dreamingoftigers Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 guarantee majority of these women would still be virgins if it wasnt for there vagina.. Aside from this being absolutely hilarious and being called stupid..... It's "their" not "there." "their" is the possessive (I.e. "it's their house.") "there" is location-based (I.e. "it's over there in their house.") And if it wasn't for vaginas, you would be a virgin too. Oh, wait, nevermind.... :lmao::lmao:
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I am sorry... can someone tell me what "negging" is?
brahmabull117 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I am sorry... can someone tell me what "negging" is? Let me google that for you
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I still don't understand what type of things we are talking about... is it like sarcasm?
brahmabull117 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I still don't understand what type of things we are talking about... is it like sarcasm? Negs are absolutely retarded The point of it is to give a girl basically a reverse compliment that's really an insult to make her feel insecure and drop her confidence down so she feels like she's on your level
kaylan Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I'm glad I don't come across many men like you. Then again, most of the men I know can get a point across without rolling around in the mud like a pig. Then again, most of the men I know are semi intelligent and definitely NOT low class. You dishonor yourself and your opinions when you equate 'honesty' with cruelty. Then again, if that's the kind of man you want to be, who I am to stop you? Hope your family is proud. Lmao....look at how butt-hurt you are Feel better that you got that off your chest? Thanks for proving my point. I couldnt imagine how youd react if a guy ever busted your chops or teased you just a bit.
brahmabull117 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Lmao....look at how butt-hurt you are Feel better that you got that off your chest? Thanks for proving my point. I couldnt imagine how youd react if a guy ever busted your chops or teased you just a bit. Teasing/busting chops is great. The actual purpose of negging is to make the other person feel insecure. There is a huge difference there Anything designed to make the other person feel insecure is idiotic in my view. That's just not how social skills work - people want to be around those who make them feel great inside 2
kaylan Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 ^Negging is subjective, and the definition changes based on what PUA material you read. Either way, my exchange with Jane started with how she initially misinterpreted the intent of my make over joke to my friend. And I mean wow...if what I previously said to Jane could be considered as cruel, then she has the thinnest skin of anyone Ive ever met. I imagine if I ever kidded around with her that she might storm out the room, or end up yelling at me or even crying...since Im so 'cruel'
Emilia Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 No matter what they did, I'd say (Still starting sadly at my hands), "I'd like you to take me home now, please." I never spoke to any of them ever again, but I like to hope that they went home feeling like gigantic A-holes! So how do YOU typically react when you get 'negged?' Well I certainly don't accept a lift from them afterwards, it's all over. I've never dated anyone that negged - or at least I don't remember right now - but I've met men online or in real life who did that and I walked away from the conversation straight away. I will not be treated with disrespect by some jumped up little player-wannabe who can't pull healthy women
Taramere Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 ^Negging is subjective, and the definition changes based on what PUA material you read. Either way, my exchange with Jane started with how she initially misinterpreted the intent of my make over joke to my friend. And I mean wow...if what I previously said to Jane could be considered as cruel, then she has the thinnest skin of anyone Ive ever met. I imagine if I ever kidded around with her that she might storm out the room, or end up yelling at me or even crying...since Im so 'cruel' That she didn't respond in the way you would want or expect to your comment just means, probably, that you and she don't connect on any level. It doesn't make her wrong or ridiculously thin skinned, and it doesn't mean you're a horrible pig. That's what I meant in a previous post when I said that PUAs are often encouraged (by the literature) to employ defence mechanisms when their negs/teasing doesn't produce the desired result. They start blaming other people/attributing all kinds of wrongs to them instead of just accepting that there wasn't a connection, shrugging it off and moving on. Those defence mechanisms aren't a PUA invention, obviously. They're something lots of people employ. Fear of rejection is probably often at the bottom of them - but they're not exactly helpful in building self awareness or working towards better relationships. That's why I think that if PUA "gurus" really want to help other men, they'll start by teaching them to shrug misconnections off rather than reacting in an angry or insulting way to the women they don't connect with. 1
