bluejayjay Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 first of all.. we are not dating, just "seeing each other" as he said (not an open realationship) I really like him and he says he really likes me too. He lives a hour bus ride away and makes NO effort to see me, i have offered many times to come out there and see him and he doesnt even let me come out, he finds reasons why i cant ( too hungover ill be a downer... hurt my ankle cant move) He says he does not want a relationship anytime soon because he just got out of a brutal 4 year one. (still hangs out with the girl all the time too claiming he doesn't do anything with her and his family is just really close with her But anyway we have made plans to hangout MANY MANY times and he will cancel them last minute, last time he did that, 2 days ago, i got pretty pissed off and told him off saying he does it all the time, and i said "your probably hanging out with your ex" and his defence is that he said their is a 90 percent chance he would come out to see me so i shouldn't be mad... He tells me im the most interesting person he has ever met, and that i make him happy, im the only girl he thinks about etc. but then he ditches me..? So now its been 2 days since we talked last .. i really miss him and want him to talk to me, but i don't want him to feel like he has me around his finger.. i don't want to seem desperate and think im annoying.. i want him to want me, and call me begging to hangout Do you think he will call me or should i call him
KMC1990 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I think you should definitely wait for him to call you. Since you aren't even technically together, you might seem annoying to him since you keep pestering him and making assumptions about him and his ex-girlfriend (even if those assumptions are correct). I think that if you continue to persist, he might not want to ever be in a real relationship with you, because you could come off as clingy and annoying. However I do understand how much you want to see him and miss him...but you have to give him time to figure out what he wants.
SpiderxMan Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Be honest, have you ever seen this guy? Is this a Internet relationship? If so he's definitely hiding something...
veggirl Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 He puts no effort into this "relationship" at all, none whatsoever. You have to practically beg him to visit you He is spending time with his ex, that is likely not over. I would not call him and I would not answer if he calls you. Why do you want someone that you have to chase like this? It doesn't matter what he says, he matters what he DOES. He is showing you that you aren't important to him, not a priority. That sucks, it's hurtful, but you have to have some pride, you have to establish your own boundaries and you have to WALK when someone is taking advantage of you and treating you disrespectfully.
TaraMaiden Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 What the hell is happening here, ladies?? first this - and now this too! Women, fer chrissakes - get a grip already!!
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