MercuryMorrison1 Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) I don't know why...But I have SO much trouble approching girls. I really shouldn't have this problum. I'm a 24 year old male and I don't think that I am unattractive, I've been told I'm not bad to look at...I've got a full head of thick dark brown hair, I'm tall ''6,1'' I'm in decent shape and currently working towards becoming downright athletic in build. But despite all that I have going for me physically, I find myself shying away from talking to girls im intrested in because like most men, I do fear rejection, and I don't know how to make good conversation and build up to asking a girl on a date? But yet, I find that I struggle daily with these issues, and its been quite awhile since I've had a meaningful relationship or anykind. The last time I've even had sex was on my 22nd birthday 2 years ago. Like all people I need physical contact with someone. I need to have sex, I feel starved of it...And I don't mean go out and have nasty slut sex with a 20$ hooker. I could have that any night if I really wanted it...But I'm talking about being close to someone threw the act of sex. I am also tired of feeling like I'm living in my head...I want to be close with physically and emotionally with someone, but I don't know how to get there! I know this sounds stupid...But I REALLY REALLY feel like life is passing me by, I want to have someone I can share my youth with or at the very least just be out there and dating and gaining experience handling realtionships. I just need some help guys...Anything anyone has to offer is appricated. Edited August 4, 2012 by MercuryMorrison1
TaraMaiden Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 You're focusing on the physical - which is good, I'm fine with that - but what about the mental/intellectual? What kind of reading do you do? What other interests do you have that do not necessarily involve bench-presses? How wide a social circle have you developed for yourself? Do you mix with like-minded people, or do you stretch yourself to interact with people whose personal attitudes are on a different level to yours? do you enter into discussions, debates and conversations that challenge your morals and beliefs? how flexible and absorbent is your intellect? It matters to many women.....
Author MercuryMorrison1 Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 You're focusing on the physical - which is good, I'm fine with that - but what about the mental/intellectual? What kind of reading do you do? What other interests do you have that do not necessarily involve bench-presses? How wide a social circle have you developed for yourself? Do you mix with like-minded people, or do you stretch yourself to interact with people whose personal attitudes are on a different level to yours? do you enter into discussions, debates and conversations that challenge your morals and beliefs? how flexible and absorbent is your intellect? It matters to many women..... I consider myself fairly intellectual. I am working towards a Ph.D in science right now. But having book smarts is totally different from being socially excuse my phrasing, but socially retarded. Which I don't think I'm that bad off, however being social with people has never been my strong suite and it makes me very self concious. I often times fear making akward conversation to such a degree that I avoid talking to people all together. That's my main reason for writing this. My social circle is pretty small at the moment...It started shrinking right out of highschool. I keep in touch with maybe 10 people right now on a fairly regular basis, and see 3 to 5 of them semi regularly. And its not because I limit myself to particular social circles, I'm willing to be friends with anyone as long as they aren't *******s and/or bitch's to myself or the people I care about. And as for reading, I actually read quite a bit. I read everything from novel's of all kinds to science text books. I'm even in the process of learning to speak latin at the moment. So yes I'm an avid reader.
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