big bear Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Well, won't give too much history since, it's all water under the bridge. If anyone is interested pls. check my previous posts. So, the thing is, I asked ex if she would like to meet me. She said she would think about it. Felt degraded the way she responded. Was really cold. (We talked on messages). Plan to ask her for one more chance and almost certain she will say no and may be it will break me further. All the progress will be lost. Going for only 1 reason. My last relationship, my ex gf said once, the thing she hated the most I never tried to fix things. Not even once. Gave up as if she was nothing and the time meant nothing. Something really pricked, because it was true. For this one I did everything but she won't come back. If she says yes to meeting will be going on Sunday just to hear a no. The only saving grace may be guilt will be a lot less. Let's see if she even says yes. If she says no meeting then things stand still. Either outcome may be guilt will be less. Just venting.
Canadian731 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 This is a terrible idea, it's like walking into certain dissapointment. You say you know she will most likely say no and yet want to go anyways eventhough you know it will "break Further" also your last ex may say you "gave up" but didn't she also just give up or else she would have tried all she had to get you back 1
weallfalldown Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 no matter what anyone say's you'll do it........it's prob what you need to hear.....but before you leave **** her in the ass... 1
Mike_d Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 bad idea, there will be nothing in your behav that will be at all attractive to her For this one I did everything but she won't come back. you have your message right here, she doesn't want to come back. groveling in front of her isn't going to work If she says yes to meeting will be going on Sunday just to hear a no. so you already know, as brutally hard as it is you need to not go. there is nothing to be gained and mountains of dignity and self respect to be further lost. if she wants you she will fight for you, and right now there is no fight. I'm really sorry mate, but I think you already know that. I lived in denial of this just like you are for 6 years myself, prob more, so I know of this and am not at all proud of myself. But you can do this, you can 1
dannykeyz831 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Only 3 things will have been accomplished by this meeting. 1. You'll push her even further away 2. You will feel even worse than before the meeting 3. You will regret it Use common sense. We don't live in a fantasy world where logic overcomes everything. This is reality!
Car10e Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 No one can tell you whats right or wrong. If you feel like you should, then do it. But prepare yourself for either a good answer or bad answer. Keep yourself composed and show that you do truly want her back. Whatever you do, don't beg. That is the worst thing you could do.
Author big bear Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 Well firstly, she is yet to come back on whether we should meet. Secondly, I am not in denial. This is just to get the final strands out of my system and I am pretty sure of her answer. Truth be told I want to go and feel this girl is not what she once was and walk away. This time I just don't want to be guilty. Pushing her away: Unlikely, she is already in a different world now. I might feel worse in short term but I will be happy I did everything I could. Somethings just can't be saved. And you are right I might regret it long term, but then in long term I might find someone who takes away the painful times. Bottom-line: Can't wait for the glass to be half-full or half-empty. I gotta make do with what is there. Let me see if she says yes to the meet up today. Who knows she meets me and tells me she is with someone else.
Thisisbs Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Well firstly, she is yet to come back on whether we should meet. Secondly, I am not in denial. This is just to get the final strands out of my system and I am pretty sure of her answer. Truth be told I want to go and feel this girl is not what she once was and walk away. This time I just don't want to be guilty. Pushing her away: Unlikely, she is already in a different world now. I might feel worse in short term but I will be happy I did everything I could. Somethings just can't be saved. And you are right I might regret it long term, but then in long term I might find someone who takes away the painful times. Bottom-line: Can't wait for the glass to be half-full or half-empty. I gotta make do with what is there. Let me see if she says yes to the meet up today. Who knows she meets me and tells me she is with someone else. I think your relationship is worth fighting for, since it was your doing that probably pushed your relationship to the limit. It is going to be very difficult because you will have a hard time trying to convince her you've changed. But she had also said she was into someone else, so that will also make it difficult.
Author big bear Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 Update: She doesn't want to meet. I said may I ask the reason she says nothing specific just don't want to meet you. All on messages and so rude and condescending that I had to really pinch myself not to reply back in the same fashion. Good Luck to her. I am done trying. And over the days I have realized all mistakes were not mine. So back to NC and this time I am not going to break it. 1
Mike_d Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Good Luck to her. I am done trying. And over the days I have realized all mistakes were not mine. ok, but what is your part? there is always a part we own, usually a very large part
weallfalldown Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Only 3 things will have been accomplished by this meeting. 1. You'll push her even further away 2. You will feel even worse than before the meeting 3. You will regret it Use common sense. We don't live in a fantasy world where logic overcomes everything. This is reality! what does it matter if you push them away any more?????????????? the rest i agree with...
RogerWallace111 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 no matter what anyone say's you'll do it........it's prob what you need to hear.....but before you leave **** her in the ass... this ^^^^^
Author big bear Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 ok, but what is your part? there is always a part we own, usually a very large part I cheated,, she cheated.. Me first but she twice.. I broke her emotionally,, she started pulling back eventually.. It took her 20 days to get over me.. And in the end when I tried to get her back,, she, her friends, her family all insulted me.. And even though I felt abandoned,, I kept all my bitterness with me,, wanted to meet her the last time.. May be I would have wanted my stuff back.. No she doesn't think it's necessary to talk about it.. May be I would have wanted that expensive jewellery back (I don't want it but would it hurt her to ask).. I spent a third of my salary on it.. May be I wanted the pen that my first gf ever bought for me.. (It has an emotional value) Nothing Nothing Just nothing I have decided to break all thread of contact now.. Don't want the stuff back,, don't want a good bye.. Whatever happens I just cannot be with a person who abandons someone else for their own happiness.. Some decency to ensure that the other one is at-least standing..
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