YoungGuy Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 WARNING VERY LONG POST IF YOU READ ALL OF THIS THEN YOU ARE WORTH A GOLD MEDAL. (NO really..) Not sure if I should post this here, so if any moderator thinks this is the wrong section, sorry and go ahead and move it. Soo yeah.. I am not on this site that much, only when I feel like I need to talk something off or ask advice... I've only posted something here once, I will give you the link to that thread so that you may read it, it may be a little relevant to this topic.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/331320-unsure#post4059375 (I had just found this forum, posted it and only got one reply so I thought that it was an inactive forum or something...) Anyway, so yeah, if you read that thread about how I am 15 years old and I got rejected by a girl I had a crush on and that I have probably never liked anyone as her, you know that story. Well... a couple of days after I got rejected by that girl, another girl, started talking to me, and we had a good conversation about 4 hours long in total. I liked this girl a bit but I had no intentions of going further with her, and I was pretty sure she only liked me as a friend (not to mention how my confidence dropped after that rejection where this was the case...) so I just tried to be friendly when we chatted and I gave her some innocent compliments on some of her photos for instance. She reacted well to those compliments, and gave compliments back. One thing lead to another, and suddenly she dropped a big hint : "It would be nice to meet up face to face and talk sometime :)" I asked her, "what you mean like a date?" she said : "well yeah" and so I thought why not give it a shot, because she was easily one of the most beautiful girls on that camp (where I met the girl whom I got rejected by.) We kept talking and talking alot, and we were basically flirting constantly and getting to know eachother. In 4 days we chatted maybe for a total of 19 hours, with some breaks, but really almost nonstop. Everything was going good, she had told me she had a big crush on me at the camp and so on... Well, the date was getting closer, we had agreed to meet up at the city, and before that we were basically already faling for eachother, and she kept tweeting stuff like "To be in love is the best feeling in the world<333" etc. Oh and we had also texted ALOT. Anyway, when we had the date, it was really great, we talked alot, but she is a little shy so there were some "awkward silences", but nothing we couldn't pass through. So we both had a great time, we held eachother and got fysical pretty early, she responded well to everything I did and she seemed to like me alot. She had told me that we should kiss before the date is over, and I agreed. So when the date was coming to an end (and trust me it was close to perfect.) she walked me to the bus station, and we sat on a bench there (Yes I know not a very good spot...) anyway, and well, we kissed. It was kind of weird because she had never kissed anyone before and I had only kissed 1 other girl, nothing serious and just a quick lip touch basically, so we both didn't quite know how to kiss, well, we kissed and she kind of stuck her tongue in my mouth it felt like, I didn't mind though so it was more like a tongue kiss or making out than a first romantic kiss. We kissed a couple of times, until I had to go and she said she had a great time. When I got home however I receive a text saying that she thought the kisses were very uncomfortable and that she regrets not telling me there. We talked about it and so on, and I said "Next time I'll kiss better ;)" and she said "we both will )" Anyway later on facebook, she started talking to me, and she said she has been thinking alot about how she thinks she wouldn't have a boyfriend who lives so far away (110 km approx.) and we talked alot about it and she said she doesn't know if she likes me or not only after a first date. And well she basically broke up. She wanted to "be like best friends" and see how things go. I agreed and thought I will back off and give her some time to think. So I gave her some time, about 2 weeks, under which I still talked to her alot and it kind of was on a flirty level but not even nearly as much as before. However I asked her sometimes, if she liked me or think we will ever be able to become anything more than friends, and she said that she thinks she likes me alot etc... This went on for 2 and a half week, until I just couldn't take it anymore, she was constantly changing her mind : " I like you ", "I don't know if I like you"... and so on. So I told her that we can't keep on like this.. I told her we cannot be anything more than friends and that I don't think I can be so good friends with her. But yeah we agreed to be "friends"... This is where the fun begins... About 3 days after I "broke up" with her, I noticed that she isn't "following" me on twitter anymore, and that I had been removed as her "follower". I was wondering what it was about, and I went on her twitter profile and saw that it said "Only confirmed followers of this person can read her "tweets"." I thought it was strange, but didn't mind it as I had moved on already. 