AwptiK Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) I've already had a really recent thread about this girl, which makes writing this thread pretty rough. I'm 21, she's 19. We started dating this most recent Monday, after around 2 months of talking. Oh, and she lives 15 minutes away. She's seemingly making less and less effort to talk, hangout, etc. Although at times she acts hot and cold too. Our issue comes down to hanging out with each other. She has really strict parents who seem to not let her out much, but I know she's done things like sneak out and such to see her past boyfriends. She hasn't snuck out for me though. (And I don't really like going against someone's parents, but she's done it for a few years already..) So, everything kind of came to a point yesterday. A day prior, she talked about hanging out on the weekend. So yesterday I asked about it, and she basically just said she was probably going to sleep all day (today). A few texts later I stated, "I don't see the point in dating someone who I can't spend time with." We moved on to talking over the phone, although she was so tired that it wasn't much of a conversation. I restated myself, she restated her strict parents, and I said I needed to see her more than once a week or it wasn't going to work. Towards the beginning of that call, she responded to my text from above by asking if we were still dating. I was somewhat bothered at how (it seemed) like a whimsical question and not a serious one. I simply said I wanted to be with her, and she responded with the same. So today comes, a few texts into this morning I told her I wanted to come by and talk. I went over, and basically when I get there, she says she's leaving in about 7-8 minutes to go to Carowinds with her sister. Needless to say, the topic made absolutely no headway, aside from her stating she doesn't want to fight over something like this all the time. She left for Carowinds, and that's all there's been. I know we just started dating, and I know once a week is pretty satisfactory for some couples...but given the distance, the availability, how much she made efforts for past guys (I know an ex of hers and have talked to him a lot)... I just don't know what to do. I don't quite know my options, besides sitting around or ending things. Keep in mind advice-wise, that at this current point in time things are slightly tense. On the side, I feel i've been slightly mean about it all..which isn't me at all, but being nice about it just isn't getting me anywhere. Thanks everyone. Edited August 4, 2012 by AwptiK
Hp1991 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 As I can relate to your situation very easily I'd like to say that more than once a week would be nice but common be reasonable once a week seems fine. I was 19 not so long ago and when I started going out with my bf it seemed that we saw each other 3-4 times a week . Yeah sure all great for the summer but then we had other commitments and now? Well we see each other probably once every week or every 2 weeks . Hey things can even go to 3 week and no seeing him...I would ask why it is that you have to see her more than once a week or else its not worth it to be dating? Maybe she wants to turn a new leaf and not sneak out anymore ? Also has it not just been 5 days since you started dating? Don't bomb her with all of this so suddenly..how about seeing how it goes for the next few weeks before saying. "said I needed to see her more than once a week or it wasn't going to work"
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