Gulf-Delta Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 (edited) It's been 6 months and I'm not over her at all. I just want her to come back :/ I know she's never coming back. But I want it so bad, and can't make myself stop wanting her When I proposed, I promised to love her forever. I promised to forsake all others, in sickness and health. There was a reason I said those things. Because they were 100% true, and I was ready to commit to her for life...when I invested that much into it, how can I get rid of that? When I said forever, I meant it, and my for some reason, those feelings won't fade. Edited August 2, 2012 by Gulf-Delta 1
rippedapart Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Sorry that this may not help you but you are not alone. I am on the same boat myself, 2 months post BU, she is already dating someone else. (Correction, she left me for someone else) Just feeling lonely and I know exactly how you feel. Life is so unfair some times and it seems that good people (I consider myself morally decent) suffer the most. I am sorry I have no advise for you, or me. I wish it works out for both us somehow.
Tyler. Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Gulf-Delta and rippedapart, i know how you feel. Lots of people have been there, myself included. I'm not saying stop loving them right away, but think of this. If they did love you as much as you loved them, they would have stuck around. They would have tried to fix things, make you happy and most of all, they would try anything to make it work. I'm not saying they didn't love you, but not as much as you loved them Gulf-Delta, i know you feel down, because you made promises and plans for the future and those dreams all come crashing down. But there are lots of women out there, who would appreciate those dreams with you and treat you the way you should be treated. In return you should treat them well too, and in order for you to meet a new girl, you'll have to realise it's over, it's your ex that left you so you can't do anything about it and move on.If you've been the best boyfriend you can be, then don't question it, it's her fault, you've done your best and she couldn't see it. Her loss. Rippedapart, dude i'm sorry but if she left you for someone else, it's over for good. You should never think of her again, because she doesn't deserve anything from you. Just think logically, and move on because she's probably just another liar and a cheater, and believe me there are lots of them around, both men and woman. You didn't lose on anything believe me. There are lots of people around that don't deserve love, and they prove this by cheating, lying etc... She was probably one of them, so you didn't lose anything. Don't get back together with her, she doesn't deserve you. She left you for another man, it's her loss and she will realise this, my exes always do realise how good i was to them, after meeting someone new. But there is no going back after that, there is no trust left. So be the better man, and just forget about her. And when she realises her mistake, just laugh and say '' too late.'' Millions of people out there, find someone that makes you happy, rather than sad and inadequate. 1
Author Gulf-Delta Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 Someone give me something sunny to read. I'm really in pain right now.
broken-and-lost Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 sorry m8 wish i could give you something more positive to focus on but if your still in love with the girl nothing anyone says will change that until you decide to move on and that is alway easier said then done keep your chin up and try to move forward best you can sorry for your pain
ihateslowjams Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 It's been 6 months and I'm not over her at all. I just want her to come back :/ I know she's never coming back. But I want it so bad, and can't make myself stop wanting her When I proposed, I promised to love her forever. I promised to forsake all others, in sickness and health. There was a reason I said those things. Because they were 100% true, and I was ready to commit to her for life...when I invested that much into it, how can I get rid of that? When I said forever, I meant it, and my for some reason, those feelings won't fade. Gulf, I feel ya man. Im going through the same emotions at the moment. I thought I was doing good and was on the path to healing, but the past couple days have been a huge setback. Ive maintained NC, but the thoughts of her are coming on their own now with a higher frequency... I remember during our convos, you mentioned something about a band? did you play an instrument? I decided to purchase a guitar and teach myself how to play it. I need some tips and pointers haha
Author Gulf-Delta Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 Gulf, I feel ya man. Im going through the same emotions at the moment. I thought I was doing good and was on the path to healing, but the past couple days have been a huge setback. Ive maintained NC, but the thoughts of her are coming on their own now with a higher frequency... I remember during our convos, you mentioned something about a band? did you play an instrument? I decided to purchase a guitar and teach myself how to play it. I need some tips and pointers haha I play guitar, bass, and piano/synthesizer, and recently have taken up singing. The breakup has helped me write more songs than I ever have. I guess that's one good thing that came out of it :/
Author Gulf-Delta Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 The lesson to take away from the experience is... Dating / Relationships does not = Marriage and death due us part. You are young and both you and your Ex will date others, have several relationships, break peoples hearts, have your heart broken, etc. before finally meeting the person you will marry. Its a PROCESS that we all go through. Engagement is as good as marriage in my book. Commitment is commitment.
Author Gulf-Delta Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 How did that work out for you? Labels do not mean a thing or make people love you and stay. People end relationships, people break off engagements and people get divorced. Stop chasing labels and find someone who knows who they are, knows what they want, knows what love is, are mature and have the life experience to back it up. You both are kids and asking a girl to marry you within months of meeting her isn't exactly normal or a wise thing to do. You don't really know them and its impossible to truly love someone you do not know. Oh please. Finding someone to spend your life with is the ultimate goal of relationships!
broken-and-lost Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 gulf,,, forget about the bull**** age thing there is no process i'm 39 still feeling the heartbreak no sure things in life always do what's right for you if your lucky enough to meet someone you want to commit too regardless of age then do so but as you know and so do i the sure thing and things can be taken away from you even if you don't want them too. All that said doesn't mean it's over for you or you can't be lucky enough to meet someone who will be just as compatible for you only difference between me and you you have a lot more years to keep trying and hopefully planet alined and life in balance you will good luck to you young man keep on trucking or when you find yourself in hell keep walking famous man once said that. hope your healing is quicker then mine
fucpcg Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 1 year relationship, talks of marriage and a child which is a big step for two 40 year olds, 1.5 years since she broke up with me, and I just got up from of lying in bed, thinking of her, not feeling too inspired to get up. The only thing I have to share is, I get it and you're not alone.
Sav Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Well, all I can say is everyone here can relate to what you're feeling. It's kind of a consolation knowing that you're not alone, me included. Thing is, my parents can't really give me the support during a break-up because they were each other's first love and hence never gone through a single break-up before (grr). So I like to come here and know that no matter the age, we're all not alone in this
Coffee20 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Gulf you know you are not alone in this, today I had very weak moment, I was crying and I wished so much he would understand that I love him and he will finally love me too back. But it will never ever happen again. I can't beg for love someone, who didn't even love me through our relationship. But I am sorry for what happened to you .
Author Gulf-Delta Posted August 5, 2012 Author Posted August 5, 2012 Gulf you know you are not alone in this, today I had very weak moment, I was crying and I wished so much he would understand that I love him and he will finally love me too back. But it will never ever happen again. I can't beg for love someone, who didn't even love me through our relationship. But I am sorry for what happened to you . The worst thing about it is, she never meant to hurt me, you know. Some dumpers just don't give a **** and are downright mean....but not her. I can't bring myself to hate, or even dislike her..she's hurt me, but she is also an incredible person, and was really good to me for two solid years.
Coffee20 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 The worst thing about it is, she never meant to hurt me, you know. Some dumpers just don't give a **** and are downright mean....but not her. I can't bring myself to hate, or even dislike her..she's hurt me, but she is also an incredible person, and was really good to me for two solid years. my ex is the one who doesn't give a and I can't even seem to hate him I know I read your story, that's why I find it so hard to cope for you but she decided, maybe her decision was wrong....but you really have to let her go 1
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