Armywife311 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 My husband and I have been married 10 years and for about the past 5 I have had such low self esteem that I took my anger and hurt out on him. Finally the past couple years I was even too embarrassed to be intimate. He has now asked me for a divorce because he says he can't trust me with his heart. We have 2 beautiful children,too. I love him with all my heart and honestly never knew how much I was hurting him. I am working on myself as much as I can, but how do I show him that it's ok to let me back in? He's in Chicago now and I'm in ca so we won't even see each other til October. I would love as much advice as I can get. I def owe it to him and our family if it's possible to fix what I have done.
TaraMaiden Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Why have you had such low self-esteem... for so long? how come it appeared half-way through the marriage?
Brandroid Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Why have you had such low self-esteem... for so long? how come it appeared half-way through the marriage? That's what i'm wondering too... Also, There should be no reason to have low self-esteem, unless he cheated on you then that is understandable. If not however you should know that no matter what you do OR look like he will (or SHOULD) love you.
Author Armywife311 Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 We were in a horrible car accident and I was unable to walk for a while. I gained 100 lbs during that. Then with fertility I gained a few more. I've had 2 c-sections as well and just was terribly embarrassed of my body,it really wasn't him but it took me till these past 3 months of therapy to see that. I never meant to say things to hurt his feelings but I realize now that it was easier for me to hurt him then see how much I was hurting.
TaraMaiden Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I'm really sorry to hear that, i hope things are better for you now... is there any way you could perhaps see a doctor and confirm that all your pattern of behaviour was down to trauma, depression, the treatment... and perhaps then explain that to your H with/for you? I'm just thinking that with everything that's happened to you, it's all been exceptionally harrowing, and to be honest, you can't have entirely been in your right mind.....
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