zanzi Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I feel like crap. Emotionally, mentally, pyshically. I just got thrown out of my flat tday, two days after the charming experience of seeing that the guy I used to date after dumping me a month ago went straight back to his ex and they have moved to my town. That for me was a real ego-stabber. How do I get back to my old self and forget everything about it forever? I never, ever, ever want to think about it EVER AGAIN. It was THAT BAD.
january2011 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Your priority is to sort out your living situation first. Once you are settled, throw yourself into making lots of new memories to push back the old ones: volunteering, new hobbies and activities, Meetup, adult education classes, new sport, more exercise. Invest in lots of self-care: making your environment into something that makes you happy - nice decor and furnishings, nice food to eat, luxurious toiletries, nice clothes that make you feel good about yourself. If money is an issue, shop at thrift stores and cook nutritious and flavourful food made from basic and inexpensive ingredients. If you don't have a close friend or family member to talk to, venting on here and in journals (online and offline) might also help to deal with the thoughts running around in your head. With time, you will be able to work through the emotions and thoughts. Otherwise, if you can afford to and have access, speak to a therapist if it doesn't ease up. Unfortunately, it's unlikely that you'll be able to forget everything. But you can learn to make it hurt less.
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