Had kind of a romantic evening but haven't heard from her in the two days since?

[MercuryMorrison1]

Hello everyone.

 

This is my first post to these fourms, I actually made this account here just to post this question, but I realized reading threw some of these threads that I can probably benefit quite a bit by posting here. I'm really glad I decided to look into these fourms. I apologize for the length of this post but I just wanted to include all the details so those who do respond to it can give me informed information and opinions.

 

So here's the deal...

 

I met this girl named Minnie a couple of a weeks ago threw a mutual friend her and I have. I was instantly attracted to her...Something about her just made me want to get to know her better. Well when we first met, it was pretty casual. Our mutual friend had us all meet at a local coffee shop. Well my first encounter with her seemed like it went pretty good. We chit-chatted and made some small talk, and she seemed intrested in getting to know me as she was asking more questions that I thought she would.

 

Well two nights ago, The three of us went over to our friends house and started drinking, just casual having a good time having a few drinks and talking. Well we wound up outside on the porch talking, Minnie and I took the porch swing while our other friend sat in a chair beside us. After awhile I friend said she had to go to bed because she had to work tommorw and left Minnie and I on the porch swing. We continued to talk for a good two hours or so. During which we both were kind of drunk, and I wound up scooting closer to her and she didn't seem to mind, eventually we wound kind of in a semi cuddle, with my arm around the back of the swing and her leaning in a little bit.

 

At this point I decided that I would just go for it and ask her if she would like to go on a date, seeing as our night had gone decently I thought why not right? Worst case scenario she says no and it get's a little akward. But anyway, I told her that I was really intrested in getting to know her better and that I would like to take her out on a date. And at first she seemed a little skeptical, but she explaind that she only felt that way because she was afraid of there being any issues if her and I got into a relationship and it didn't work, how would we both work things out with out mutual friend. Well needless to say I just told her that I wasn't really worried about it and she smiled and said that she would like to go out on a date and that she thought it would be alot of fun, and that I should text her the following day so we can discuss it, we continued talking for a good 1/2 hour or so after this...

 

Well as she was getting ready to leave she asked me to walk her to her car to which I obliged. Upon opening up her car door for her she reached around me and gave me an armours hug...It wasn't a friendly hug, there was more to it than that.

 

This is where I did something really bold and possibly really stupid...I don't know yet. It may have been the booze in my system talking...But I got caught up in the moment and we were comming out of the hug, I lightly kissed her on the cheek, and she kind of giggled...But then I moved around to her face and gently kissed her on the lips and for the record she did riciprocate the kiss. So I was flying high that night on cloud 9 man...I felt so good.

 

Next day rolls around, and I wait until around 4pm or so to text her as she told me she was a waitress and I figured if I texted her to close to noon she would be to busy to bother. Well anyway I sent her this text...Word for word.

 

Hey Minnie. I know I was pretty drunk last night. I hope that I didn't make to much of an ass outta myself. Anyway I just wanted you to know that even though I was drunk I meant everything I said. I would like to take you out and get to know you better. I think it could be alot of fun. Anyway call or text me back when you can and let me know what you think.

 

That was yesterday...She never texted back, Today comes around and I'm hoping I'll get something...ANYTHING from her...Nothing.

 

Two whole days now, I've gone without a single response. I know that she told our mutual friend about my asking her out...Because our mutual friend works with another friend of mine who texted me the very next day telling me that she heard I asked Minnie out.

 

Well here I am two days later without a single response from Minnie...Not even an ''I'm sorry I was busy, I'll text you as soon as I get a free moment''. I've REALLY been fighting the erge to text her back...I really want to send her another text, but I don't want to come off as desperate and/or needy, and I know just as well as anyone that things happen and people can't always text or call back right away...But it just seems like to me that after two days at the very least she could have texted or called me and told me that she's been to busy to talk lately...Or whatever the case is.

