Gotti25 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Ok so I have been married for 3 years now and my 27th bday is coming up in 2 months! my mother has been constantly pressuring me to have a baby! I am her only child and she just won't stop at the point where our conversations end with us yelling & hanging up at each other! my H absolutely does not want to hear anything regarding having children & he gets very irritated when I mention to him about my mothers treats! I am not sure if we will ever have children As my husband is completely uninterested in the idea! anyone having similar issues I love my mother but she just won't stop pressuring and is really bothering me! any toughts on this?
Woggle Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Having read your threads there is no way in hell a child should be brought into this marriage.
Author Gotti25 Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 I know currently working on my marriage! Strange thing one of my friends that I know for a very long time is preggers now and her husband cheated on her while they where engaged and she did the same thing to him but now that they are having a baby they are happier then ever vacationing buying house like nothing ever happend don't understand this! the only reason I know this because her H told my H what happend!
pink_sugar Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 My mom wants to be a grandmother pretty badly, but she understands we're not ready yet and my brother is 27 and graduated college last year, still trying to pick up his feet. I want to wait until I am at least closer to 30, gives me time to get financially stable, work on my marriage and do things I'd like to do before having children that I cannot afford to do right now.
Radu Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I know currently working on my marriage! Strange thing one of my friends that I know for a very long time is preggers now and her husband cheated on her while they where engaged and she did the same thing to him but now that they are having a baby they are happier then ever vacationing buying house like nothing ever happend don't understand this! the only reason I know this because her H told my H what happend! Hysterical bonding ? Either way it will end up in a while if they haven't solved their core problems.
lemontwist Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I'm pretty much in your situation (same age, only child, married, no kids), only I'm feeling more pressure from other sources. Thankfully my parents don't bring it up, although I know my mom would LOVE to. I still feel the pressure of the situation. How do these conversations go with your mom? Does she just poke and prod, or is it more... threatening? Like if you don't give her a grandbaby she will never forgive you? Perhaps you can give her some logical reasons why you're not considering it yet. Wanting to save more money... travel... maybe get a promotion or better job. Having kids is a decision you can't be waffling about. And why would she want you to have a kid if you're not feeling ready? I imagine her response to be "No one is ever ready"... yeah sure, BUT, some foundations are much better to start from. Also, I wouldn't insinuate that you and your husbands have already made the decision. Let her hang on to some hope. Things change, you and/or your husbands stance may be different in year or two.
Recommended Posts