seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 im quite confused here (and im not sure why) basicly i really like this girl and im not quite sure she likes me. we text quite alot everyday with her texting me first some days and me texting her first i get alot off ''hahas'' and '''' as well as 5 or 6 x's (im sounding pretty dumb here haha) i've also noticed she tends to stare at me from a bit of a distance but blanks me when walking past (not even making eye contact and haveing her arms pretty closed up). but when we talk shes always smiling and laughing and sometimes even teases me sometimes,weve actually kissed on a few separate occasions (but we were both pretty drunk) and on one occasion we actually slept in the same bed cuddling (also pretty drunk on this occasion) nothing sexual though. i've asked her if she wanted to do something like go out together or go a walk (stupid stuff so i can actually get to talk to her) but all i ever get is ''im not sure'' or ''i dunno yet'' and i dont want to seem pushy so i tend to leave it at that. also when were together (at partys and what not) her friend always says that we'd make a nice couple etc and she just sits there quite and smiles (rarely she asks her to shut up) i was also called over to a car with her and her friends in it were she was laughing shouting to me not to listen to them (they werent saying she fancyed me but just wanted to see what i look like) whats your opinons as i feel im getting mixed signals. sorry for the length of the post.
madjac74 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 im quite confused here (and im not sure why) basicly i really like this girl and im not quite sure she likes me. we text quite alot everyday with her texting me first some days and me texting her first i get alot off ''hahas'' and '''' as well as 5 or 6 x's (im sounding pretty dumb here haha) i've also noticed she tends to stare at me from a bit of a distance but blanks me when walking past (not even making eye contact and haveing her arms pretty closed up). but when we talk shes always smiling and laughing and sometimes even teases me sometimes,weve actually kissed on a few separate occasions (but we were both pretty drunk) and on one occasion we actually slept in the same bed cuddling (also pretty drunk on this occasion) nothing sexual though. i've asked her if she wanted to do something like go out together or go a walk (stupid stuff so i can actually get to talk to her) but all i ever get is ''im not sure'' or ''i dunno yet'' and i dont want to seem pushy so i tend to leave it at that. also when were together (at partys and what not) her friend always says that we'd make a nice couple etc and she just sits there quite and smiles (rarely she asks her to shut up) i was also called over to a car with her and her friends in it were she was laughing shouting to me not to listen to them (they werent saying she fancyed me but just wanted to see what i look like) whats your opinons as i feel im getting mixed signals. sorry for the length of the post. She is treating you like a zoo animal and I don't really like it because you seem like a really nice guy
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 She is treating you like a zoo animal and I don't really like it because you seem like a really nice guy im finding it frustrating i've never had this much a hard time trying to decide were i stand...and i dont want to go straight up to her just yet at the risk of getting it completely wrong. how would you go about it if you dont mind me asking?
Emilia Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I'd say ignore her and talk to more receptive girls. She doesn't sound much fun to be honest
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 I'd say ignore her and talk to more receptive girls. She doesn't sound much fun to be honest this is another thing thats annoying me because she is actually really funny and down to earth and is normally the type of girl i go for.
Emilia Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 The thing is it doesn't sound like she is making any effort. Maybe she isn't interested. It doesn't seem like a potential is there, I'd say you are wasting your time for one reason or the other.
madjac74 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 im finding it frustrating i've never had this much a hard time trying to decide were i stand...and i dont want to go straight up to her just yet at the risk of getting it completely wrong. how would you go about it if you dont mind me asking? Well let me ask you this...how did it make you feel when you were called over to the car and they were all laughing and crap?
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 The thing is it doesn't sound like she is making any effort. Maybe she isn't interested. It doesn't seem like a potential is there, I'd say you are wasting your time for one reason or the other. i do understand were your coming from,from your point of view would you think she was leading me on because she seems to have 'adopted' a mate of mines home when we all gather for a drink...she doesnt really make much of an effort with my mates so much but seems to always tease me and be 'playful' of you like towards me, nor does she ever stop any of my advances... i think im over-thinking arnt i? haha
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Well let me ask you this...how did it make you feel when you were called over to the car and they were all laughing and crap? tbh i wasnt sure what was going on til as i think i said in my first post one of her friends who was with us at the time said they wanted to see me...i wouldnt say it would be because of my looks because ive never really had any trouble with picking up if you like...(god that sounds so vain doesnt it)
Emilia Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 i do understand were your coming from,from your point of view would you think she was leading me on because she seems to have 'adopted' a mate of mines home when we all gather for a drink...she doesnt really make much of an effort with my mates so much but seems to always tease me and be 'playful' of you like towards me, nor does she ever stop any of my advances... i think im over-thinking arnt i? haha What do you mean by the bolded part?
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 What do you mean by the bolded part? as in kissin lips/neck/body or even holding her (whilst drinking although ive never had a problem saying no while it was me get advanced on) if i was to try and hold her while we were both sober she wouldnt say a word...or react at all.
Emilia Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 as in kissin lips/neck/body or even holding her (whilst drinking although ive never had a problem saying no while it was me get advanced on) if i was to try and hold her while we were both sober she wouldnt say a word...or react at all. Ah, she is an attention whore. Find someone else
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Ah, she is an attention whore. Find someone else what would make you so sure if you dont mind me asking
Emilia Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 what would make you so sure if you dont mind me asking She is taking all your advances and attention but she isn't giving you anything in return 1
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 She is taking all your advances and attention but she isn't giving you anything in return mmm guess youd see it from an outside point of view while id be abit hopeful haha thanks anyway hopefully ill not be doing as much over thinking in the furture. guess its time to remove her from the phone
madjac74 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 She is treating you like a pet. That is more what I meant earlier by zoo animal
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 She is treating you like a pet. That is more what I meant earlier by zoo animal its the first time my heads really been all over the place with a female...as they say we learn from our experiences .
madjac74 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 its the first time my heads really been all over the place with a female...as they say we learn from our experiences . Trust me we all have girls that do that to us. You really haven't lived unless you have met a girl like that.
truth_seeker Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 its the first time my heads really been all over the place with a female...as they say we learn from our experiences . I know what you're going through. She loves the attention you give her and that seems to be it. She most likely can't even hold a relationship together, that is why she behaves the way she does. Falling for a girl like this is just as bad as falling for a stripper. It's a death sentence for you emotionally.
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Trust me we all have girls that do that to us. You really haven't lived unless you have met a girl like that. at least ive experienced it now rather than later if i was to win the lotto . anyway thanks folks might just keep a tab on this site...seems pretty helpful. 1
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 I know what you're going through. She loves the attention you give her and that seems to be it. She most likely can't even hold a relationship together, that is why she behaves the way she does. Falling for a girl like this is just as bad as falling for a stripper. It's a death sentence for you emotionally. its more the over-thinking for me because constantly i was brushing what she did aside but kept coming back to it over and over again...least i now know were i stand anyway...can start getting mentally prepared for the upset of the football season soon 1
madjac74 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 at least ive experienced it now rather than later if i was to win the lotto . anyway thanks folks might just keep a tab on this site...seems pretty helpful. The force is strong in you...live long and prosper...ok my inner dork just had to get that out.
Author seanyboy Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 The force is strong in you...live long and prosper...ok my inner dork just had to get that out. better out than in
Emilia Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Good luck Sean! If you find she starts paying more attention to you as soon as you start 'neglecting' her you know we were right all along. 1
dispatch3d Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 lol this advice is terrible I have to say something. I would ask her out and see where it goes. It looks from the stuff you're mentioning that she may be into you. I ran the "looking for attention" thing by my sister once and she at first was confused before she immediately made fun of me hahaha.
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