AnchordHeart Posted August 2, 2012 Share Posted August 2, 2012 Why do dumpers feel anger/hatred towards a dumpee that seeks answers or begs for a second chance? Is it because they dont want to deal with these things? Also, how long do these feelings of hate last? I would consider my break-up pretty normal in terms of difficulty, and I did all the typical mistakes... How do dumpers deal with these feelings? Thanks so much c: Link to post Share on other sites
BooBoo1982 Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 Why do dumpers feel anger/hatred towards a dumpee that seeks answers or begs for a second chance? Is it because they dont want to deal with these things? Also, how long do these feelings of hate last? I would consider my break-up pretty normal in terms of difficulty, and I did all the typical mistakes... How do dumpers deal with these feelings? Thanks so much c: I think it's because they are still trying to digest things and need time and space to think about things and here we are pressuring them for answers to questions that they may not have the answers to yet. Thats just my opinion, I could be wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
The dot Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 Why do dumpers feel anger/hatred towards a dumpee that seeks answers or begs for a second chance? Is it because they dont want to deal with these things? Also, how long do these feelings of hate last? I would consider my break-up pretty normal in terms of difficulty, and I did all the typical mistakes... How do dumpers deal with these feelings? Thanks so much c: If a person dumps you, they usually have a very good reason (at least in their own mind) for doing so. Chances are, their mind was made up long before the dump was formally announced, and now they want to move on with the next phase of their lives. If the dumpee is constantly calling, texting, emailing or whatever asking for an explanation of a second chance, that gets very irritating. The only thing that softens those feeling is time away from the other party. Link to post Share on other sites
Phanpooh Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 They feel dumpee is stupid and want their space to do what they want. Exactly, they dun care about what dumpee try. I got an ex who dump me for other boy, and she told me try to live well for her. U see? Just like a normal person yell: i want happiness! They put ego in high place than ur benefit. Put their desire in far away than ur lower standar. And believe me, they did it cuz of u, and want u to be busy to blame yourself while they r eating their guilty cake. So that is what they think and feel. Full of desire and ego, which never follow happiness. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Orianne Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 I wouldn't describe the feeling as anger or hatred. It's more like putting your foot down and being frank with the dumpee so that both parties can move on. Link to post Share on other sites
winstonsdreams Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 im a dumper and have no feelings of anger whatsoever. she begged pleaded all that, i always remained kind and sympathetic. until she went NC and i realised what i lost, but she has moved on and i am here alone on LS. words of wisdom go NC it works! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnchordHeart Posted August 6, 2012 Author Share Posted August 6, 2012 im a dumper and have no feelings of anger whatsoever. she begged pleaded all that, i always remained kind and sympathetic. until she went NC and i realised what i lost, but she has moved on and i am here alone on LS. words of wisdom go NC it works! It works. It works. Eee. I really hope it works <3 Link to post Share on other sites
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