lovehurts5 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Sooo I'be been broken up with my ex for 3 months now and we were together for 4 years. It has been 2 months NC and I still think about him every second of everyday. So clearly I'm not over him.. I'm also not looking to jump into another relationship right away because my heart and head need time to heal. But here's the thing.... There is this guy that really really likes me a lot, we've kissed twice, but he's not generally my type. He doesn't know my background or that I just got out of a long relationship and im scared he wants more but I'm not ready to give my love to someone else yet....... I'm from NY and he asked me to go to a friends wedding with him in San Diego from Thursday-Sunday and to let him know by today.. I just met the kid and don't want to fly across the country with him just yet. I feel really bad tho... I'm so bad at turning people down. How do i do it in the nicest way possible?
KatZee Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Sooo I'be been broken up with my ex for 3 months now and we were together for 4 years. It has been 2 months NC and I still think about him every second of everyday. So clearly I'm not over him.. I'm also not looking to jump into another relationship right away because my heart and head need time to heal. But here's the thing.... There is this guy that really really likes me a lot, we've kissed twice, but he's not generally my type. He doesn't know my background or that I just got out of a long relationship and im scared he wants more but I'm not ready to give my love to someone else yet....... I'm from NY and he asked me to go to a friends wedding with him in San Diego from Thursday-Sunday and to let him know by today.. I just met the kid and don't want to fly across the country with him just yet. I feel really bad tho... I'm so bad at turning people down. How do i do it in the nicest way possible? Tell him that some family obligation came up and you're unable to go. You don't have to say it's because your heart is broken or anything... just say your family is getting together and you have to go to that and that you'll catch up with him when he gets back... obviously also tell him you're extremely sorry and hope he has a great time. I used to have a hard time saying no as well... but I realized you gotta watch out for yourself first even if it means a few white lies. I'm kind of in that situation now. I'm not in love with my ex anymore, but the second I became single I literally had and still have 4-5 guys trying to date me right now. It's not that my heart is with my ex but seriously I need to be single right now lol... and they're all taking me out to dinner (all paid for!!) obviously trying to date me or get more and I can see right through it. Eventually they're going to want more, and I'm totally not trying to do that right now lol. I'm starting to feel bad for cashing in on all these dates... and if/when the time comes that they start asking for more it's gonna be rough lol.
TaraMaiden Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Sooo I'be been broken up with my ex for 3 months now and we were together for 4 years. It has been 2 months NC and I still think about him every second of everyday. So clearly I'm not over him.. I'm also not looking to jump into another relationship right away because my heart and head need time to heal. But here's the thing.... There is this guy that really really likes me a lot, we've kissed twice, but he's not generally my type. He doesn't know my background or that I just got out of a long relationship and im scared he wants more but I'm not ready to give my love to someone else yet....... I'm from NY and he asked me to go to a friends wedding with him in San Diego from Thursday-Sunday and to let him know by today.. I just met the kid and don't want to fly across the country with him just yet. I feel really bad tho... I'm so bad at turning people down. How do i do it in the nicest way possible? Here, send him this: "No, I couldn't possibly go to a complete stranger's wedding with you - I really hardly know you, and I don't think these occasions are the best for getting to know one another better - besides, I wouldn't know anyone, and I have to consider that they probably would find it odd having a friend of theirs bring a complete unknown to the party. But it was wonderful of you to ask.... maybe another time...."
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