lovejoy41 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) I just want to start out by saying that I am so thankful to all of you and your posts on this thread. They have really helped me get through my heartbreak. I can only give parts of the story cause it'll take yrs for me to tell it all but here it goes. I had been with my ex husband for 7yrs married for 3. I had 3 mos to get over him and I was ok because it was a marriage that I knew was over a long time ago but I was just for some dumb reason still holding onto. So, getting over him didn't take very long. My divorce had become final and 1 month later I met a wonderful guy. He was divorced, lived close to me, and had 2 children. We met, we dated, and we both understood in the beginning that we would just be friends because we didnt want to rush into anything given that we'd both come out of a divorce. Things were good for a while, he treated me like a queen and my 2 sons really liked him. 2 yrs into dating he stated he still wasn't ready to commit. 3 yrs same thing. I begin feeling like I wanted more & told him that we should part because I would want marriage and a relationship again someday but he didn't leave. Call me the fool for not walking away then. The same year he's dating some other chick and I find out she's living with him, although he's telling me the whole time that he's only helping a friend out and he's not committed to anyone. Another foolish yr later:sick:, I find out that he's taken the woman to meet his parents via her fb page which she loves to posts pics of her and him and things that they do publicly.The whole time this man had been stringing me along. I realize now that he played me. I had feelings for him, we had been sleeping together and everything. So naturally I was the one who got hurt. He had known how I felt about him sometime ago, and always would tell me that he knew how I felt and that he would never intentionally string me. He never seemed like the type that would play games. He started out sincere, kind, giving, he helped me financially, treated me to the best resturants, gave encouraging talks to my sons(ages 15&12 at the time) and seemed as if he really cared for me. As the yrs passed, i admit that I was suspect of this girl so I will at times I came off as crazy to him. Or so he said. You know how people act when they're busted and you're going off on them? Yeah, you're the one they call crazy. I would go off on him without warning because I always knew that there was more to it than what he was admitting(they call that female intuition or the GUT feeling). Anywho after finding out about her meeting his parents & 5 FOOLISH YRS of putting up with this crap I terminated the friendship. He'd cussed me and told me the day I asked him about her saying that "he didn't care about us bitches" & that she knew about his side pieces. Even said that "if you confront her she would say 1 down 4 to go!" The nerve of him! After 5 years of dating, you say this to me. I hadnt been nothing but genuine, honest, and loving to him all of this time and now Im nothing more than a side piece to you! So I went into NC. Our last date had been 7/3. He had even gotten to the point to where I would only see him once a month. So where's the loss? This happened on Jul 18th, and I broke NC twice on the 25&26 the one on the 25th was saying that I was done& the other with me just wanting a response Which sent a silly text asking about a drink that's served at the bar. I stuck to NC after that and then yesterday 8/3 he texts me the ever famous "What's up?" I was told not to reply back and I didnt. I thought hearing from him would be justice & I would feel great but it made me hurt & angry all over again. My guess is that his girl was out doing her thing, on her rag, or they probably had an argument & he was looking for "Old Reliable" to run to for comfort. Or maybe he'd thought about all that he had done&said and was trying to see if we were good since he hadnt heard from me. After all he asked me out the same nite he cursed me and I said "no thanks" something I'd never done in the past. Im taking it day by day& Ill be glad when he's fog in my brain. It's his loss. I know that one day he will realize that he lost a good woman& that the woman he is with is nothing more than a golddigger. Yeah, she's pretty, young, no children, and the type who loves the image of "the good life". Calls her self "A cash money diva". But the day when karma kicks his butt & she hurts him, he'll see how I felt when he hurt me. Any opinions are appreciated... just don't remind me of how stupid I've been wasting 5 years with this clown because I know that I was. Edited August 4, 2012 by lovejoy41
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