monkey00 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 In a nutshell I asked out a new coworker of mine to go drinking with me this weekend and she said yes and we exchanged numbers. We don't really know each other that well but it should be exciting when we meet up. I've never gone out with a coworker before. I guess the question at hand is how should I approach this? Should I keep it casual and get to know her outside of work or treat this like a date? Kiss and whatnot?
JasonRules Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Dating a co-worker is the dumbest thing anyone can do. In fact, it's my unbroken rule. I never date a woman I work with no matter how attracted I am to her. In 99% of all cases it doesn't end well. You're left to deal with the awkwardness of their presence and in some cases one of the two parties have exploded onto the other due to suspicions of infidelity etc which in turn caused one or both of them to get fired. As the saying goes..."You don't shvt where you eat". But hey, if you want to go out with your colleague, then go ahead.
january2011 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Another vote for "don't do it." Messy and unprofessional, especially if you work in the same department/team. And if your company has a policy against co-workers becoming romantically involved, your job is potentially on the line. At the very least, If I were your boss, I'd want to know how you were going to keep your personal life separate and still be professional to each other, especially if you have a falling out outside of work or break up. If you work directly with clients, I'd be even more concerned. Having said that, if you're in an entry-level McJob where your bosses only care that you do the work and you don't care about getting promoted, good references, etc, then perhaps there's less risk.
Author monkey00 Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 I know the deal. But it looks like I'm getting lots of crap for it and no advice. Let me rephrase... She's not exactly a coworker. She works on the floor of another department. My department almost never interacts with her and almost never will. However we can see each other on the floor if we walk by certain areas
oaks Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I'm pretty sure the coworker dating etiquette is "don't do it". That was your question, right?
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