Author Eternal Sunshine Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 Didn't the OP literally like 2 days ago say there were no single men in her entire city? So how does she have "back-ups" ? The reality of the matter is that she wants a guy with extremely good looks and a parallel of an extremely good personality. The reality is most people tend to lean towards one side or the other, because perfect humans don't exist. But don't tell the OP that, she "knows what she wants" (wow, that DOES feel empowering to say!) Oh wait, Eternal Sunshine is a "modern woman" who compartmentalizes and mixes/matches men like they are her daily outfit. I'm sure she uses the "really good looking" back ups for sexual stimulation, and the guys with great personalities who would commit to her she uses for mental and emotional stimulation. This is the mentality of women that is a byproduct of the idiot men that came before us and actually thought letting free sex and integrating men and women everywhere was a good idea. They have no incentive to pick between fudge or cherry when they can go out and pick up some Cherry Garcia that has just the right amounts of both. I NEVER said that there are no single men in my city. I said that there are no DATABLE men. There is a huge difference. Of course there are single men around...they are just not relationship material.
HumptyDumpty Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Well... I know this back-up feeling, surfing on a dating website... One seems boring, hop, next one, and if he's kinda unsuitable, I go back to the boring one... But that's how dating sites work! And I think the guys would do the same, only prob is thats only a few girls are available for them so I get easily 10 messages at a time in my inbox! Now... I'm not a fan of it. Especially being in a relationship and even if gets a bit rougher (hard work, not seeing each other), there's always the possibility to catch up I can't do this "sex with benefits" kinda thing being single now. Has a lot of to do with my pride, me being shy and wanting something more "serious". I feel like some meat with big boobs, not being appreciated for my personality. So... no go for me. :/
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 Well... I know this back-up feeling, surfing on a dating website... One seems boring, hop, next one, and if he's kinda unsuitable, I go back to the boring one... But that's how dating sites work! And I think the guys would do the same, only prob is thats only a few girls are available for them so I get easily 10 messages at a time in my inbox! Now... I'm not a fan of it. Especially being in a relationship and even if gets a bit rougher (hard work, not seeing each other), there's always the possibility to catch up I can't do this "sex with benefits" kinda thing being single now. Has a lot of to do with my pride, me being shy and wanting something more "serious". I feel like some meat with big boobs, not being appreciated for my personality. So... no go for me. :/ I dunno...I can completely do casual thing if a guy is lacking something that is essential for me to fall in love. One of those things is intelligence. I can never fall in love with a guy that I perceive as less intelligent than me. Even if he is super good looking, it's such a turn off that I can never see him in a romantic light. Generally, my back-ups are guys like that.
iris219 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I dunno...I can completely do casual thing if a guy is lacking something that is essential for me to fall in love. One of those things is intelligence. I can never fall in love with a guy that I perceive as less intelligent than me. Even if he is super good looking, it's such a turn off that I can never see him in a romantic light. Generally, my back-ups are guys like that. But why would you want to? I'm asking out of genuine curiosity. That doesn't sound satisfying at all. It would make me more depressed than being alone. I want people I don't like, respect, or connect with out of my life. What do you get from these guys? Is it really fun hanging out with men who aren't on your level intellectually? 3
mesmerized Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 But why would you want to? I'm asking out of genuine curiosity. That doesn't sound satisfying at all. It would make me more depressed than being alone. I want people I don't like, respect, or connect with out of my life. What do you get from these guys? Is it really fun hanging out with men who aren't on your level intellectually? Because she is horny, period. Don't believe these women when they say there is no sex involved. Not that there is anything wrong with it, you go girls! 1
brahmabull117 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 (edited) Didn't the OP literally like 2 days ago say there were no single men in her entire city? So how does she have "back-ups" ? The reality of the matter is that she wants a guy with extremely good looks and a parallel of an extremely good personality. The reality is most people tend to lean towards one side or the other, because perfect humans don't exist. But don't tell the OP that, she "knows what she wants" (wow, that DOES feel empowering to say!) Huh? Plenty of guys have a nice personality and are good looking. Go to any gym All these women who complain about no good looking nice guys, I'm wondering if they're just not up to the standard of men they're looking for. I know at least 10 guys at my gym who are very likable and good looking/athletic. It's not that hard to find Edited August 3, 2012 by brahmabull117
Negative Nancy Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 they're hoping that Jacky will change her mind and WILL sleep with them. No man wants to kiss/cuddle and not have sex why are men always so desperate for sex? :rolleyes:
GorillaTheater Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 why are men always so desperate for sex? :rolleyes: We're hard-wired to f*ck and kill. Take your pick. 4
brahmabull117 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 why are men always so desperate for sex? :rolleyes: It's called Testosterone
iris219 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Huh? Plenty of guys have a nice personality and are good looking. Go to any gym All these women who complain about no good looking nice guys, I'm wondering if they're just not up to the standard of men they're looking for. I know at least 10 guys at my gym who are very likable and good looking/athletic. It's not that hard to find It's nearly impossible to find when you're over 30. You're 20 something. I'm sure there are young guys at your gym. I go to the gym most days and there are rarely ever men my age there at all and when they are there they have on wedding bands. I've don't even think about looks anymore--I simply don't have that luxury--so being good looking means very little to me. I'd go on a date with just about any not deformed man over 30 if he seemed normal.
