Jaf15 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Hello Ls, I have shared my story here before, basically I am almost 4 months out of a long term relationship. I am 20, and my ex gf who dumped me was 19. I wonder sometimes if I am not progressing as well as I should… I find myself still thinking everyday what she is up too, who she is talking too, and if she has another guy in her life. We have been NC for the whole time basically besides me reaching out to her once( I regret it) and me reaching out through one of her friends which I never heard about. It makes me sick thinking I acted like such a bi***. Just venting I suppose, any thoughts or advice I would appreciate. Only positive I can get from this break up is me hitting the gym and losing 40.
Dblock10 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 bad things are temporary good things will prevail and last, this temporary pain wont last, your 20.. you will get another gf, better looking than your ex better suited to you. yeah we all act like that once and regret it, i learnt it from breaking up with my first gf, i made all the classic mistakes. but you wont repeat them and your deal with the next one much better
Author Jaf15 Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 Thanks for the wise words dblock, that's what I'm told by everyone. I just am sick of her and this being on my mind all the time. We dated 3 years and she was my first everything. I just wish I could go back in time and handle the situation different and leave with the upper hand. I really need to learn how to be happy without her or any other girl in my life. I must say I have learned more these past few months about myself and my downfalls then I have in my life.
Canadian731 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 The way I look at these things is, this was a learning experience for you so next time when you meet a nicer prettier girl you won't make the same stupid mistakes, 2months into break up 1 1/2 NC 40lbs of fat lost 12lbs of muscle gained. Keep hitting the gym and everything will be good. Things will fall into place for you man.
Dblock10 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 why did u break up? yeah i remember being in your shoes 5 years ago. its hard. one thing i would say is if you can be happy being on your own and not needing a girl then you are on the right track. dont do what i did and look for the next girl to make you happy, as that never works, i mean it works, but it doesn't last. i now have a current ex and i realise that i need to find happiness on my own. not to rely on something or someone to give it to me
Author Jaf15 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 Nice Canadian! Good progress, and dblock we broke up basically because we would argue a lot, and when I got made I would yell, I know I was wrong, but it was 2 sided, she wanted to give it another go a few days after nc but her parents got involved and said therapy was a must for us, so I know I had to say no. My parents where pissed because it was so blown so of proportion.
KatZee Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 why did u break up? yeah i remember being in your shoes 5 years ago. its hard. one thing i would say is if you can be happy being on your own and not needing a girl then you are on the right track. dont do what i did and look for the next girl to make you happy, as that never works, i mean it works, but it doesn't last. i now have a current ex and i realise that i need to find happiness on my own. not to rely on something or someone to give it to me This is my ex to a T. He's the one that broke up with me, but it's because he would rather run to something new with no issues, than to work on a relationship and strengthen it. Just 1-2 months after we broke up... he's seeing another girl. She looks like me. I know he's rebounding. As quickly as it started, it's now over. It lasted a month. I know he's incapable of being alone. He's way too insecure and he's way too scared to face his own demons. He always needs some sort of distraction, an escape. It's good that you realized this about yourself and now remain single. My ex on the other hand has learned nothing from his ex before me, nor has he learned a thing from me. He avoids and avoids... I kind of pity him...
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