2 days after that, I was bored, not really doing much, so I google'd what that twitter message that appeared meant, and to my surprise I found that it means she had blocked me from twitter. I got surprised and of course curious, so I made a 2nd twitter account to check what the fuzz was about. I read through some of her tweets and found that 10 minutes before she blocked me, she "tweeted": "when I think about my old bf I just want to puke...why is it like this?..k,nvzskvnjldfb..my feelings dslvnj<dvnj<kdöj :P" It's often that she tweets about whatever is on her mind, but I got very surprised and almost angry and annoyed at the same time.. did she decide to like me now again? A part of me got a little happy, but mostly I just laughed at that tweet. Also after that tweet, someone asked her how she was doing she said: "well I can't lie WHEN I SEE A PIC OF MY OLD BF IT JUST MAKES ME WANNA PUKE......n u? ;)" And with that, I think she meant that I had been on a reunion (with most of the girls and some guys from the camp I had been to) and the girl I got rejected by, who I also am trying to be "friends" with, took a picture of me and uploaded it to fb, and I think that's the picture she's referring to. Worth to mention is that I at the moment, don't have a crush on any of those girls, but I kind of like another girl who I've talked a bit with, and it's just crazy how many problems I have right now... I don't know whether or not I should keep talking to her because I don't know if she likes me, and the girl who I broke up with suddenly likes me again? I don't know how to deal with it all. The worst thing is that the girl I dated asks me to get back together, I would probably say yes, because I still like her but not nearly as much as before and I don't think I have a crush on her anymore. I really have no idea what I want advice on either. And I doubt anyone would EVER read such a long post, I apologize. So I will just ask a few questions that I am mainly concerned and wonder about girls (mostly in my age, 15...) I am very confused and annoyed by all this girl trouble I've had this summer haha... Questions to girls (or guys who can answer them) : 1. Is it normal for girls to be this confused, to "have a big crush on you" and then "not know if they like you" because that's really annoying me. 2. The girl who rejected me flirted with me tremendously, do girls do that alot without intentions of being anything more than friends..? 3. On the last day of camp, we had a thing where everyone wrote something nice and what they thought about a person on a paper, the person would later take this paper home. The girl I got rejected by after camp wrote: "suuuper nice and cute, I'm glad someone laughs at my jokes ... ;)" Would you girls call someone you've known for 2 weeks "suuuper cute" if you only liked them as a friend? 4. The girl I like a little right now, wrote that I was : "The girlcharmer of camp who is really nice and talkative :)" My question is, is being a "girlcharmer" a positive thing, and I find it hard to believe that anyone who doesn't feel attracted to one atleast a bit would say someone is a girlcharmer. Especially as another girl who I know had a big crush on me (a friend of who I dated) wrote that I was a really cute girlcharmer. 5. Is massaging a girl my age NOT related to anything flirtatious? Because if so, I will rip my eye balls out. After all those experiences, I have now gained a little confidence but still lost soo much when it comes to girls and knowing if a girl likes you. I'm sorry for the pain I put you through if you actually read all of this, I feel your pain really. You must've atleast found it amusing to read how many problems I have :DD because I can tell you this is only half the story, or 1/3 of the story. If you want to comment anything, whether it's the answer to one of those questions or something related to the post about WHAT I SHOULD DO? My options: 1. Get back together with the girl I dated if things go well.... ( I really don't want to so .... but still I do, I have no idea.) 2. Talk more to the girl I like now, who I am kind of good friends with, but I don't speak to her as much since she isn't on facebook alot anymore, so maybe I should try to get her number and text her once in a while...? I like this girl alot. 3. Really just forget about all girls and go forever alone playing videogames 24/7 to forget the pain (I wouldn't want this... heheheheh.........) Sorry once again! Regards.
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