Tysono Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Well i'll keep this short and bitter sweet, My lover of 5 years (married 1 year) went off the deep end after our twins were born in Feb. She went from pain pills to meth in a matter of a couple months. We tried a couple rehabs that both lasted aprox 2 weeks each before she called her junkie friend to come get her She has lied cheated and stolen(from me) while under the influence and I just don't think this can be fixed. I have no idea where she is and I am not sure how she could choose a needle over these awesome 5 month old twins and her 6 year old son.(I'm the only Dad he's known) She calls every once in a while high as a kite asking about division of property but I tell her that the $2000+ she stole covers that. Of course her stuff is hers, but I can't afford to support 3 kids and give her half of our possessions. She hadn't had a job since 09 and i supported her through nursing school during this time which meant me busting me butt. I dread it when she calls from some random number..mean as hell trying to blame me for her problems. I'm totally freaked out that being a single 26 year old father with 3 kids will hurt my chances of finding "the one". I love being a dad but I love the feeling of having a good woman in my life! Sorry..not so short lol
LvRorynVan Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I have to say, your sad story makes me feel better. (not to sound the way it does) lol. I feel the same way. Ive been with the same guy since right out of high school. He made me feel safe. A year into our relationship we had our first child, then our second..7 years later (im the same age you as a matter of fact) he's decided right before were to be married this year that he's "not IN love with me" and wants to be "single and party". Awesome. Im pretty much blown away and wonder if he ever REALLY loved me. I have a lot of amazing friends, and Im a great full time mom, I know im worthy of love, but I feel like it will be so much harder for me to find "the one" while always parenting. I just got used to the idea of being married and settled down and a best friend to come home to every night only to be abandoned. Its kinda bullsh** if you ask me. I know how ya feel...
sad puppy Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Thankfully, you sound like a very level-headed and capable person. Don't worry, you will find the one, at some point. Don't forget, a woman will most likely admire your dedication as a father. That's extremely impressive. But first, you need to get your life sorted out and your wife's behavior is quite horrid, her bad behavior can impact or maybe hurt the kids. Keep her away. Plan to eliminate her from your life. You're in a tough spot now but it's only temporary. Good luck, I'm sure you'll do just fine. Keep being a wonderful man and good father. That will not go unnoticed by a fine woman. 1
StrangeBehaviors Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 PostPartum Depression maybe trigger it? Don't know. Hang in there.
Steen719 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Please don't take this wrong; but maybe worry about the new woman after you have sorted out the current situation. You are young and have a lifetime ahead of you. I was talking to my son last night about a cousin of his (dad's side - so I am not sure of the info I have) who has been on meth. I was telling him that everything I have read and going to conferences (social work), the information I had said that meth addiction is one of the most difficult to overcome. I am not sure how successful treatment programs are for most meth addicts, but I do know that compared to cocaine and even heroin, there are statistics that support the fact that recovery is very, very difficult. With that in mind, what have you done towards total custody, legally, for your twins and what will become of her son? Have you legally adopted him? You say he only knows you as a dad, so where is his father? Are you pursuing divorce or legal separation? What are your plans? Do you have any family support to help you with the kids? What about her family for help with the kids and with your wife? What a sad situation. Sorry you are here.
Balzac Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Focus on your psychological and emotional health. She is not her addiction but until she's committed to getting clean you and your babies must stand alone. Be strong, be focused. You are not responsible for her addiction. Tragic story but you come across as manning up. Big Time!! You'll get a woman. Totally.
andyg99 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 document everything and get full custody ASAP... and don't worry about your love life right now, it's all about the kids... you will make it!!!
Balzac Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 My guess is his #1&2 were planned as solo baby. She already had one.
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