KatZee Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 You are just not giving me any hope are you? this is why you're not moving on. this is why you're struggling. this is why your weekends are godawful. this is why you continue to stalk his current girlfriend on FB. you don't NEED or WANT hope right now. Tara Maiden is trying to give you the truth here. He left you for someone else. You need to stop listening to what he "said" to you and look at what his actions are. He's saying he loves you... OK... so why isn't he with you? Why is he with a new girl? That's because he's not in love with you. He doesn't want to be with you. His head and heart is elsewhere right now, even if it IS a rebound. And then where is your dignity and respect IF he comes crawling back? After he's had sex, been intimate, been seeing this girl, having this girl around his friends/family... he's already made a fool of you. Beyond a shadow of a doubt. How can you even go back knowing he made a fool of you and that everyone else knows he made a fool of you? If he comes back it's because he wants the fall back of the comfort and reliability of the ex. Something was missing for him to leave in the first place...
Author Car10e Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 this is why you're not moving on. this is why you're struggling. this is why your weekends are godawful. this is why you continue to stalk his current girlfriend on FB. you don't NEED or WANT hope right now. Tara Maiden is trying to give you the truth here. He left you for someone else. You need to stop listening to what he "said" to you and look at what his actions are. He's saying he loves you... OK... so why isn't he with you? Why is he with a new girl? That's because he's not in love with you. He doesn't want to be with you. His head and heart is elsewhere right now, even if it IS a rebound. And then where is your dignity and respect IF he comes crawling back? After he's had sex, been intimate, been seeing this girl, having this girl around his friends/family... he's already made a fool of you. Beyond a shadow of a doubt. How can you even go back knowing he made a fool of you and that everyone else knows he made a fool of you? If he comes back it's because he wants the fall back of the comfort and reliability of the ex. Something was missing for him to leave in the first place... Idk if you have read anything what Danny has said. But he has seemed to get everything spot on. Its good to hear from a guys perspective. Thats right he doesn't want to be with me, but you can't say he doesn't still love me. I am not stalking him or her, I have friends who are friends with her and. And if I'm correct you were doing the same thing to your ex? I could be wrong, I'm too lazy to check.
Author Car10e Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 Don't take offense on what I'm about to say but your ex bf is a selfish bastard. You said it best about him always wanting to take the easy route. Living with his mom and doing everything for him? I'm not even sure if you should be with someone who can't even motivate themselves. He's sound like the needy type which is why he dumped you to be with this girl. She offered him attention..something that you couldn't really give because of work and school and accepted because he was too dam lazy to try to fix your relationship. The more you talk about him the more I'm starting to hate him I don't even think he's worthy of you. He'll be lucky to get a second chance with you. I know this is irrelevant to this topic but are where you talking about nhl hockey tickets? I'm a big fan! Yeah I know. Thats what I mean, he has gained a douchebag reputation through all of this. And I do hate him for all of this, but I forgot to mention he left me because he didn't think he could make me happy anymore. Its not that we fought a lot, but I just started getting bored I guess. Whenever we would come home from school, he would ask me to stay and I would say im tired I just want to go home. Just a bunch of stuff like that. I can see how stuff like that makes him feel I don't want to be with him. Before we broke up, we talked about moving forward as individuals. He said he wanted to get a full time job this month since he only has one class to finish, then hes done with school. He talked about how he wants to move out within the next year. He wants to be married in 4 years. So I know he realizes hes behind, I can tell he wants to move forward with those things. He wants to take steps to move forward, and I wish I could tell him he just moved 10 steps back. We have Ducks season tickets, so we will see how this all plays out haha.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 has anyone ever jumped into another relationship right after another? Just wondering because my ex has been dating someone literally the week after we broke up. We dated for 4 1/2 years, so its hard for me still to do stuff without thinking of him. We have done so much together and everything seems to remind me of him. I find it hard for him to just forget me like that, even while on a date with someone else. He even takes her all the places he took me. I guess my question is, has anyone dated someone right after a break up and still had thoughts of their ex while on a date? holy $hit story of my life WELL FOR THE MOST PART...you're not alone hun
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