Zigup Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) Here is a story of my past relationship: I met her in 2009 and things worked out and we became bf/gf when school ended. She was my first gf and I was her first bf as well. We were both young. She loved me so much and it showed. Our first two months were okay and slowly after I drifted apart form her because of her hygiene issues. I broke up with her after 5 months. I couldn't tell her to improve her hygiene, instead I made an excuse that I like another girl. She cried and break up for her was very tough. We were still in regular contact after the break up and she was still dearly in love with me. We tried to get back together but her hygiene issues were too much to handle for me. I couldn't kiss her for too long, I would just kiss her slightly and finish the kiss. I didn't knew how to tell her without offending her. We tried one more time to get back together after few months and it was a disastrous end by me telling her straight in her face to improve her hygiene. I told her that was the main reason I couldn't be so intimate with her. Right there, I knew it was a complete end now and she called me after a day to confirm enough was enough. We broke up completely in January 2011 after a limbo of year and a half. She truly loved me all the way till the end. I loved her as well but had extreme difficulties showing her. We never had sex in our relationship. Fast forward, she found a new bf within 2 months and apparently she seemed very happy with him and still is I guess. I sent her a message on Facebook in 2011 apologizing about my behavior in our relationship and how much I miss her. She instantly blocked me on facebook (which was unreal to me since she loved me so much) I sent her an email expressing my disbelief and wished her luck, no reply. I sent her a happy birthday email on her birthday, no reply. I sent her a happy 2012 new year message , no reply. I kept seeing her with her new boyfriend on my way to work in 2011 summer which was really hard for me to digest. I was angry at her and sent a stupid text message and she changed her phone number. Problem is that all of a sudden she unblocked me on facebook last moth after a year but doesn't talk to me. I sent her a message 2 days ago stating August 1 reminded me of her which was the day she became my gf in 2009. I miss her so much, a day doesn't go without her thoughts, I don't want to be in a relationship with her (she has a bf) but I just want her to be a part of my life as a good friend. I want her back in my life. I lost a jewel and I didn't value her when she was with me. I was an idiot how I handled our relationship. I have bumped into her 2-3 times and she completely ignores me and we would make a 1 second eye contact and it would look like she is very angry at me. She seems pissed off at me. In fact, I bumped into her today and she looked angry again. She wrote me a letter after our break up that we will never grow apart and now she doesn't even say a simple hello to me or even cares about me. I on the other hand can't get her out of my head because she was my first love and I was her first love as well. What do you guys make up of this situation? Why she seems pissed off at me when we bump into each other? why she has unblocked me on facebook after a year? She was the one who tried best in our relationship and cared about me endlessly and now she hasn't even messaged me asking how i'm doing since 2 years! I can't believe that she would completely stop talking to me. Edited August 7, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
not-a-drive-by Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 It could be a possibility that she unblocked you on FB to see how your life is going. Other than that, she is probably still hurt at what you did to her and she is happy with her bf now (no need for her to look back). It sucks.
TaraMaiden Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Send her a message on FB: "Why the f**k unblock me if you have no intention of even being slightly cordial? What are you playing at??" Then wait. If you get no reply - take it on the chin - you two guys are on different planets, and there's no point even trying, any more. So then, you absolutely go complete NC and get over her. Enough's enough - really.... don't you think?
Author Zigup Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 (edited) Thanks for the replies guys. She loved me and it showed, I loved her as well but I had hard time displaying it to her. She volunteers 3 minutes away from my house I think, so the chances are I might bump into her again. If we do - should I walk up to her and say a simple hello? And as the NC goes, I try my best but I can't help myself at times, hence I bug her by sending a message. I'm having a hard time believing how cold she turned out to be. She is very nice and lovely but her treatment towards me is out of this world. To be honest, I never expected in my dreams that she would become so ignorant. I guess when you get into a new relationship you forget about other gf's or bf's you had once. I will try my best to go NC but I have a slight feeling she will contact me, be it days or years down the road. I'm trying to move on but she is stuck in my brain somewhere and bumping into her every now and then makes it even more worse I'm sure she must have improved her self both physically (her oral health) and mentally after I left. That satisfies me a bit because a positive change came into her life despite me being an A-hole to her when we were together. Edited August 4, 2012 by Zigup
Jamesblame Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Worst part about break ups is realizing that often times...the ex your missing is not actually the person you were seeing. I was strung around and beat up for months because I couldn't accept that my ex was behaving in a certain way. Of course, she was and is who she is. I just was basing my opinion on her based on my perception of her.
Recommended Posts