joystickd Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I have been reading a book called Semantics and Scenarios by Alan Roger Currie. It made me think about some things. 1. He mentioned that on some level women want men to lie to them about their desires. How women would you feel if a man approached you and said "The only reason I'm conversing with you is because I want a blowjob from you. Are you game?"? Would you feel offended or insulted in some way? 2. The biggest reason for game playing between the sexes is because of things we want from each other but are dreadfully afraid to ask. What exactly are your thoughts on these two statements? Is it easier in some situations to lie? Do you get angrier when someone is straight forward and honest with you or when someone either omits information or tells a small lie? Why if you want honesty do you as a person choose to lie to someone?
RedRobin Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 (edited) 1. He mentioned that on some level women want men to lie to them about their desires. How women would you feel if a man approached you and said "The only reason I'm conversing with you is because I want a blowjob from you. Are you game?"? Would you feel offended or insulted in some way? I'd laugh and then say something obnoxious to make him go away... The possibilities are endless. Or I'd just laugh and walk away. I wouldn't be offended or insulted. 2. The biggest reason for game playing between the sexes is because of things we want from each other but are dreadfully afraid to ask. naah... 'game playing' is done by people who want something for nothing (liars), don't know themselves very well (not self-aware, and so don't know they are lying), or are insecure (says what they think others want to hear in order to be loved or accepted). Is it easier in some situations to lie? Sure, in the short term, it probably is. But payback and karma can be a b*tch. Not a good idea. Edited August 5, 2012 by RedRobin
iris219 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 You seem to be talking about what happens when people want different things (or think the other wants something different). It’s important to be clear about what you want. If the other person is offended or turned off, it’s better you found out early. I’m looking for a man who wants the same things as I do. I would appreciate the guy who was honest about only wanting a blowjob so that I could run away quickly. Being honest means we could move on and find what we’re both looking for instead of wasting each other's time.
Leopard Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I think this author has no idea what he is talking about.
Pasttense Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 If a guy is only interested in getting blowjobs I think it would be much more cost effective for him to go to prostitutes.
Author joystickd Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 If a guy is only interested in getting blowjobs I think it would be much more cost effective for him to go to prostitutes. It was an example.
Lonely Ronin Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 It was an example. Perhaps next time you might consider a more subtle example.
Author joystickd Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Perhaps next time you might consider a more subtle example. That was the example in the book.
veggirl Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I think #2 is probably more true than not. I mean we see it on LS all the time, people who are too scared to ask for committment is what jumps immediately to mind. So instead they surpress their wants (I'd consider that game playing) and bide their time hoping they will get what they want from some method other than actually being open about it. 1
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