He's a Commitment Phobe, a People Pleaser and a Heartbreaker!

[Joystick]

I have loved a man for 5 years. We went out for 2 of those years and he smashed my heart into a million tiny pieces that I will never be able to put back together. Yet I still love him, and regard him as one of my best friends. He has remained friends with every single one of his exes, despite cheating on all of them and leading them all down a similiar path of depression and desperation.

 

He is good looking and intelligent, but above all so charismatic he draws everyone within sight towards him. He is a player, a classic commitment phobe and the biggest people pleaser I know. He cannot stand to have anyone dislike him, and despite all the selfish, thoughtless, and cruel things that he does, no one has a bad word to say about him, so desperate they are for his attention.

 

He completely broke me down with his philandering, lying, manipulative ways and yet I cannot turn away. I don't sleep with him (which believe me, is the most difficult thing in the world not to do), but he still holds so much power over me that no other guy I have since dated has even a tenth of his magnetism or can keep me interested.

 

I feel like I am stuck in a cycle that is taking me nowhere. Does this guy sound familiar to any of you? I am sick of living for him. Does anyone know how I can escape?

[lydiamarie]

apparently being friends with him isn't working for you-i can't see what you're getting out of it. i think you would do well to cut off all contact with him-don't even listen if people try to tell you what is going on in his life.