ascendotum Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Teasing/busting chops is great. The actual purpose of negging is to make the other person feel insecure. There is a huge difference there Anything designed to make the other person feel insecure is idiotic in my view. That's just not how social skills work - people want to be around those who make them feel great inside I mostly agree with you here. If its employed on a regular sweet natured friendly girl with this intention then I agree its not being employed for the right intention. You really dont want to make such a girl insecure to get her so you have a confidence advantage over her. The few articles I read about negging seemed to have the focus on attractive girls who know it & revel in it, who were a bit full of themselves, who are used to having guys suck up to them with compliments all the time. It's a bit different from how most guys act around them and is designed to thow them off guard & also to become a bit more intrigued with this guy who is not besotted with her. "people want to be around those who make them feel great inside"...as a genral rule yes, but if a guy is good looking then she will still feel good despite a few negs mixed in with the bantering because he is still showing interest in her. If the girl has no attraction to a guy to begin with the negs are likely to just go down like a fart (and I've seen it. lol)
ThaWholigan Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 That's why I think that if PUA "gurus" really want to help other men, they'll start by teaching them to shrug misconnections off rather than reacting in an angry or insulting way to the women they don't connect with. They sure do now . Even PUA evolves 1
Author Janesays Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 That's what I meant in a previous post when I said that PUAs are often encouraged (by the literature) to employ defence mechanisms when their negs/teasing doesn't produce the desired result. They start blaming other people/attributing all kinds of wrongs to them instead of just accepting that there wasn't a connection, shrugging it off and moving on. Those defence mechanisms aren't a PUA invention, obviously. They're something lots of people employ. Fear of rejection is probably often at the bottom of them - but they're not exactly helpful in building self awareness or working towards better relationships. I think you really hit the nail on the head here. I DO think there is a fear of rejection behind this. And immaturity as well. It's the little boys on the playground that get a crush on a girl and say, "I'm going to pull her hair and call her a doo doo head and then invite her over for video games!" Younger women might be OK with that approach, because they're half children themselves. But there comes a point in a woman's life where she decides she doesn't want to date a child. The 'mean' humor always leaves a guy with an 'out.' "If she doesn't respond, it's because she's uptight and can't take a joke and I don't like her anyway, nyah!" It puts a man in a position where, even if he's rejected, he can twist it in his mind that he wasn't. The problem is, there is only so long he can twist it before he comes to one of two conclusions: 1. His approach is wrong. 2. All women suck. Judging by this forum, far too many men latch onto #2. Women say they want a man with confidence and men immediately translate that in their heads to 'be a little mean to show her you don't care THAT much about her.' I say confidence is a lack of fear of rejection. A man who is not afraid to tell you EXACTLY how he feels, openly, honestly, and without leaving himself an 'out,' is truly confident because he knows that EVEN IF he's rejected, he still has value and he's self aware enough to understand he's not everyone's cup of tea. He's also super sexy. Nothing hotter when a guy mans up, looks you dead in the eye, and tells you he wants you. 3
RiverRunning Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I'm so out of the loop. I had to look up PUA the other day because of this site. THEN I had to look up negging. I would never again go out on a date with a guy who tried this. Insulting me doesn't make me more inclined to somebody's advances, joking or not. This can work LATER ON as I get to know you and I know you're just trying to be funny...but in those initial stages, the last thing you need to do is say anything to me that could sour the mood. I'd be thinking, "Okay, he's trying to be cruel to me now and we don't even know each other. How much worse is it going to get over time?" Although come to think of it, I had an ex-boyfriend who would subtly put me down. But at least he wasn't doing it in the initial stages (he was a full charmer then!).
counterman Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 The thing is, a lot of girls don't know it's happening to them when it's happening. That's what I've witnessed anyways. It is and should be subtle. I have a friend who enjoys negging girls. On top of that, he's good looking. And you know how almost all the girls respond? They try to earn his approval and he rakes in the ladies. Big thing though, is that he doesn't even follow all this pick-up stuff. It's just the way he is. Another issue is some guys don't really neg properly and it really becomes insult after insult. Personally, I wouldn't neg. Maybe I have done it before without realising it. I don't know. But I wouldn't knowingly do it. To each his or her own though!
