Ani9000 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 My friend and I were talking last night how after a break up we go through similar stages of grief that people go through after the death of a loved one. The stages are: 1. Denial 2. Anger 3. Bargaining 4. Depression 5. Acceptance What stage do you think you are on? Personally, I think I'm on bargaining. Not bargaining with my ex but bargaining with myself saying if only I did this then we would still be together. But i am slowly getting out of this stage and I hope I will reach acceptance soon.
TaraMaiden Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 breaking up is exactly like grieving... and these stages are not always in this order.... but what hurts most, is that the object of our affection, is still very much alive - both somewhere else, as well as in our hearts....
Matt145 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 When i first broke up i went in to denial then depression and bargaining at the same time. But now i have gone out of bargaining and just depression it is for me now. These stages arent always in the right order, and u can be in 2 stages at once because i was.
KatZee Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I went through the denial, bargaining, and depression all in the same period of time, not individually. I just recently came out of the anger stage which lasted a little over a month, now I look at my ex like he's the biggest joke on the planet, and I feel really sorry for him. I'm not sure what stage that is. Acceptance?
blue_jay_bird Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I still have hope we will fix things, i guess im still in bargaining/ denial.
Matt145 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I still have hope we will fix things, i guess im still in bargaining/ denial. If you feel like you can fix things and have hope of her coming back ur still in denial. But you need to just accept that its over for good otherwise u cant move on, even tho it may not be u still have to accept it.
Fitnerd Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I went through the denial, bargaining, and depression all in the same period of time, not individually. I just recently came out of the anger stage which lasted a little over a month, now I look at my ex like he's the biggest joke on the planet, and I feel really sorry for him. I'm not sure what stage that is. Acceptance? Damn KatZee, I envy you, I wish I could get over my "ex" like this... She did everything wrong and I still don't blame her or hate her... I don't know which stage that is, but I have no hope of her coming back...
chrisusarmy2005 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I would say that I'm in denial still and anger and moving on I've been getting out there but my heart still aches we were together for 4 yrs and she broke up with me because I'm not the smallest guy I would say that I'm in a few stages some days are good some days are bad
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 uhm lets see.... first 2 weeks it was all was Denial cuz i was in shock from it all Now that's been over a month, im starting to experiences Anger, Bargaining, & Depression all at once.
lovehurts82 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I've been apart from my ex for.. a little over a week now. I'd say I'm still going through all but the acceptance right now. Anger kicked in yesterday when I found out after a week of us being apart, he's announced on Facebook he's engaged to another girl. I can't help but wonder if I had done things different if he would have stuck around.. I'm hurt.. angry.. sad.. feel bad for him.. want him back (though I KNOW I'm better off without him) It's sooo hard. After 7 years of dreaming about our future.. 2-3 years of being together. I'm hoping that his news will at least help me to move on and remember I deserve better.
Floored Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Every week seems to be a cycle of them. I'll start off kind of depressed, start to bargain and then just get really angry. Perhaps I'm just stuck in shock and haven't truly experienced any of it, like these are all mini episodes within shock and I haven't gone anywhere. Acceptance seems like a foreign word, how can I accept that this has happened? I can accept that she was horrible I suppose. /angry
Dreamless Sleep Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 It's reassuring to hear others cycling through all these. I might spend part of my day in all 5 phases. I've been separated for 3 months with a solid 18 months that we should have been apart. It's tough to put what amounts to more than half of my life into the history books. Blah
jmjacobs31 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I think I am in bargaining and depression.... maybe a little denial. I often wish he wanted me back, but only in my perfect world where he would go to IC and I would continue my IC and we would then go to CC together. I know that this is not even an option though, there is no way he would go to counseling. I know its not possible but I wish i would happen. I also spend half my day sad and randomly cry because I miss him so much. I do know I am way better then where I was 3 months ago.
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