salem mark Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 My ex who I was crazy about (and she ended it) is emailing me after 2 yrs of NC. I moved to another state. She moved to the town I moved from. She's been bumping into friends I knew there and asking about me, where did I move, etc. She now is emailing me very weak emails, how are you, where did u move etc. She really broke my heart and it ended badly. Should I ignore her, we are 1000 miles apart so I dont see what could come of a reconnection, Thoughts/advice?
GorillaTheater Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Radio silence. She's an ex for a reason. 1
JasonRules Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 My ex who I was crazy about (and she ended it) is emailing me after 2 yrs of NC. I moved to another state. She moved to the town I moved from. She's been bumping into friends I knew there and asking about me, where did I move, etc. She now is emailing me very weak emails, how are you, where did u move etc. She really broke my heart and it ended badly. Should I ignore her, we are 1000 miles apart so I dont see what could come of a reconnection, Thoughts/advice? Do you still have feelings for her or are still depressed? I highly doubt after 2 years. If you don't have feelings for her and don't really care you can reply to the email and tell her you're doing great. Nothing says "I don't need you" more than showing and actually feeling it that you're over your ex and she doesn't exert any control over you anymore. Personally, I like replying to exes whom I dont care anymore about just to rub it in their faces that I'm doing great, have a great job, stable, successful, moving forward, bought my own place etc etc. Why do I do this? So they can kick themselves a little harder in the rear...why else?
Twins Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Oh brother...can't stand negativity. Can you just simply answer her without getting all attached again. If you are not angry with her, why not? I myself, would have to answer. Kind of childish to ignore her. Aren't you past all that by now? 1
january2011 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I say ignore her. There's nothing adult about accepting someone back in your life who broke your heart, dumped you and with whom you've had bad experiences. Leave the past in the past. You don't hit your head against the same brick wall when it gave you a headache the last time you were in front of it. I suspect that she's digging because she's got no support network there and she wants to take yours. She may be thinking, why not contact you to see if you still hold a candle for her and perhaps she can either selfishly relieve her guilt for the bad break-up or hook-up now and again when she's feeling "lonely" or "bored" or when you're next in town. Perhaps she's also had a recent break-up and is looking to self-medicate with you. All pure speculation, but either way, you don't need her in your life. You've done so much in building yourself back up again. Nothing good can come of opening old wounds. Don't let curiosity make you a masochist. Your friends can make their own decisions about whether to spend time with her but if they are your real friends, in my opinion, they will remember what she did and stay out of it.
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