tivoconga Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I had met a girl online a month or so ago and we texted a lot - usually responses were within a few hours, if not minutes. We finally went out on a first date, she kept saying she was having the best time throughout the date and her pictures on Facebook say it was the best day ever (which was presumably an exaggeration, and obviously not a direct indicatoon of how she felt about me - but definitely not a bad sign). A few hours after the date, I got a few long text messages from her - I think I responded to one, then a really long one the next day, and now it takes about 1-1.5 days to get a response and they're on the short side without much content. A few details: 1. She would usually initiate contact. 2. I told her I would be out of town for about a week owing the first date. Is the change in communication a bad thing, or nothing to worry about? Is she testing me to see if I'll be a bit more proactive/be more aggressive in pursuing? Thoughts would be great.
Ami1uwant Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 She either is not interested in you---so her comments were lies. She met someone else or someone else she was going out with she is more interested in rather than you.
Pasttense Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Huh, Ami1uwant? The girl texted heavily after the date, the OP wasn't very responsive. So the girl decided the OP wasn't interested in her and is withdrawing. So the OP needs to be more proactive--ask her for another date...
Author tivoconga Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Well, as mentioned, I met her online, so I would be surprised if there weren't a few other guys drifting around in some way...in particular because we have only met once. Regardless, my response speed hasn't changed much - she seems to run around with her phone glued to her hands...it usually took me a few hours. As for texting - I don't like it, but she seems to be a fan. Besides, I'm out of the state for a week and can't get much time away from my hosts...a call would be likely 5 minutes at an odd ball time...assuming she answered. I'll ask her out again - should I do it now, or wait until the date wouldn't be ~1 week away? I'm not sure if she's simply slowing things down because I'm gone, has questuonable interest, waning interest, or what...
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