oaks Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 It's nearly impossible to find when you're over 30. You're 20 something. I'm sure there are young guys at your gym. I go to the gym most days and there are rarely ever men my age there at all and when they are there they have on wedding bands. I've don't even think about looks anymore--I simply don't have that luxury--so being good looking means very little to me. I'd go on a date with just about any not deformed man over 30 if he seemed normal. You need to move. (to London)
brahmabull117 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 It's nearly impossible to find when you're over 30. You're 20 something. I'm sure there are young guys at your gym. I go to the gym most days and there are rarely ever men my age there at all and when they are there they have on wedding bands. I've don't even think about looks anymore--I simply don't have that luxury--so being good looking means very little to me. I'd go on a date with just about any not deformed man over 30 if he seemed normal. well yea dating sucks after 30 Why not be open to guys in their late 20s? I have friends from 23 to 37 and there's not a big difference between a 28 year old guy and a 34 year old guy
proseandpassion Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 well yea dating sucks after 30 Why not be open to guys in their late 20s? I have friends from 23 to 37 and there's not a big difference between a 28 year old guy and a 34 year old guy Yes there is.
brahmabull117 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Yes there is. in what area? I hang out with my best friend's older brothers and I would say the 28 year old is more mature than the 35+ year old. Women just have a weird complex where they can't date guys more than a few years younger for some inexplicable reason. All you're doing is severely limiting your opportunities for dating
RedRobin Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Women just have a weird complex where they can't date guys more than a few years younger for some inexplicable reason. The reason is not inexplicable... There is still a social stigma of sorts that limits it... Women don't like being called names (cougars, etc) and lots of men feel it is 'beneath' them to have a committed relationship with an older woman... for the same reasons they feel 'emasculated' by taller, more educated, or financially well-off women. As long as so many men feel the need to be with women they deem 'inferior' in order to feel good about themselves, this will be an issue. All you're doing is severely limiting your opportunities for dating I agree with that... Women should take each person as an individual. 1
RedRobin Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 It's nearly impossible to find when you're over 30. You're 20 something. I'm sure there are young guys at your gym. I go to the gym most days and there are rarely ever men my age there at all and when they are there they have on wedding bands. I've don't even think about looks anymore--I simply don't have that luxury--so being good looking means very little to me. I'd go on a date with just about any not deformed man over 30 if he seemed normal. I feel your pain....
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 But why would you want to? I'm asking out of genuine curiosity. That doesn't sound satisfying at all. It would make me more depressed than being alone. I want people I don't like, respect, or connect with out of my life. What do you get from these guys? Is it really fun hanging out with men who aren't on your level intellectually? Because I want some company and physical closeness...it's as simple as that. I enjoy spending time on my own but occasionally I crave more. 1
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 BTW iris, seriously try OLD.
Leopard Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Because I want some company and physical closeness...it's as simple as that. I enjoy spending time on my own but occasionally I crave more. I think every woman feels like this sometimes.
lino Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Lucky are the blokes who end up with these types of women!
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 Lucky are the blokes who end up with these types of women! I don't see a problem. When I am in a relationship, I am 100% committed and loyal. All back-up options are gone. This is only for when I am single and can't meet anyone that's a relationship material.
snug.bunny Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I mean, when things are a bit slow romance wise, do you text/call your back-ups and see them? "Work has been crazy lately, sorry I have been out of touch...do you want to catch up soon?" Mine know the deal and I am pretty sure they are not that into me either. Nobody gets hurt, so I don't see a problem... I like spending time with guys I am actually into. Generally speaking, I'm not "into" guys I was involved with romantically in the past... Once the door closes, it's sealed shut. The closest scenario I can think of, was someone I was casually involved with for about a year, but I wasn't dating anyone else during that time. I guess if they don't have issue with it, and neither do you, no harm no foul.
morichu Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I like spending time with guys I am actually into. Generally speaking, I'm not "into" guys I was involved with romantically in the past... Once the door closes, it's sealed shut. The closest scenario I can think of, was someone I was casually involved with for about a year, but I wasn't dating anyone else during that time. Quoted for truth. Too many people nowadays are insecure and need someone to care for/hold their hand at all times, even when it's someone from the past who they know they won't be happy long term with. It's pathetic. Not only that but keeping around past baggage will drive off future mates. What's wrong with being single for a little while and just going out and having fun with your friends?
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