andymb79 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 My ex girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. We have split up 3 times over the past 4 years, always by her. We've been back together for about 2 years. We have lived together for a year and a have. We talked about getting married and starting a family. Oh Yeah, Im in my lower 30's and she's in her upper 20's. She always told me she loved me I felt I was good to her. I helped with her bills when she needed it and a lot of other things. My ex had a pretty rough childhood. Her dad died in a car crash when she was 13 and her mom was never really a mom. I know she has some emotional issues which she will admit. I think that is the reason for the previous breakups which never lasted more than a few months. She takes meds but has been unable to afford them and has been off them for some time. Ill get to the point now. About 2 and a half weeks ago we had plans to hang out on my day off. She blew me off the entire day which is very strange but i've seen it before and knew what it meant. I didn't contact her after that day and neither did she. One week later was my birthday. She text me Happy Birthday at midnight and I replied thank you. I then went back to no contact. Yesterday was about a week later and I sent her a text that morning. I told her I hope she has nice day. She replied the she was having a pretty good day and that she was at the store. I said have fun and stopped texting. About two hours later, she started texting me about her new job and that her mom still had my birthday gift and wanted to give it to me. We haven't spoken since. That was yesterday. Any opinions or advise? I miss her. Will she miss me in time? Is this just one of her breakdowns or something more? The breakup was smooth. No fight or cheating. Thanks
Car10e Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Sounds like she just wants space. I would try you hardest not to contact her.
Samilia Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 I don't know if she will miss you, time will tell. Time, space, etc.. You mentioned that you guys broke up, what reason did she give?
Author andymb79 Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 Every time she broke up with me in the past she said she needed time for herself. I always gave her space no matter how hard it was.
TaraMaiden Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Wow, how Cool - !! Wish I had a guy like that - I could shove at the back of the closet when I don't need him around, them pull him out when it's convenient to me... Just hanging around, swinging on the rail, together with the other clothes I only wear twice a year.... ...See how wrong that is....? 1
KatZee Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Wow, how Cool - !! Wish I had a guy like that - I could shove at the back of the closet when I don't need him around, them pull him out when it's convenient to me... Just hanging around, swinging on the rail, together with the other clothes I only wear twice a year.... ...See how wrong that is....? Seriously... I get she has "emotional issues" but that's not an excuse for her to treat you however she feels like. And honestly after reading this, it doesn't even sound like she communicated any sort of split, she just falls off the earth for months on end? Who DOES that? If she's been on medication and is now off it, maybe she needs to get back on. However she's pulled this what? 3-4 times now? She sounds incredibly unstable and I don't see this behavior changing unless there's some sort of intervention. Do you really want to marry a woman who just picks up and leaves for months out of no where? What would happen if there were kids involved? One day they wake up and say, "where's mommy?" and she's just GONE? This whole in and out game is highly dysfunctional and it would cause significant damage to children, and you as well! How do you tolerate this?!
mike588 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 You asked ..will she miss me? If you keep responding to her texts..calls.. she won't. Best thing you can do is to just ignore her for now...disappear..let her wonder about you...what your doing..she may wonder if your seeing someone else? She knows how you feel about her so no need tell/remind her and NO Boo Hooing and looking weak...lonely..pathetic and come across that your "waiting by the phone" for her to call. Turn off!! Ignore her calls/texts for now.If she wants you she will blow up your phone and/or come looking for you.
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