i told her not to contact me ever again unless its got anything to do with working things out. She promised me she wouldnt call me again even though i dont believe it. Shes wrecked my momentum i was going good until she called me now i feel like crap. But can you get any worse though? Calling me because times are hard so she can use me to get through her hard times because she has no one else. So angry:mad: i was calm when i talked to her i was actualy pretty nice to her, but now im so pissed off. She asked me if i have kissed anyone and i said no and she said she has, it didnt really hurt me when she told me. I dont know why maybe it will hit me tomorrow. This isnt the first time shes asked to be my friend though, she has asked many times. 1
weallfalldown Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 hard, but ignore her dude.......silence is the killer.........
Tree_Salmon Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Me and my ex where into 9 days of NC and she called me today. This is the 4th time she has broke NC now. She told me that her mum has kicked her out of her house because she kept going home at like 5am in the morning drunk when she went out and that she is living with her nan. But she said shes stopping it now because she only done it to try and get over me and she didnt like going out anyway. But she also told me her parents have split up too and she is very very stressed out and that she has no one to talk to about it all and she said she doesnt trust anyone but me and thats why she told me. So she asked me to be her friend and she said she cant live without me, what a ****ing joke! Trying to use me because times are hard for her and she has no one else in her life to help her get through it. I told her no its a relationship or nothing. She said she doesnt want a relationship. So i told her not to contact me ever again unless its got anything to do with working things out. She promised me she wouldnt call me again even though i dont believe it. Shes wrecked my momentum i was going good until she called me now i feel like crap. But can you get any worse though? Calling me because times are hard so she can use me to get through her hard times because she has no one else. So angry:mad: i was calm when i talked to her i was actualy pretty nice to her, but now im so pissed off. She asked me if i have kissed anyone and i said no and she said she has, it didnt really hurt me when she told me. I dont know why maybe it will hit me tomorrow. This isnt the first time shes asked to be my friend though, she has asked many times. Wow, this is an identical story to my own. Except mine has gotten even weirder. All ill say is don't even bother listening to what she has to say. Shes full of it. Just live your life and if she wants you she can come knock down your door.
Author Matt145 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 She is a weak person, she always has been in our 2.5 year relationship. She relied on me to get her through everything. I just hope she suffers the next few weeks now i dont care anymore. 1
YorickBrown Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Me and my ex where into 9 days of NC and she called me today. This is the 4th time she has broke NC now. She told me that her mum has kicked her out of her house because she kept going home at like 5am in the morning drunk when she went out and that she is living with her nan. But she said shes stopping it now because she only done it to try and get over me and she didnt like going out anyway. But she also told me her parents have split up too and she is very very stressed out and that she has no one to talk to about it all and she said she doesnt trust anyone but me and thats why she told me. So she asked me to be her friend and she said she cant live without me, what a ****ing joke! Trying to use me because times are hard for her and she has no one else in her life to help her get through it. I told her no its a relationship or nothing. She said she doesnt want a relationship. So i told her not to contact me ever again unless its got anything to do with working things out. She promised me she wouldnt call me again even though i dont believe it. Shes wrecked my momentum i was going good until she called me now i feel like crap. But can you get any worse though? Calling me because times are hard so she can use me to get through her hard times because she has no one else. So angry:mad: i was calm when i talked to her i was actualy pretty nice to her, but now im so pissed off. She asked me if i have kissed anyone and i said no and she said she has, it didnt really hurt me when she told me. I dont know why maybe it will hit me tomorrow. This isnt the first time shes asked to be my friend though, she has asked many times. Ok, I kinda relate to this scenario...although Im not exactly there yet (I expect to be in a month or so) but from what I've gathered from the details of your story there....First off, why did you break NC in the first place? Secondly, it seems to me, you're still..well, obviously holding out on getting back together with her?!? Really dude? Coz the joke would be on you. Last but not least, why the hell did you answer in the negative in the kissing anyone else part? Please tell me you followed up your "no" with..."....coz I didnt feel like kissing (insert name of some girl here) when she gave me a bl:pwj:laugh:b"
Author Matt145 Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Ok, I kinda relate to this scenario...although Im not exactly there yet (I expect to be in a month or so) but from what I've gathered from the details of your story there....First off, why did you break NC in the first place? Secondly, it seems to me, you're still..well, obviously holding out on getting back together with her?!? Really dude? Coz the joke would be on you. Last but not least, why the hell did you answer in the negative in the kissing anyone else part? Please tell me you followed up your "no" with..."....coz I didnt feel like kissing (insert name of some girl here) when she gave me a bl:pwj:laugh:b" I didnt break NC she did, she rang me out of the blue telling me her issues. And yeah i admit i do want her back but i know its wrong for me to feel like that, but im not hoping shes gunna come back i know shes gone for good. Yeah i know but she called me back an hour later and asked me to be friends again i said no obv course, and i said some stuff to make her jelous and she fell for it. I just made a new thread about it:p
YorickBrown Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I didnt break NC she did, she rang me out of the blue telling me her issues. And yeah i admit i do want her back but i know its wrong for me to feel like that, but im not hoping shes gunna come back i know shes gone for good. Yeah i know but she called me back an hour later and asked me to be friends again i said no obv course, and i said some stuff to make her jelous and she fell for it. I just made a new thread about it:p Dude, NC is for you to follow (obviously, you can't make her stop calling you), its not like a "let's see who blinks first" kind of game. So NC also means DNA = Do Not Answer. Ignore everything, including cutting her off from all forms of communication and social networking. Jealous? Really? Tsk, tsk, tsk, that's kind of pathetic (especially if its not that true or you can't back it up)...Although, I tried doing that "I can do that to you too"...but only for the first couple of weeks just to take my mind off...but then again, bottomline, do you REALLY want her back??!? or you just want to get back at her? Either way, NC is the first step in the process. 1
Author Matt145 Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Dude, NC is for you to follow (obviously, you can't make her stop calling you), its not like a "let's see who blinks first" kind of game. So NC also means DNA = Do Not Answer. Ignore everything, including cutting her off from all forms of communication and social networking. Jealous? Really? Tsk, tsk, tsk, that's kind of pathetic (especially if its not that true or you can't back it up)...Although, I tried doing that "I can do that to you too"...but only for the first couple of weeks just to take my mind off...but then again, bottomline, do you REALLY want her back??!? or you just want to get back at her? Either way, NC is the first step in the process. Yeah i know your right i guess:( but i told her not to contact me unless she wants to work things out, so she called me 9 days later i thought she wanted to work things out im not going to blank a call what potentialy could of got me back with her, next time she calls i will either blank them or answer them and ask her if its got anything to do with getting back together and if she says no ill say bye. I know but she would never know its true or not and some of it was true, i just wanted her to feel how it felt and it hit her hard which i dont regret doing. I dont know if i want her back anymore after last night im confused now, shes changed shes not the girl i was with for 2 years or maybe she is and this time away from her has made me realise shes not all that good. But either way i dont want to get back her and if i do get back at her it will be when i am over her. It just anoys me though because she is unbelievably good looking she really is but her personality is horrible.
