Cd2411 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Hi All - hoping for some advice. I am one year post break up and cannot seem to forget this guy. I would say that I am still depressed about the loss. I have done all suggestions after reading what feels like millions of website...get new hobbies, keep busy, work on you, go out with girlfriends,etc. nothing seems to help. Not to get into the details of the relationship too much, but he wasn't emotionally faithful and it ended badly, but was once amazing. We had a beautiful thing. I have never loved anyone more and really wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I don't know what else to do, I am at my wits end and just want to be over it, stop being sad and find someone who treats me the way I deserve to be treated. I can tell myself what a jerk he is, rehash all the bad things but nothing helps. To make it worse, we work for the same company and now we both may be transferring to the same department. If I get the job I obviously wont let him stand in the way of my dreams, but I just want to move on and let go of the love, hurt and pain. Any thoughts? Hw did you guys move on once and for all?
Ruby65 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 First of all, you have to really WANT TO move on. How attached are you to your role as a victim here? Do you want to be happy? Are you ready to meet the REAL love of your life and get over this pathetic cheating loser from your past? The way you describe him, it sounds like you're not ready to walk away from the Fairy Tale you've created about who you thought he was in the beginning -- before he started cheating and his TRUE nature was revealed..... I've dated guys who were emotionally unfaithful -- and believe me, there's usually WAY WAY more to it than that. You need to stop idealizing this creep once and for all and find some positivity in your life!!! How are you going to attract anyone new when you're still mourning the loss of a pretend "perfect" guy? It's time to drop the fiction and get REAL!
Author Cd2411 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Thanks Ruby. All valid and great points. He ended the relationship
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