bobsmith76 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 It's too hard to get through to American women. They don't know what they want, they don't respond to my advances, they're too gun-shy about marriage, they think kids are expensive and a burden, and when they do respond to my advances they don't keep up the correspondence. (I realize men do the same thing to women, but are even worse about it) I lived in Jordan for two years and things are so much easier over there. There the women respect marriage and they want to meet guys and get married. I stupidly broke up with my Jordanian girlfriend because of her politics and religion. Biggest mistake of my life. She's married now so I can't get back together with her. But at the rate I'm going in America (3 dates per year) I'm going to have to pack up and move back to Jordan as soon as the war in Syria dies down. Over there women are always asking for my phone number and friending me on Facebook. Admittedly some of them just want to move to America but I don't care. at least they would appreciate things more. They're not spoiled. Sorry if this post comes across as venting but I've had a really tough month given that my insomnia has come back which has made it very difficult for me to get out and meet new people. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Why not consider Australia? Love match :love:
orcunderabridge Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Hopefully they don't have internet in this 3rd world country..
yongyong Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 When I kept reading your silly questions 'only ladies answer please', I knew what situation you were in. Obviously, you will do better as a white American guy in those countries. I am a minority who moved here after a high school. I am having a hard time too but I can't complain since they look different and their culture is different. I don't know how it feels like getting rejected by your own race who is the same as your mother. I don't understand how you had to say 'American women are this and that' when you are one of them and grew up with them. I don't understand why you would have to leave your home country because of women. Anyways, at least you can make a move and if it makes you happier, who can blame you?
Titania22 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Love match :love: You never know, ES. A girl's got to try.
Author bobsmith76 Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 Why not consider Australia? Australia is not a 3rd world country.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 The grass is always greener somewhere else. Good luck. 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 north american females are entitled to penises Right on! We seem to agree alot lately Joe. I like you. 2
Nikki Sahagin Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 I have to be honest with you and say that in my experience of 3rd world countries, the chances aren't any better. People are still people. They have affairs, they lie, they use you for money, they slag you off, they lie, they get confused, they change their minds. It's the same the world over. In third world countries there are less opportunities so people might settle for less in general but it doesn't mean your chances of finding the one are any better. Saying that...a foreign woman might be the way to go for you, if it's for the right reasons. 1
FitChick Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 You do realize that you cannot just pack up and move to any other country. Sure, millions of Mexicans and Central Americans just walk over our border and get jobs and government handouts, but you try going there without proper "papers" and you'll end up in jail or worse. Read my signature line.
proseandpassion Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 That's odd, I feel like most women I know want to get married and have kids. You must be dating 22 year olds who are still figuring themselves out (nothing against 22 year olds... when I was 22 I was still figuring myself out).
KathyM Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Well, I know a lot of wonderful American women who are marriage minded and have a lot of good qualities about them. You should keep trying in this country and maybe get some advice or counseling on how to improve your chances with American women. The types you are looking for ARE out there. You just aren't looking in the right places, or there is something wrong with your approach that you need to work on. I wouldn't suggest being too quick to go after a third world woman. The cultural differences would be very difficult to deal with in a relationship. 1
Titania22 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Australia is not a 3rd world country. I know it's not, but if you are thinking of moving, why limit yourself?
eleanorhurting Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I have a feeling that perhaps you are being too forward. I am sure lots of women want to get married (myself included at some point in my life) but no one wants someone to be shoving it in your face so soon because then you just feel like the person is interested in marrying anyone, not you. Get to know the girl and find out what her feelings are about getting married, starting a family, etc without being so... obvious about it so soon. Also, I know people here say this all the time but it is important to work on yourself. I know you are looking for the perfect girl but are you being a good candidate yourself? Do you have the financial stability to get into a marriage? Are you in good health? Are you taking care of yourself? When I think of getting married I would want to marry someone who is sure of who they are, who has a stable job, who is in good health (both physically and emotionally). I am not going to discourage you from moving because I believe that relocating when you have a good reason relocate can be an adventure that can open lots of new doors. But, try to think about what it is that is failing now because if you do not work on that you are just going to drag the problem to wherever it is you are going next. Good luck in your pursuit! 1
Author bobsmith76 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 That's odd, I feel like most women I know want to get married and have kids. You must be dating 22 year olds who are still figuring themselves out (nothing against 22 year olds... when I was 22 I was still figuring myself out). No, I'm 35 and I date women from 25 - 35. It's easier to get a date with a women who is older than 34 because they feel a bit more pressure.
Author bobsmith76 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 I know it's not, but if you are thinking of moving, why limit yourself? I would think I would have the same problems in Australia as I do in America. The more financially independent women are the less they feel the need for a husband. Without access to finances women sometimes feel that there only way to prosperity is through marriage. However, I hate money. I value ideas and knowledge, not material wealth. I still save 17% of my income but money is not something that I value. I value freedom from work which is bought with money, but given the choice between free time and money I choose the latter.
Author bobsmith76 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 Hi Eleanor, Thank you for well thought-out reply. I have a feeling that perhaps you are being too forward. Unlikely. I have never even been in a position where I've even been able to talk about anything remotely intimate with an American woman. I've never gotten to the 2nd date with an American woman. Also, I know people here say this all the time but it is important to work on yourself. I know you are looking for the perfect girl but are you being a good candidate yourself? Do you have the financial stability to get into a marriage? Are you in good health? Are you taking care of yourself? Sure, I'm in great health, I don't drink alcohol and I use my time wisely. I never sit around and be lazy. It's hard to improve yourself though because we often don't know what is wrong with us. Some problems we know of, say, you're a smoker and you realize it's a problem. But if you're rude you often don't know you're rude and if that is the case there's nothing you can do about it. But, try to think about what it is that is failing now because if you do not work on that you are just going to drag the problem to wherever it is you are going next. That's the problem, I don't know what the problem is. It is true that I don't go out of enough but my sleep disorder makes it hard for me to get out and about. How about you? Where do you live? How old are you?
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