YorickBrown Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Yeah i know your right i guess:( but i told her not to contact me unless she wants to work things out, so she called me 9 days later i thought she wanted to work things out im not going to blank a call what potentialy could of got me back with her, next time she calls i will either blank them or answer them and ask her if its got anything to do with getting back together and if she says no ill say bye. I know but she would never know its true or not and some of it was true, i just wanted her to feel how it felt and it hit her hard which i dont regret doing. I dont know if i want her back anymore after last night im confused now, shes changed shes not the girl i was with for 2 years or maybe she is and this time away from her has made me realise shes not all that good. But either way i dont want to get back her and if i do get back at her it will be when i am over her. It just anoys me though because she is unbelievably good looking she really is but her personality is horrible. Seriously?!? I mean, Im the one now seriously confused . Look, I understand, its just probably way too early in the BU for you to handle the concept of an NC (that's ok, it took me almost a month too). And, I know...it's really very difficult to get over the pretty, sexy ones , it takes a lot of uhmmm...well, "practice". Especially, (and Im going to be a bit crass about this)...if you haven't had enough "screwing" her like a porn star (especially if she f*cks like one too )....which leads me to my solution to your problem....(I will probably get a lot of flak for telling you this): Hump :bunny:her:love: till you get it out your system:sick:
Author Matt145 Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Seriously?!? I mean, Im the one now seriously confused . Look, I understand, its just probably way too early in the BU for you to handle the concept of an NC (that's ok, it took me almost a month too). And, I know...it's really very difficult to get over the pretty, sexy ones , it takes a lot of uhmmm...well, "practice". Especially, (and Im going to be a bit crass about this)...if you haven't had enough "screwing" her like a porn star (especially if she f*cks like one too )....which leads me to my solution to your problem....(I will probably get a lot of flak for telling you this): Hump :bunny:her:love: till you get it out your system:sick: Doing that will only make it worse for me though wont it even though it is possible i wouldnt do it:p
flitzanu Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 dude, it's 2012 and you've got voicemail on your phone. if it's about "getting back with you" she'll make a very clear and determined effort to let you know. stop answering her calls, you're only enabling this drama by doing so.
Author Matt145 Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 dude, it's 2012 and you've got voicemail on your phone. if it's about "getting back with you" she'll make a very clear and determined effort to let you know. stop answering her calls, you're only enabling this drama by doing so. Yeah true, ive learned my lesson the hard way i guess
flitzanu Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Yeah true, ive learned my lesson the hard way i guess now remember that lesson and quit letting her ruin your progress 1
YorickBrown Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Doing that will only make it worse for me though wont it even though it is possible i wouldnt do it:p Hoookay...well, how do you know it will make it worse for you? (assuming, like you said that, it is possible) Have you tried it yet? Anyways, nevermind. Maybe a "hump for to get over the hump" is not really for everyone, and going NC is probably much easier for you......and I will let you in on a little secret: Break-up sex is GREAT if you can get it, Make-up sex is even BETTER...but sex-after-no-contact-for-a-long-time??!? PRICELESS! (either that, or you get chlamydia) hahaha 1
Pens55 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Dont worry dude, it usually takes a few failed attempts before youre able to make it stick. But you stood up for yourself this time and laid it down. Hopefully you feel a little liberated. Remember "I need you in my life" is total BS...if they needed you, they surely wouldnt dump you.
Author Matt145 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Dont worry dude, it usually takes a few failed attempts before youre able to make it stick. But you stood up for yourself this time and laid it down. Hopefully you feel a little liberated. Remember "I need you in my life" is total BS...if they needed you, they surely wouldnt dump you. Yeah i know it has made me feel better telling her no, in our relationship she usually got whatever she wanted and now she isnt getting what she wants.
Pens55 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Exactly, not your problem anymore. Dont let any guilt trips like "you dont care about me" get to you, because it may come. Its so hypocritical since she was the one that proved she didnt care about you. No reponse is the best way to go, but should you respond, make sure you bring up that point.
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