SJC2008 Posted August 2, 2012 Share Posted August 2, 2012 Ok there's a courier I met at my now former job. We have seen eachother a handful of time and made small talk when she comes to pick things up. Last week she wanted to apply for our card and gave me her number and social as she had to go. Well I quit my job and texted her that I did so and didn't get the chance to run her info to apply for the credit and said I hope we can still be friends. Anyway she asked me about quitting and so forth and I asked her how she's doing and she said she's moving to her new place. I said congrats and asked her when will you have me over? I can cook a celebratory meal for you? She replied "You cook? I'll definately take you up on that!!" I'm 30 and she's 45, she told me she's recently single when I was outside helping her do something to her car. When I texted I asked for the invite strait to her house and no dates or anything so please tell me she's DTF. I really need this, yes for sex but moreso to feel like a human being as I haven't been with a woman since I was 22, my first and only time. Please no gender wars, the last casual thread took a nasty turn. Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted August 2, 2012 Share Posted August 2, 2012 Go for it..I want details. Just kidding but go with the flow - you never know. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
skyisfalling Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 haha, congrats! remember, no glove, no love. Hate to be a killjoy but please be cautious and wear protection.. there are so many icky things floating around these days (a strain for gonorrhea that is MRSA resistant has been found) so you really need to be careful..... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
skyisfalling Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 oh! and that includes oral sex. you can definitely get **** through oral sex with no protection. ok that's all. HAVE FUN!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SJC2008 Posted August 3, 2012 Author Share Posted August 3, 2012 That would be my luck getting an STD the second time having sex ever lol and of course I'll strap up. My question is I'm pretty sure she knows what my goal is. Why would a man ask to go to your house to "cook you dinner"? She said yes so am I correct in thinking she's down? Link to post Share on other sites
skyisfalling Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 That would be my luck getting an STD the second time having sex ever lol and of course I'll strap up. My question is I'm pretty sure she knows what my goal is. Why would a man ask to go to your house to "cook you dinner"? She said yes so am I correct in thinking she's down? She's 45. She's not 15.. any mature woman knows that going over to a man's house with a bed, couch, and alone time could possibly lead to something.. although we dont know for sure if she wants sex or not, we can safely assume that its probably crossed her mind. Take it slow, be in the moment, see if she's feeling up for it and take it from there. But definitely wear protection!! Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 You know maybe this woman thinks you like her and want to get to know her. She may be incredibly disappointed to realise you see her as an opportunity for casual sex. You cannot assume she is thinking like you. She thinks ... met this nice guy while doing a job, and he got in touch with me. He sounds really friendly and suggested we meet up. Maybe I will. I could do with meeting a caring guy after my last experience ... He thinks ... met this woman, she was fit. She'd just broken up with someone so is available. I bet she's sex-starved and horny like me so must be up for casual sex ... Sigh! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SJC2008 Posted August 3, 2012 Author Share Posted August 3, 2012 She thinks ... met this nice guy while doing a job, and he got in touch with me. He sounds really friendly and suggested we meet up. Maybe I will. I could do with meeting a caring guy after my last experience ... Well I would never lead a woman on for sex. **** I'm too caring of other peoples feelings IMO there were women who have liked me that I could of dated just for sex/exp but didn't. I texted back saying sounds good I should have my new work sched pretty soon and would be in touch and she texted back "It's a date". Ok so does that mean "I know what you are up to and I'm down?" Or does that mean "I know what you are up to and this aint gonna be a fling??" Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted August 4, 2012 Share Posted August 4, 2012 Is there any reason why you can't be clear to her about what you want? If you only want casual sex, then what's wrong with saying so? You won't be wondering if she's up for it then or not. She'll tell you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SJC2008 Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 I guess I could but it would be awkward talking about it IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SJC2008 Posted August 4, 2012 Author Share Posted August 4, 2012 Don't act too desperate or cheesy (it reaks even in your original post), try to act like a gentlemen (I think after their 3rd failed marriage, women start to appreciate gentlemen even if its just for casual sex) but also be dominant and touchy (for example when cooking, if she tries to contribute and you don't want to, grab her wrist ((not too hard, gently but firmly)) tell her that you got it, and kiss her on the cheek). Oh yeah and bring a bottle of wine, Shiraz is best for these situations. There's a good chance that you'll beat the first night. Trust me I won't come off as desperate the post may seem that way but it's true. When you're 30 and have the aforementioned exp wise you wonder what it is about yourself. Like you said she should know what my intentions are if she has half a brain in her head lol. I'm worried that she said "It's a date" though. What do you think about that? Link to post Share on other sites
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