ssmith3427 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 My ex just contacted my via text and said "Hi, r u ok, and asked if she has left any coats in the closet." She has left one or two coats here, so I guess the text is legit? We have been broke up for 2 months and 2 weeks. I feel much better, but when I read that text and she said it was her, my heart sank.. I thought I was getting better, but I clearly still have feelings for her. She was my first love. So, I don't know what to do. I just feel really anxious now, and restless. What should I do? My confidence and pirde was destroyed because of how I acted when I left, and I know it's sad but I don't want to give her any power at all. Not that is should matter anymore, but I just feel that she got the better of me once, and I don't want it to happen to me again. Why would she even text, is the coat legit? I have no idea. I was a pretty good boyfriend by her account, just she is very young (20) and still wants that single lifestyle, or at least she did. What should I do?
flitzanu Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 My ex just contacted my via text and said "Hi, r u ok, and asked if she has left any coats in the closet." She has left one or two coats here, so I guess the text is legit? We have been broke up for 2 months and 2 weeks. I feel much better, but when I read that text and she said it was her, my heart sank.. I thought I was getting better, but I clearly still have feelings for her. She was my first love. So, I don't know what to do. I just feel really anxious now, and restless. What should I do? My confidence and pirde was destroyed because of how I acted when I left, and I know it's sad but I don't want to give her any power at all. Not that is should matter anymore, but I just feel that she got the better of me once, and I don't want it to happen to me again. Why would she even text, is the coat legit? I have no idea. I was a pretty good boyfriend by her account, just she is very young (20) and still wants that single lifestyle, or at least she did. What should I do? if i had to interpret the text, i think she wanted to say hi, ask if you were ok, and ask if she left any coats. there's nothing to read into, she just wants her coats.
SeventhFloor Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Just don't respond. Give the coats to a trusted friend, and send him off with them. If she asks your friend about you, tell your friend not to say anything. "How is he?" "He is fine." "What is he up to?" "The usual." "Is he seeing anyone?" "I don't know/that's none of your concern." Stay strong, stick to NC, you got this 2
Author ssmith3427 Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Yeah seems like good advice, shocks me how anxious I feel just by a text message. I mean I consider myself really strong, if there is a right way to deal after a breakup I have pretty much done everything perfect, been really proactive in improving myself, not getting to down on myself, basically becoming a much better person and getting to know me again, doing stuff with friends, etc. Still, my heart sunk when I read it, I mean why is this? I've got so much emotions tied with her, Hate, resentment, but so many good memories, I realize it was hard for her, and at the end of it all she has improved me, and vice versa. I guess the ride was worth the fall. I'll give my dad the coats to drop off at her parents and leave it at that, and not reply. I hate being a overall hopeful person, but I read a quote on here that is so fitting. "She was willing to lose me forever." This sticks in my brain like glue. I'll not text back. Man I hate her but wish her well... 1
weallfalldown Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 dude we all get the anxious thing when you here something....that's natural, i wish my ex had text me, so i could ignore it, you have one up on me...
edelveis Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Send the coats back with a courier or any possible way and dont answer to the message..you are doing well amd you got to stick to NC..dont ruin it now..i know you're strong!!
billythefish Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 i would check the pockets first as there might be money left in them.....you never know ...try not to read too much into the message though.. its not easy going NC & the urge to respond to them or even contact them is REALLY tough
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