miss_jaclynrae Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Yes I doooo. They are mostly just friends. Sure we kiss, cuddle, and all that stuff, but we don't sleep together. They ARE good company and it is uncomplicated, so what is the issue? As long as we are both on the same page, I see no problem.
Emilia Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Yes I doooo. They are mostly just friends. Sure we kiss, cuddle, and all that stuff, but we don't sleep together. They ARE good company and it is uncomplicated, so what is the issue? As long as we are both on the same page, I see no problem. You are the reason why some people don't believe in opposite sex friendships. 4
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 You are the reason why some people don't believe in opposite sex friendships. I have plently of male friends who are JUST friends too... sooo...
rocketman122 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Yes I doooo. They are mostly just friends. Sure we kiss, cuddle, and all that stuff, but we don't sleep together. They ARE good company and it is uncomplicated, so what is the issue? As long as we are both on the same page, I see no problem. Its very whorish and and being a coKK teaser, thats the problem..just thinking about what you touched with those lips...hmm I read your rant..and you want to get married..right..the way youre whoring around..sure. hold on to #2 because number 1 will soon see the real you and will not put that ring on your finger. This very second I got a text from an OLD member I sent a message to 12 days ago. it was obvious she was dating someone, and it didnt go well, so NEXT!! but I dont play that game. if I click on her profile again then im interested, otherwise, no thank you. I have enough options. besides she's in her 30's and you can see she's being aggressive in trying to find someone and get pregnant..tick tock. 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Its very whorish and and being a coKK teaser, thats the problem..just thinking about what you touched with those lips...hmm I read your rant..and you want to get married..right..the way youre whoring around..sure. hold on to #2 because number 1 will soon see the real you and will not put that ring on your finger. This very second I got a text from an OLD member I sent a message to 12 days ago. it was obvious she was dating someone, and it didnt go well, so NEXT!! but I dont play that game. if I click on her profile again then im interested, otherwise, no thank you. I have enough options. besides she's in her 30's and you can see she's being aggressive in trying to find someone and get pregnant..tick tock. I am fully aware that I am the LS whore around here.
utterer of lies Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I mean, when things are a bit slow romance wise, do you text/call your back-ups and see them? "Work has been crazy lately, sorry I have been out of touch...do you want to catch up soon?" Of course. Only that I don't lie to them, which you seem to do.
somedude81 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Of course. Only that I don't lie to them, which you seem to do. Oh the irony!
BellaMarieOC Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 No, I did in college but I think I'm too old for relationships like that now (I'm in my 30's). I would probably think differently if I never wanted to get married or have kids though....
grkBoy Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I mean, when things are a bit slow romance wise, do you text/call your back-ups and see them? "Work has been crazy lately, sorry I have been out of touch...do you want to catch up soon?" Mine know the deal and I am pretty sure they are not that into me either. Nobody gets hurt, so I don't see a problem... As long as you're not in some established exclusive relationship where it would be construed as cheating, then there is no issue.
utterer of lies Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Oh the irony! Truly I am a paragon of truth!
RedRobin Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 True friends are true friends... no matter which gender and what else I have going on in my life. I don't put my friends on the back-burner when I started dating someone. I would never consider any of them to be a back-up plan... They are a part of my life and my theirs. But to the jyst of your question... no, I don't dial up past exes or people who (for whatever reason) it didn't work out with. If I cared about them as a person (but we weren't compatible) I would have tried to keep them as a friend... if they didn't want to be my friend (which is A-OK too)... I figure it's movin on time for both of us. too many other people to meet... too many good friends that need/want my time... too many new things in life to enjoy and learn about. 1
RedRobin Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I like to clear the way for the right one, which means, to me, being entirely single, no back-ups, nothing. Same here.
veggirl Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Yes I doooo. They are mostly just friends. Sure we kiss, cuddle, and all that stuff, but we don't sleep together. They ARE good company and it is uncomplicated, so what is the issue? As long as we are both on the same page, I see no problem. I am fully aware that I am the LS whore around here. You don't sound like a whore, you just sound very young and attention-starved. I really really doubt you and your male "friends" that kiss and cuddle you are on the same page. I'd bet they want more. 2
betterdeal Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 You make it sound like being a whore is bad thing, veggie.
betterdeal Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I have to say, this is one of your poorer efforts to stoke up a debate, Eternal. Are you having a stable period or something? 2
DreamerDeceiver Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 (edited) "Friends" don't have passionate make-out sessions with eachother. If a guy wants to think he's friends with a girl, who keeps cock-teasing him, then it's his fault if he goes crying on about it later when she doesn't give it up. Guys are so dumb sometimes... a girl can make a guy think he's "friends" with her through beauty and affectionate touch alone. If that's OK with him fine, but to me it's self-deception. As for the girl, well, she benefits through ego stroking and attention - nothing wrong with that if the guy wants to suffer over it. Because believe me, they're too scared to say their true feelings, which is how they end up in this mess in the first place. After being the "rebound guy", I have a totally different look on this subject. Edited August 2, 2012 by DreamerDeceiver
StrangeBehaviors Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Sunshiney, the deal to me is this: Some of these guys want to be "the one" even though you may think you have all the cards on the table. And I've never met a guy from any age, race, religion etc. that really wanted to be friends with someone of the opposite sex. Doubly not if they are attracted to them. Now put yourself in some of the guys' position that secretly want more. You might find yourself in that position one day. Some guy that you are head over heels for and you are just.....the backup plan. Like that scenario? See you in NY!
veggirl Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 You make it sound like being a whore is bad thing, veggie. no but she didn't sound like one. well, attention-whore maybe 1
proseandpassion Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I do tend to agree that when you have a lot of partners, a lot of attention being divided among several people, all that energy may be blocking others from entering the picture. I have been single for years, but a lot of people tell me they assumed I wasn't single and never approached me because of that factor. It was just something about me that said "taken" - even though I wasn't.
mesmerized Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Back up options are backup for a reason...You're not that into them. I don't understand having a backup option to "date", for sex I've had a few but I very rarely resorted to them even when I was alone and horny.
Kofybean Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I mean, when things are a bit slow romance wise, do you text/call your back-ups and see them? "Work has been crazy lately, sorry I have been out of touch...do you want to catch up soon?" Mine know the deal and I am pretty sure they are not that into me either. Nobody gets hurt, so I don't see a problem... Wait... wait, weren't you the one who kicked off that thread that there are no good men left? 1
Imported Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Sometimes I get lonely and bored. I enjoy their company.....every now and then. I currently have 2 that I can text/call and I know they would come. I am sure they are both dating others too, they don't seem to get hurt or ask for explanations... Probably a big reason why you can't find any "datable" men. What guy would take you seriously. 2
johan Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 A neg! I finally saw one! And now it's only a matter of time before she falls for you, you mean guy. This will be fun to watch.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 Probably a big reason why you can't find any "datable" men. What guy would take you seriously. hello there :love:
Leopard Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Yes. Only one though, and I have known him for 7 years. We don't see each other when either of us are dating someone though, in which case, no back up.
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