Bobibble Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I had posted a thread late last week when me and my bf went on a break Saturday night. We have been together for a little over a year. In the middle of his tears he decided we should take a break that came out of nowhere that particular day but I could see was going to happen for about a month. 30 minutes after he called me saying he thought he was making a mistake but I stuck with it and told him that a break would be the best chance for us to have a good relationship because if we continued going like this, masking our frustrations, we would break up badly. On Tuesday, I had to call his sister to ask her something and the conversation came up about me and my bf and I asked if she knew we were on a break and she said that he had come over the next day and told her and they spent that whole day together. She said that the whole time he kept saying he misses me and that he still thought this break was a mistake, to which she told him that sometimes couples need some time and space to clear their head. She told me that she thinks that he slightly started to take things for granted and said that she thinks everything will be fine because he did mention that he was not looking for this to be a breakup. She said he says that he loves me, he thinks I'm an amazing gf and that I take care of him, etc. Yes I understand it hasn't even been one full week but I am going crazy and trying to maintain NC as much as I can. Should I continue with NC and wait for him, or should I say something? I feel like he had a mild case of G.I.G.S because he himself in the middle of his tears said to me on Saturday "I might be taking things for granted I don't know"
Twins Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Just relax and take some time. Don't panic. If he is saying he misses you then he does. That's great. It's not like he's telling you he doesn't love you anymore. Breaks can be a good thing. Especially when people start to take the other for granted. Most important thing I found is people tend to need breaks when they have not been communicating well. Then they are confused. The break can clear the head, but it is important to be completely honest with each other and open. Don't smother him. Be understanding and just let him know you are there for him.
Author Bobibble Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 Just relax and take some time. Don't panic. If he is saying he misses you then he does. That's great. It's not like he's telling you he doesn't love you anymore. Breaks can be a good thing. Especially when people start to take the other for granted. Most important thing I found is people tend to need breaks when they have not been communicating well. Then they are confused. The break can clear the head, but it is important to be completely honest with each other and open. Don't smother him. Be understanding and just let him know you are there for him. That started happening to us, our communication lessened drastically and he started to say he was unhappy, but would flip flop from acting like he was happy to not. So your suggestion is to maintain NC? He knows I'm there for him because Saturday before we got off the phone I told him if he needs anything he can call me and he said the same for me.
Author Bobibble Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 I'm so close to breaking NC today. I spoke to a friend of mine who had initially set us up and he was just asking me how I have been holding up, etc. Come to find out he had hung out with my bf the night before and that he was "very distant and just not himself at all and didn't want to talk about things." I just drove to get myself something to eat and I ended up driving towards his house. I tried stopping myself at least 20 times, and everytime my heart kept saying "keep driving". I got to the corner and I reversed and parked in a different street for an hour. I knew it would be the worst thing to show up unannounced, but I could not move. I couldn't even put my hands on the steering wheel to start driving home. After an hour and my friend begging me to not break NC, I left. That same friend is saying that if I feel that strongly about saying something to him, that I should just do it. I just don't know what to do...
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