We've only dated for 5 weeks, but it feels like 6 months... Is this good or bad??

[dextm]

To me, it's a positive sign of things. I need to have this connection early on to know that I can continue seeing this person and trusting them. I need to feel comfortable around them and I need them to feel comfortable around me.

 

To her, it feels foreign, insecure, and unsure. She doesn't like the fact that it feels like 6 months when virtually no time has passed because she's never been in this situation before.

 

We often talk on the phone for long hours but we don't see each very often, maybe 6 times max? What can I do to make her feel better?

[january2011]

Have you asked her what you can do? If not, ask her and do it, if it seems reasonable to you.

 

I'm with you on the feeling comfortable with each other and feeling like you've known each other a lot longer than you actually have. Sign of strong compatbility to me. Though, I've witnessed second-hand that there are those who don't like it when relationships move too quickly and may feel uncomfortable and "rushed" into a commitment that they're not ready to make. She may be one of these people. Therefore, I suggest talking to her about it and finding a pace that suits both of you.

[dextm]

No one's rushing anyone into anything. But it feels that way I guess. What can anyone do when it's such a natural progression?