StrangeBehaviors Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 The quick answer is no. All factors involved that made relationships more likely to last have been removed. That's why husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends cheat. Why girlfriends get "bored" or don't "feel" the same towards a 1yr+ relationship. Why divorces are the common and accepted social norm now. Why single parenthood is the common and accepted norm as well. Why there are so many day care facilities. On and on and on.....The answer is no.
sally4sara Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I've had a hell of a relationship and brake up in the last 6 years of my life and am an extremely loyal and committed guy so It's hard for me to hear people talking out of their asses. Recently I keep hearing people around me (mostly women in relationships) mention how "people dont get married as much but stick it out in relationships more than ever before". Really? Sounds like bulls**t to me. I know very few people who "stick it out" in relationships nowadays. In fact, i see people break up over the stupidest issues. This angered me because i mostly hear this from people who have been in long relationships that are pretty crappy themselves. Also, if the statistic is true, it doesn't necessarily mean that people who "stick it out" are happy. I know MANY who cheat on their partner while they are "sticking it out". I haven't had such luck. Women who stick it out seem to be hard to find. Plus, is being in a relationship all about tolerating the other person long enough? This whole thing is nonsense. I think its due to some people who tried to stick it out that when it blows up for good they wish they had gotten out sooner Or the people we have known who were in a tough relationship spot yet kept trying end up regretting the time wasted. And we can look to our older generations, the crap marriages kept secret so long that people only look to how long a couple were together to judge whether the relationship was a success - their children know it was not a successful marriage just because they didn't divorce. But no one wants to spoil a carefully planned 50th wedding anniversary party by bring up the time when dad smacked mom at the dinner table or when they came home to see the milk man leaving and mom was wearing her bathrobe at 3 in the afternoon instead of her usual clothes. Those situations are the icy finger on people's spines when a relationship begins to show strain. They don't want to have that life or regret the years lost so they jump ship quickly. Sometimes too quickly out of fear. I think marriage is gaining new ground though because less people are thinking of it as an automatic step in life. They are waiting; being smarter about who they partner up with and making sure they are compatible rather than just love juiced up and pressured by family to do the whole "grow up and settle down already".
Author Tree_Salmon Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 I think marriage is gaining new ground though because less people are thinking of it as an automatic step in life. They are waiting; being smarter about who they partner up with and making sure they are compatible rather than just love juiced up and pressured by family to do the whole "grow up and settle down already". I'm not too sure about this. People are using marriage as a tool to fix their already failing relationships now. To be honest I don't think I even want to get married anymore.
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