I don't know

[blueye28]

This might sound like an obvious response to most people, but hear my story out completely first then respond. So about 4 months ago I started a new job and hit it off unexpectedly with one of my co-workers. At first, it was a very flirty relationship but it turned more into an emotional one. He told me that he liked me and we talked almost everyday. We even spent a few times together outside of work. Nothing physical ever happened because he has a girlfriend and I refused to let that happen while he was still with her. Well, one day we hung out and really connected, he told me he was falling for me, the next day he told me he broke up with his girlfriend and was moving out. I thought things were progressing in a positive way. A couple days later, he texted me and told me he needed to take a break from "us." I was so confused because I thought things were going so well. That very next day, he was let go from work! I was devastated knowing I wouldn't be able to see him. He told me that he wasn't going to be able to move out from his "girlfriend's" place because he had no job and no money, so he would have to stay where he was at until he got back on his feet again. (I just assumed that meant that he went crawling back to her so that he wouldn't have to move out too.) So for the past 2 months, it's been like an emotional roller coaster for me. We still talk, but instead of everyday, it's more like once a week. I usually wait for him to initiate the conversation. We have seen each other a few times since too. Still our relationship has never progressed to anything physical (beyond hugging and him holding me) even though he has wanted it to. I still won't let that happen because he is still with and living with his girlfriend. He has said he wants to be with me but I don't see him making any efforts to really make that happen. He's gotten another job since so I know he is back on his feet. I feel like he is just trying to get the best of both worlds. He knows how much I like him and that I want to be with him. Part of me thinks that because he knows I'm not going anywhere that he can keep me on the back burner while he continues to live with his girlfriend and not have to worry about starting over and moving out. I really do think he likes me but I'm tired of him taking me for granted. He has said things that make me wonder if he is just scared of taking a chance on me and it not working out since right now he is in a situation where he is comfortable. He has said things like "you won't pick me" and "I know you'll break my heart". The last time I saw him before we parted ways we finally had our first kiss. I feel bad because he has a girlfriend, but my feelings for him are pretty strong and after 4 months of us connecting emotionally, I couldn't take it anymore. Pretty much right after we did, he left and later apologized saying that he freaked out, he didn't want it to feel that good and that he felt a spark and it freaked him out. Ugh. So...as you can imagine, this guy is tiring me out emotionally. I don't know what to do. Any advice on this matter would be most appreciative.

[veggirl]

He has a girlfriend. He is a cheater and is manipulating you with stupid lines. Ditch him, even if he mans up and leaves his gf you'll be nothing more than a rebound. You're gonna get hurt if you stay.