Phillysteaks Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 (edited) I started dating this 18yr old beauty 4yrs ago. We met at work and started hanging out. We had unprotected sex from day one. She told me of her past 3 somes and 14 past sex partners all unprotected. She hates condoms. So we continued to date and we moved into an apt within 2 months of dating eachother. We ended up falling in love deep for eachother. Issues started to arise, she was constantly all over me, insane amount of pda, constant affection, all this was great but it became clingy she would get pissed if i didnt want to chill with her or if i didnt compliment her enough or was not all over her. She told me i needed to be more into her because she was starting to think i wasnt in love with her anymore. Our arguments revolved all around this. Everything else was good, she had everything she needed. So the time comes when she turnes 21yrs old. Everything is good for a little while then she starts drinking heavy with her sister on the weekends. I had my son everyother weekend and she would go out with her slutty sister to bars and i would come pick her up after she was done drinking. During these times she would throw up in the car, grt out of car and pee on the road. When we grt home she wanted me to have sex with her even though she was passed out drunk. The drinking started to slow down a bit when i got a second job to help pay for our Hawaii trip which was going to be an engagment celebration for us. During my busy work schedule she kept going out to bars with her sister and one night she met a 35 yr old guy who wss complementing her and couldnt believe how good a girl she was being by.not talking to guys at the bar. They drank more and more snd she told him her relationship wasnt what it used to be he doesnt pay attention to me enough. They ended up kissing that day and she got his number. I found out all this after we broke up. So one day i called her when i got out of work early and she answered the phone drunk. I told hrr i can come get her and ee can go out. She yelled and said im to controling and she needed a break. Well she didnt come home for 2 Weeks. She then called me and said we need to talk. She told me its over because she wants her freedom to be single at 21 and wants to.party and pass out drunk without feeling bad. 1 week later i have lunch with her slutty sister snd she informes me the truth. She met this guy and has been staying at his house party house from day one. I confronted my ex with this info and she was pussed thatbher sister tokd me thr truth. She told me yes i have been sleeping with this nrw 35yr old guy. She has gone through 3 morning after pill boxes as he hss been Nutting in her with no protection. Just as i did when we first met. She is noe on the pill. Its been 4 months and there still together. He does get pissed at her when he doesnt know where shr is and when she comes over to my house to see our dog, take a shoeer and grab some of her things that are stil here. He has put her so high on a pedestal. He knows we have a dog togethrr so he tokd her i am going to buy you a dog and a rabbit and we are getting an apt together, she doesnt have to pay for her rent eithrr. She hss nowhere to live as her mother lives 4hrs away from.here andbher father died last yr from liver failurr due to alcohol. It appears there using eschother. She stilk tells me she care and misses me and my son and the dog. She told me she feels ****ty bout how things ended.and that she wants me to be her friend for.now and.when she gets older thrugh her drinking phase she can sed us together again. Ive now had healing time but still cant believe what happend. I know know i was into her so much because she was a 10 out of 10, insane body as she was a girl next door playmate and a crazy sex drive. Facts: Im 37 with a 9 yr old, heis 35 with a 9 yr old She jumpfrom.me 4yrs to him with no break She has never used condoms and gets confused with lust and love. She uses sex as a way to get her attention. Do you think she has mental.issues? Is she a slutt? Do.you see this nrw relationship working and for how long? When the new relationship fails will she try and get back with me? If she does try and come back in going to have sex with her as i cant help it but its stricky for please not love at this point. Lastly why does this still bother me and why do i even care? Oh yea she she blames me for her current situation. She is broke and her living situation. She said if i shapped up and focused on her more then we would still be together. Edited August 5, 2012 by Phillysteaks forgot more info.
Downtown Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Philly, welcome to the LS forum. I suggest you read my description of what it was like to live with a personality disordered woman for 15 years. It is in Rebel's thread and starts at http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/275289-crazy-i-think-but-i-love-her-anyway#post3398735. If that description sounds familiar, I would be glad to discuss it with you. Take care, Philly. 1
Author Phillysteaks Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 That thread is eary....she actes the same way.....she is helpless im assuming she will do the same thing to this new guy if he doesnt end up dumping her first. Her situation is dangerous ecause the guy seems to have some anger issues and i can see him putting the smake down physically eventually once the honeymoon phase is over and she starts showing her true colors.
TripLine Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Phil, You know why you wanted her. She was 18 you were 34. I hope you did not expect her to commit to someone at 18, she was still a child ffs. You were using her for her body the same way she was using you for security. The only bad thing for her was that she needed to act like an adult (Which she was not) to make you happy. She is a young girl that needs to fulfill her sex drive, and one guy is not enough, very understandable. Hope you learned your lesson.
Samilia Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I find her story to be sordid, to remain polite. I also find the maturity gap to be way too much. She said it herself, she wants to party and be free. You're a father and ready to be married and start a life with someone, not exactly the same goal. I don't know why you're allowing her to keep some of her stuff at your house, I don't see it as healthy for you or you son. Why do you agree to keep the situation that way? In the hope of getting her back? I sure would pack all of her stuff and ask her to come pick it up. Where she goes after that really shouldn't be any of your concerns, she has a sister, she's 21, worst case scenario she can get a job like all of us. Staying in touch with the sister and getting all the fresh "news" of what she's been up to is not helping you move on, it makes me think about a highschool drama, but she's fresh out of highshchool, that's probably why. Word of advice, since that's why you're here, cut contact with her, find yourself someone with the same life goals, that you will be on the same page with.
veggirl Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Phil, You know why you wanted her. She was 18 you were 34. I hope you did not expect her to commit to someone at 18, she was still a child ffs. You were using her for her body the same way she was using you for security. The only bad thing for her was that she needed to act like an adult (Which she was not) to make you happy. She is a young girl that needs to fulfill her sex drive, and one guy is not enough, very understandable. Hope you learned your lesson. SERIOUSLY. 18 and 34, what did you expect? Daddy issues anywhere? I am guessing she has some? So she clung to an older man and you were more than happy to have a TEENAGE dimepiece on your arm. It's pretty twisted on both ends tbh. 1
TripLine Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I also feel sorry for the boy. I would not want a mother in law less only 10 years older. If she is as hot as you say, your son will be hot for the step-mom when he hits puberty. Think about that. 1
Author Phillysteaks Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 I would understand the idea of her wanting to single but that coukdnt be further fron the truth and to what she is foing. She is living with a guy almost my age also with a 9 yr old.kid. So she went from me of 4yrs living with me to another gu, y exact replica of me. S
Samilia Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I would understand the idea of her wanting to single but that coukdnt be further fron the truth and to what she is foing. She is living with a guy almost my age also with a 9 yr old.kid. So she went from me of 4yrs living with me to another gu, y exact replica of me. S Repeat pattern far from the truth?... ahem.
Author Phillysteaks Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Lol.....yea agreed, she is going to.be a repeat offender. Cant believe i feel.in love with a loser and a user, was blinded by the vagina as is this guy. She is going to be used goods by the time she wakes up and realizes what she is doing to.her life.
Samilia Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Lol.....yea agreed, she is going to.be a repeat offender. Cant believe i feel.in love with a loser and a user, was blinded by the vagina as is this guy. She is going to be used goods by the time she wakes up and realizes what she is doing to.her life. Probably, alcohol really isn't the best way to stay young either.
Gulf-Delta Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 You expected a girl to be committed to you after hearing she had 14 partners...
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