It's Just Me Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I think negging is fun, as long as you can read people well. My response to negging is always to shoot one right back. But I only do this with male coworkers/friends who are in on the game, otherwise it can turn ugly pretty fast. For example: I have a coworker who's a great ball player, drives a pickup truck, comes from a more redneck area and who's a completely hilarious goofball most of the time. Not the type of guy who you'd picture wearing pink or lavender dress shirts to work. But he does. The first time he did that: Me: Hey, nice shirt! Do they make those in colours for men, as well? Him: Thanks, grandma! I see you finally got those cataracts removed, eh? (I'm 15 years older than him.) :lmao:
irc333 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 (edited) Well, there's a certain threshold a guy can go without completely insulting a woman and still keep them interested. Apparently, there is a form of "ball busting" you can do with women that you're more or less teasing them in playful manner. There was this one guy, I think he tried complimenting a woman, and wound up hurting her feelings, though he didn't mean to. It was at a BBQ event, and she was bawling like a little teenaged princess, what a psycho! I hope I don't have to explain negging to anyone on this site, but a lot of PUA's swear by it. It's supposed to come off as funny, but I generally think it was super obvious when I was dating and it happened to me. Here's how I would respond: I'd immediately look down at my hands and say in my quietest, saddest voice, "That really hurt my feelings." One of 2 things would happen at that point: They'd either keep going with the scripts in their head hoping that just the 'right' insult/half compliment combo would make me laugh......or they'd fall all over themselves apologizing and insisting it was a joke. No matter what they did, I'd say (Still starting sadly at my hands), "I'd like you to take me home now, please." I never spoke to any of them ever again, but I like to hope that they went home feeling like gigantic A-holes! So how do YOU typically react when you get 'negged?' Edited August 3, 2012 by irc333
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 A man who is not afraid to tell you EXACTLY how he feels, openly, honestly, and without leaving himself an 'out,' is truly confident because he knows that EVEN IF he's rejected, he still has value and he's self aware enough to understand he's not everyone's cup of tea. He's also super sexy. Nothing hotter when a guy mans up, looks you dead in the eye, and tells you he wants you. Very few people can really have that level of "confidence". And most that do are what we would call "narcissists". That's why some guys look for tactics to help cope. Some of these tactics are dumb some are ok.
Emilia Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Me: Hey, nice shirt! Do they make those in colours for men, as well? Him: Thanks, grandma! I see you finally got those cataracts removed, eh? (I'm 15 years older than him.) :lmao: That's just banter. A neg would be something like this: You: Hey shortie, trying to take attention away from your lack of height by wearing gay colours? Him: Being short is better than being old grandma, any luck pulling in that dive last night? Negs are about pushing your buttons.
RickyLovesLucy Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I'd never even heard of negging before I saw it here:xkcd: Pickup Artist
todreaminblue Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I hope I don't have to explain negging to anyone on this site, but a lot of PUA's swear by it. It's supposed to come off as funny, but I generally think it was super obvious when I was dating and it happened to me. Here's how I would respond: I'd immediately look down at my hands and say in my quietest, saddest voice, "That really hurt my feelings." One of 2 things would happen at that point: They'd either keep going with the scripts in their head hoping that just the 'right' insult/half compliment combo would make me laugh......or they'd fall all over themselves apologizing and insisting it was a joke. No matter what they did, I'd say (Still starting sadly at my hands), "I'd like you to take me home now, please." I never spoke to any of them ever again, but I like to hope that they went home feeling like gigantic A-holes! So how do YOU typically react when you get 'negged?' I didnt know what negging was I had to google it.I think I have been guilty of using reverse psychology on people though.I havent used it to ensnare a partner though.I think a lot of the time i am naive and maybe they have used it on me and I didn't even notice.But now i feel guilty because i have used reverse psychology, but I have only ever used it to do something good like with my girls, or my mum and my sister to get them out more.Then there comes how crazy I have been acting on this site might have seemed like i was negging people believe me I dont even know what I am saying or posting half the time and then i look back and go "eeek" crap thats my post.I am not going to apologise though, I constantly feel the need, and i dont, not this time, because it wouldnt have been intentionally to make myself feel good.Because hurting others doesnt make me feel good,making others feel bad intentionally is not something I could be proud of. gives me an attack of the guilts.Anyway I learnt a new word today negging......the art of revese psychology.....so I am not ashamed to say ... yes i googled it.....ta.....deb
todreaminblue Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Is this guy for real? Do they allow computers in mental institution? Yes they do brahmabull, just not the internet.The Internet is full of crazy people......I am joking and not negging.I am actually quite sad today but couldnt help joking with that one.It made me smile.I do like to smile.....deb
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