how to procced phone call with my ex on her birthday? really want to wish her

[kushal]

she did not tell me about his past as she thought that it might hurt me as she loves me very much. she was very much loyal to me after that but i always stalking her, spying her and i confronted her for her past mistakes but now i realize my mistakes but she is saying that please now go away from my life and never contact me again. i regret time i spend on you. but really i m feeling very sorry so her birthday is on next saturday and i want to wish her on her birthday. i know many of you will say no but its my heart voice and gut feeling that i should do and i am planning to make a call at 12 am. but i m thinking what to say? how to proceed conversation without showing her that i am very desparate for her. i just want to talk normally no sorry no begging. plz guide me. i really want to make her call as it was her first birthday with me.

[big bear]

Really at 12??

 

Ideally it would be best just send a text or mail if you really wanna wish..

[DMS]

I went through a similar situation with my ex when her birthday was a couple weeks ago. What did I do? Nothing. What purpose would it serve? Also your ex already said not to contact her so calling at 12am would not be cute or romantic but most likely annoying. If when the time comes you feel you absolutely MUST contact her then I would text "Happy Birthday" and nothing else. Best bet though is to go to no contact and stay that way.

Edited August 4, 2012 by DMS

[Dblock10]

you should always realise why you are doing something, and your agenda is not just to wish her a happy bday because you know you are hurting and want her back. on some level you hope some how some way that she will open up to you..

 

be prepared as it probably wont happen

[TaraMaiden]

she did not tell me about his past as she thought that it might hurt me as she loves me very much. she was very much loyal to me after that but i always stalking her, spying her and i confronted her for her past mistakes but now i realize my mistakes but she is saying that please now go away from my life and never contact me again. i regret time i spend on you. but really i m feeling very sorry so her birthday is on next saturday and i want to wish her on her birthday. i know many of you will say no but its my heart voice and gut feeling that i should do and i am planning to make a call at 12 am. but i m thinking what to say? how to proceed conversation without showing her that i am very desparate for her. i just want to talk normally no sorry no begging. plz guide me. i really want to make her call as it was her first birthday with me.

 

You're damn right many of us will say no - because it's precisely what she has told you.

 

You are contacting her to make you feel good, not her.

And added to that - it won't work, because she will either ignore it completely, and treat it with contempt or tell you to go away and leave her alone - and treat you with contempt.

 

Nothing, but nothing, good will come of this.

You are assuming there will be a conversation - the fact that you want to talk to her at all, will tell her you are desperate.

 

She's asked you to go away.

She's told you she doesn't want any more contact with you.

 

The best - and kindest - present you could give her - is to do as she asks.

 

If I were she, I would consider your persistence insulting and it would make me very angry that you ruined my birthday.

 

Is that really what you want to do?

 

Sorry, girl's perspective, here.

We love the men we love to pursue us romantically - but we really hate it when men we don't love, try the same thing.....

[Mike_d]

don't. don't call. don't text. don't contact.

 

she has made her wishes clear, and you typed them out so you know them.

 

if you really love her you'll respect what is important to her and in turn not contact her regardless of the event

[kushal]

ya i agree but she seems in crying position when she says all this to me. she just said you lose ur everything for me , she was talking about studies, please dont lose now. but i want to make a call because i wanna meet her one last time

as she will not lie on my face i m sure. if she do not behave properly or she behave rudely then m ready to move on! but i love her very much, how can i lose this last chance to save our relationship?

[TaraMaiden]

Why won't you listen - ?!?

 

I can't stand it when people come here, ask for advice, get pretty much everyone telling them the same thing - then they keep arguing against it!

 

IT - WON'T - WORK!!

 

SHE DOESN'T WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU ANY MORE!!!

 

why do people ask for advice if they have absolutely no intention of following it - ?!

 

Look, you do what you want - !

Go ahead - call her!!

 

Then come back and tell us what a sad, disastrous phone call it was....