jayy23 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 So I was out on Friday with some friends and was having a good night until I ended up at someone's house and ended up kissing and more with a 34 year old woman I'm 24 before that happened she was asking me about my ex a lot why she left me and stuff so all that was in my head was my ex and I was really really drunk then she just started kissing me and so on I just kinda went with the flow but the whole time I was just thinking about my ex I would look at her face then think why am I doing this then close my eyes and just imagine my ex gf and let's face it the woman wasn't nice looking so thinking about the ex is the only thing that was helping lol. But now I really wish it didn't happen I feel like iv cheated or something even tho I'm single. I really wanna speak to the ex now but I'm not goina break nc it's only been 28days since the last time I spoke to the ex.
TaraMaiden Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 ....and BREATHE...... (You really should punctuate!) Really - you need to relax. If your ex- is your ex- you're allowed to see other people - but if you're still hung-up on her, then obviously, you need more time to heal. Take it easy, and don't beat up on yourself. I dare say your ex- doesn't give a damn about what she's doing....
dannykeyz831 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I know exactly how you feel. I went balls deep soon after I had broken up with my ex gf and felt so guilty afterwards but guess what? she admitted to having sex herself. What I'm trying to say is don't feel guilty because you are not in a relationship with her anymore and also because she might be doing the same thing.
Author jayy23 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 I know exactly how you feel. I went balls deep soon after I had broken up with my ex gf and felt so guilty afterwards but guess what? she admitted to having sex herself. What I'm trying to say is don't feel guilty because you are not in a relationship with her anymore and also because she might be doing the same thing. It's not even like it's really soon after she finished me it's been 4months so I don't know why I feel bad. Last time I spoke to the ex I asked her if she had been with anyone since she finished with me and she told me that she has not been with anyone not even kissed anyone one of the reasons for her leaving was because she wants to be on her own and not be with anyone but she could be talking sh*t.
dannykeyz831 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Ya she could just be bullshi***** you You know what I've learned about post-breakups is too always expect the worst so if and when you find out she's been seeing someone or sleeping with them, you won't feel that bad. Man you really must be in love with her to feel guilty after 4 months.
TaraMaiden Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 It doesn't matter what she does, who she's with and what she chooses to do. She isn't any of your business - any more - you have no right asking her that, because she's no longer part of your life. and you're not part of hers. Read the no Contact Guide in my signature, and live on that format for a while. 4 months? 4 months is nothing. give yourself the time you need to heal, but forget about what's going on with her, being any of your business, or your life being hers.
Author jayy23 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 Ya she could just be bullshi***** you You know what I've learned about post-breakups is too always expect the worst so if and when you find out she's been seeing someone or sleeping with them, you won't feel that bad. Man you really must be in love with her to feel guilty after 4 months. Yeah man as stupid and cheezy as it sounds I would do anything to get her back. Just now I don't feel like anyone else could ever take her place.
Author jayy23 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 It doesn't matter what she does, who she's with and what she chooses to do. She isn't any of your business - any more - you have no right asking her that, because she's no longer part of your life. and you're not part of hers. Read the no Contact Guide in my signature, and live on that format for a while. 4 months? 4 months is nothing. give yourself the time you need to heal, but forget about what's going on with her, being any of your business, or your life being hers. Yeah it's not my business what she does any more but she has told me she still wants to be a part of my life but for now we both need time apart to get over each other then we can start meeting up when we both feel ready.
TaraMaiden Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 She cannot be a part of your life, while there are still strong feelings and high emotions. The only time you two should ever interact again, is when you are both amiably indifferent to what the other is doing. She's in the arms of another man, and pregnant by his child? You should feel nothing. you're in the arms of another woman, and she's pregnant by your child? She should feel nothing. Until such a time - you need to sever all contact - for your own sake. Read the Caliguy guide in my signature - hundreds on here will attest to how effective it is - but only if you 100% stick to it - 100% of the time. Do it. or you'll drive yourself insane.
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