Mme. Chaucer Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Until all the women of the world give in and start admitting that we are awful, manipulative creatures that run the world through the power of sex, get back to the kitchen/bedroom where we belong, and date whoever shows interest in us regardless of our own opinions. Really, is that so much to ask? There is much to love about you, v! 1
SJC2008 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Couldn't POSSIBLY be that our society has unrealistic standards of beauty that only about 1% of the population can achieve... Or that women are judged first and foremost on their looks to determine their value as a person, and so derive their sense of esteem from how others judge them... Or that men constantly place emphasis on looks and then demand to know why women are so insecure... Nope, it must be A) women suck or B) women suck. Right mens standards are so unrealistic that if a woman is cute or better and is chunky, thick or a little flabby that more often not her bf will be SKINNY, skinnier than her. I see it ALL the time in my city and I live in the fattest city in the US mind you. I'm sick of seeing women with men where she couldn't fit into his jeans and hers would fall right off of him.
mesmerized Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Right mens standards are so unrealistic that if a woman is cute or better and is chunky, thick or a little flabby that more often not her bf will be SKINNY, skinnier than her. I see it ALL the time in my city and I live in the fattest city in the US mind you. I'm sick of seeing women with men where she couldn't fit into his jeans and hers would fall right off of him. Move to a less fat city??
mesmerized Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 It's not a city problem, it's women and their propensity to start bloating once in a relationship. All of this fat acceptance doesn't help either. oh shut up. In my relationships the men started bloating. Why do people on this forum just love to talk out of their bum? 3
ThaWholigan Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Your personal experiences don't change the general trend of women ballooning once they feel they have a man locked down. tell that to the equal amount of men who do the same. 2
mesmerized Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Your personal experiences don't change the general trend of women ballooning once they feel they have a man locked down. Nor does yours. You have no basis for what you're saying. Both men and women tend to stop caring as much about how they look once they don't have to try too hard to attract someone again. 2
udolipixie Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I doubt women are fishing for compliments or innately insecure as in women are naturally insecure. Seems more likely women are insecure about their looks as it seems women are considered attractive things not human beings as they have nothing to offer but sex so their value and worth is based on youth/beauty using unrealistic standards. It's not unlikely that there are women who don't think they are pretty or as pretty as others say no matter how many compliments or how much attention they receive. 2
Negative Nancy Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 for whatever reason have built im low self esteem and how much of that is really just fishing for compliments it's neither, it rather is because they see men constantly ogling other women, checking other women out, staring at other women, drooling over other women, going crazy over other women, making a big deal about other women ... basically the message women get is that they are never good enough and never enough for one man. one woman simply isnt enough for men, many admit to this on here, so how exactly is it surprising that women wonder if they are not attractive enough when men openly lust after other women? 2
aj22one Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I'm feeling ugly today OP. Do you mind giving me a compliment? haha
serial muse Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 The repetitiveness is one thing but it's the passive-aggressive "do you think women are A:mad: or --->B<---!!!!!11!!1!" that reaches a new stratosphere of annoying, IMO. Why not just say what you mean, instead of presenting false choices to people?
Taramere Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 oh shut up. In my relationships the men started bloating. Why do people on this forum just love to talk out of their bum? Because they're too busy feeding their face to talk out of their mouth?
durentu Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Fundamental principle of men and women "Men love with their eyes, Women love with their ears" - spanish proverb
Pompom Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 While I'm not entirely happy with my body, I don't fish for compliments and I have a hard time acting surprised when getting them because I do know my worth. If they're sincere, I thank them but I wouldn't ever feign an inferiority complex to get more. That'd repell the good ones and attract the pity parties. I do appreciate the more original, heartfelt ones though, like one I got today: "You're gorgeous, you're so funny I just broke a few ribs, too bad I'm religious, shorter than you and have nothing to give, but thank you for being here and making my day!" ..like, wow Also, when I say some part of my body is bad, I want agreement and support in finding a fix for it, not sugarcoating the problem to death with "Aaaaaaaw noooooooo you're perfect!". 1
Anela Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 While I'm not entirely happy with my body, I don't fish for compliments and I have a hard time acting surprised when getting them because I do know my worth. If they're sincere, I thank them but I wouldn't ever feign an inferiority complex to get more. That'd repell the good ones and attract the pity parties. I do appreciate the more original, heartfelt ones though, like one I got today: "You're gorgeous, you're so funny I just broke a few ribs, too bad I'm religious, shorter than you and have nothing to give, but thank you for being here and making my day!" ..like, wow Also, when I say some part of my body is bad, I want agreement and support in finding a fix for it, not sugarcoating the problem to death with "Aaaaaaaw noooooooo you're perfect!". You've just reminded me of a message that I received earlier this year, that said this: that's such a nice profile avatar... is it you? looks very contemplative and humanistic, the kind of feeling you don't get anymore unless you watch old french films I thought that was so nice, and it was unexpected. The picture is a few years old, so I don't quite look like that anymore, but it was still appreciated. On a dating site, with that same picture, I mainly got "sexy lady". I prefer the former response. 1
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