Author AD1980 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 I wasn't suggesting or implying that you or she are attracted to each other. I was just making a general statement. I didn't think this was a big deal, but your response kind of has me rethinking that. I notice the one thing you didn't say was that you're not attracted to her. If you are, that's dangerous territory. Maybe she is someone who is completely devoted to her husband, but if you develop feelings (I'm not saying you will), that means either your friend or you will get hurt. I don't know you or your friends, so I won't claim to know your motivations. You're free to do what you want whether I think it's a bad idea or not and you don't have to justify it to me. But if you get happy just because she texts or look forward spending time with your friends more because you get to see his wife than than because you get to see your friend, you're already falling for her. I'm not saying that's how it is, but I'm saying the IF that's the way it is, you're crossing the line. If on the other hand you feel no differently getting texts from her vs how you'd feel getting a text a guy friend or seeing a guy friend vs her, then I don't see any problem. As i said i would never do anything to hurt my friend..his wife i literally consider a sister and i never think of her in sexual terms
SteveC80 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Im a loyal person and love my friend to death and would never jeopardize his marriage by getting feelings for his wife.. As for the wife she seems to love him to death so i doubt shed let herself feel sparks and butterflies for another guy and if she did then that would mean somethings probably horribly wrong in their relationship.. If a relationship is built on a solid foundation which i think theres is i dont think shed let herself get to that point of a friendship connection and turning it into something more mentally.. Dont be so sure dude women can be slaves to their emotions..spending time at a summer home a few years back me and my friends wife bonded..to me it was just a friendship formed to her she caught feelings for me because i made her laugh like nobody else has before in her own words.. Women are connection/bonds/soulmate junkies and can easily grow attatched to men they spend a lot of time with..if you add in physcial attraction as well look out..
Author AD1980 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 (edited) Dont be so sure dude women can be slaves to their emotions..spending time at a summer home a few years back me and my friends wife bonded..to me it was just a friendship formed to her she caught feelings for me because i made her laugh like nobody else has before in her own words.. Women are connection/bonds/soulmate junkies and can easily grow attatched to men they spend a lot of time with..if you add in physcial attraction as well look out.. I know its the stereotype but i have more faith in women then thinking they are child like and have absolutely no control over their emotions and emotionally cheat with any guy they form a friendship/bond with If a married women catches feelings for another Man imo it means the marriage was rocky..i dont believe married women in good solid relationship whso truly in love can fall for other people like that just because women are controlled by their emotions as you say.. Edited August 5, 2012 by AD1980
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