Jake micheals Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Does anybody have any tips on how to get over my Ex-girlfriend of 9 months? She lives in the same complex and has the exact same friends as I do. I feel so bad when I see her having fun with out me. I even get jealous when I see her with my friends. I don't know what to do. I want to get over her so bad.
hurtingandconfused Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Make new friends, when you see her go inside your house/apartment. When you ignore her don't make it too obvious. And lastly stop thinking about her.
Nozmo Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Dear Jake, I know what you're going through. My high school sweetheart got back together 9 mos. ago, and after living together for that long just "walked out" during a fight a month ago. Yes, we shared the same friends, were from the same small town, so seeing someone he knows a lot is painful. Here is what has helped me "deal" with the situation, so I hope it helps you, too. *I pray, A LOT! If you're not into that, I've read a lot of self help books and articles on how to improve MYSELF and put MYSELF first (this has done me a lot of good! I'm trying to eat healthier, exercise more, just become a better person.) *I do NOT sit at home and have "pity parties" for myself. Tell your friends/colleagues to let you know when they do something social and let them know you're interested in hanging out with them. I told my friends about my breakup, and my co-workers, and I have been invited to do SO many things because I showed an interest. Yes, it's hard as hell getting ready to out when that's the LAST thing you want to do, but I promise you'll have a good time. *If you run into one of ya'll's mutual friends, kill them with KINDNESS! Smile, even if you're dying inside, smile your ass off. If these friends ask if you've talked to your ex, just reply "No" with that same great smile and say you've been too busy to really talk to anyone. I ran into my ex's best friend the other day and even though I was on my way home, I was WAY too busy to talk about the ex and just HAD to go because I was just SO busy. When your ex sees you're not sitting at home pining over them, it will be THEM to do the reconsidering, not you. *Get on the Internet, read books, rent movies, just do WHATEVER possible to keep you busy. I've cleaned, rearranged, threw away, etc. my whole apartment just to keep myself occupied. It also relieves stress. *Get rid of any phone numbers/email addresses/etc. that may tempt you to contact the ex. I did this and it really cuts down on the temptation. *Be strong, and let me know how it works out. Nozmo
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