 

Needless to say, this is the first shot I've felt like I've had with a girl that I'm genuinaly attracted to in awhile. And because I feel that way, I'm seriously mind fu**ing myself right now as to why she hasn't texted back yet. And yes I did try to text our mutual friend today so I could ask her about it...But all she said was that she was to busy to talk right now (She was at work) and that when she got home she was going to take a nap, but would get back to me as soon as she could...Haven't heard from her either. I mean all and all I felt like there had be a little bit of something there...Even though we were both drinking she didn't have any issue letting me touch her and get close to her...And did infact kiss me back when I kissed her by her car. I'm hoping that means she's really intrested, but I do consider the possiblity that it could have just been a drunken thing.

 

So if you read all or most of that and feel as though you have some useful input by all means please let me know what you think. Once again I apologize for the length of this post, but I just wanted all the cards to be out on the table.

Edited August 4, 2012 by MercuryMorrison1

[SJC2008]

Your text message was way OTT and wierded her out IMO. You made it seem like you did something wrong and put her on the spot by asking her what she thought. You should of just asked her out.

[MercuryMorrison1]

Your text message was way OTT and wierded her out IMO. You made it seem like you did something wrong and put her on the spot by asking her what she thought. You should of just asked her out.

 

I certianly didn't mean to put her on the spot. I was just trying to be nice and leave things open, as to not make her feel obligated to go out on a date. As far as telling her that I know I was drunk, I was just afraid of her thinking that I was just talking outta my ass ''because I was drunk'' which I why I stated that in my text.

 

In your opinion, what ''if anything'' can I do to try and right this here? I really want to get an opinion from our mutual friend. I know that girls talk, and I figure if Minnie felt creeped out or whatever in anyway she would probably have said something.

 

I plan on texting and hopefully talking to Minnie in the next day or two at least. If I did screw up in the way that you think I might have...Is the possiblity of dating salvageble at this point? And if so, what should I say to her?

[crazylove]

I disagree about the text being OTT. I think he's been pretty upfront about it, and she's in no doubt as to the interest in her. I think you have to wait for a response on this one. Maybe she's more worried than you know about upsetting your mutual friend if things didn't go well for whattever reason...or maybe she is genuinely busy. However, I do think that if she was interested then she would be in touch definitely within 3 days tops.

If there's no response, maybe send her one more asking if she'd like to go out for dinner/cinema/whatever on whichever day, and see if u get a response from that. If not, you're in no doubt about her level of interest.

Hope it works out for you.

[MercuryMorrison1]

I disagree about the text being OTT. I think he's been pretty upfront about it, and she's in no doubt as to the interest in her. I think you have to wait for a response on this one. Maybe she's more worried than you know about upsetting your mutual friend if things didn't go well for whattever reason...or maybe she is genuinely busy. However, I do think that if she was interested then she would be in touch definitely within 3 days tops.

If there's no response, maybe send her one more asking if she'd like to go out for dinner/cinema/whatever on whichever day, and see if u get a response from that. If not, you're in no doubt about her level of interest.

Hope it works out for you.

 

Forgive me for not understanding.

 

But what do you by...

 

and she's in no doubt as to the interest in her.

 

and...

 

If not, you're in no doubt about her level of interest.

 

I appricate the input though.

[maxy1]

Dang man that sucks, i hope it works out for you.. I dunno if I were you, I would have sent a shorter and more general first initial text the next day. like a "hey, what are you up to?" kinda thing. but seriously I don't really think there is anything at all wrong with what you sent and being up front about it, so i guess i don't really know what to tell ya...Really hope she gets back to you buddy!!

[veggirl]

Okay the text may not be the suavest one ever sent BUT lets be real, if she is interested that text WILL NOT change that. She'd probably think it was kinda cute.

 

I'd say wait another day and then call her. If she does not answer, leave a voicemail saying "Hey Minnie it's X, I was calling to see if you are free to go out to dinner (or whatever activity but be specific!!!) with me on WHATEVER-DAY (again be specific, give an exact day). Give me a call back, hope you had a good weekend. Talk to you soon!"

 

and then if she doesn't call you back, write her off.

[maxy1]

veg has a point. good luck.