Ani9000 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I know that the time period for moving on after a break up varies for everyone but I just want to know your stories about moving on. It will be a month on tuesday that my ex and I have been broken up. I am taking all the right steps I packed up all his stuff and am not talking to him and I blocked him on all social media sites. However, I still miss him and I am afraid that I am not moving on as fast as I should be. We dated for two years so I understand that it can take awhile to move on but how long? How long did it take you guys?
Ladybeau Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I split up with my boyfriend of two and a half years on the 28th of June hon. He literally packed his stuff up and left, he hasnt spoken to me since. I honestly thought i would never recover. But you have done the right think by blocking him on certain sites and ignoring him. You have to be careful as when you start to miss someone your automatic reaction is to contact them. Keep yourself busy and when you are ready, you will realise that there are better things out there for you. I kept myself busy since June, and do you know what. I feel a whole lot better and realised what a absolute joke my ex was. You will get there in time hun, just dont contact him because you miss him then regret it afterwards. Try to think with your head and not with your heart..... for now )
Author Ani9000 Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 I split up with my boyfriend of two and a half years on the 28th of June hon. He literally packed his stuff up and left, he hasnt spoken to me since. I honestly thought i would never recover. But you have done the right think by blocking him on certain sites and ignoring him. You have to be careful as when you start to miss someone your automatic reaction is to contact them. Keep yourself busy and when you are ready, you will realise that there are better things out there for you. I kept myself busy since June, and do you know what. I feel a whole lot better and realised what a absolute joke my ex was. You will get there in time hun, just dont contact him because you miss him then regret it afterwards. Try to think with your head and not with your heart..... for now ) Thank you for your insight! I'm def not going to contact him. I just miss having someone there but I am working on being alone and knowing that being alone it ok. 2
KatZee Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 My ex and I broke up on May 8th. So it's been about 3 months. It was different for me because three months before the official split we had a huge falling out and I detached emotionally and started moving on at that point. When the official split happened, I was like.. Oh, OK. I didn't even cry. In the beginning I was missing what I thought we had. Then as time went on I found out more and more, and like what was stated above, I realized what a complete joke he is. I had a minor set back yesterday (See my thread which is kind of hilarious) but I didn't dwell as I used to in the past. I had like a 3 hour span of insanity and then it was over. I'm definitely moving on much faster than I thought, and I don't miss him at all, I couldn't care less what he's doing, but I'm still holding onto a little bit of anger, and I'm extremely jaded right now. I hope that goes away because I truly like being in relationships but I literally trust no one right now.
mike588 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I know that the time period for moving on after a break up varies for everyone but I just want to know your stories about moving on. It will be a month on tuesday that my ex and I have been broken up. I am taking all the right steps I packed up all his stuff and am not talking to him and I blocked him on all social media sites. However, I still miss him and I am afraid that I am not moving on as fast as I should be. We dated for two years so I understand that it can take awhile to move on but how long? How long did it take you guys? My ex. dumped me a year ago for her ex. and I was heartbroken. The 1st several months were hell but I stuck with strict No Contact and it gradually got better but had a few setbacks along the way which is normal. Don't be worried that your not moving on as fast as you think you should...every relationship/breakup/person is different and there is no "set time." Sounds like your doing all the right things..keep it up. It DOES get better..believe me.
villageman Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I dated my girlfriend for about 2 years as well, lived with her for a year, and she left me a little under 6 months ago. Honestly, for me at least, it's probably only been in about the last month or so that I've started to gradually feel like myself again. I don't miss her as much as I used to, but I still feel bad about the things that led to our breaking up. So I'd say in your case, you shouldn't feel like you're moving too slowly. These things take time to get over, and you're going to have a lot of ups and downs along the way. Things will get better though! Good luck!
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