YorickBrown Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 New update: wait for it... wait for it!! I was in a 19 month long distance relationship with this kid. Supported him up and down. He then moved back to NY to be closer to friends, family, and obviously me. He was so excited. He comes back gets a job with a major league baseball team, and is literally at that job... i'd say a month, two at tops when he dumps me. Swears up and down there is no one else he just needs to be single. Guess where this broad is from?!?!? THE STADIUM. He met her at work while dating me. Oh, and she's 5 years younger. Lets just WAIT FOR IT and see how long this lasts!! HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAH I cannot WAIT until Karma punches him right in the face. Gee I dunno where to begin...I'm sorry, Im a little sh:eek:ck, I thought of all the members here, the KatZee has her ****zee together the most...I just cant believe that she's gone quite a bit bonkers over an FB pic of her ex?!? Really?!? I mean so what if the ex "lied" to you and said he wanted to be single? Big deal, that was to be expected anyways. Or, maybe you just misunderstood....he found work and METs her at Shea Stadium right? Maybe he wanted to get a "single" (hahaha, some baseball pun their:p) It's just the first inning....pitch him a lot of curve balls, and take a walk to first base...He will strike out eventually. As for Karma, you would probably prefer he gets hit in the nutsack so he won't get to hump so much in Hamptons:laugh: (seriously?) Geez...that would be a home run Sorry.
darkmoon Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 (edited) it's summer - most everyone is flirting, join the throng, you might find out how much fun life is all over again xx Edited August 2, 2012 by darkmoon
Author KatZee Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Gee I dunno where to begin...I'm sorry, Im a little sh:eek:ck, I thought of all the members here, the KatZee has her ****zee together the most...I just cant believe that she's gone quite a bit bonkers over an FB pic of her ex?!? Really?!? I mean so what if the ex "lied" to you and said he wanted to be single? Big deal, that was to be expected anyways. Or, maybe you just misunderstood....he found work and METs her at Shea Stadium right? Maybe he wanted to get a "single" (hahaha, some baseball pun their:p) It's just the first inning....pitch him a lot of curve balls, and take a walk to first base...He will strike out eventually. As for Karma, you would probably prefer he gets hit in the nutsack so he won't get to hump so much in Hamptons:laugh: (seriously?) Geez...that would be a home run Sorry. hahaha the issue wasn't over the picture. the issue the lies. The constant, constant, constant lies. I get that dumpers lie. But my ex was a liar while IN the relationship as well, and I gave him AMPLE opportunity to just grow up, own up his ****, tell me the truth. I told him I felt someone else was involved. Just to LET ME KNOW so I could move forward. Does he do that? No. Instead he proceeds to tell me he sees us getting back together, that he just needed to work on himself. Put this whole, "holier than thou" horsesh*t speech out there on how I'm such a great girlfriend and wants to start fresh... and then this? I mean COME ON. I'm not an idiot and I knew he was trying to hide something weeks ago, so this really isn't a complete surprise, but how stupid can you be? Honestly? He runs around trying to hide, be a little sneaky sneak. Don't liars know that sh*t will pretty much always come back to bite you in the as$?? It's so simple. TELL THE TRUTH. There is less to remember that way. THAT'S what made me pissed off. Not the fact that there is someone else, b/c of course there will be, and I couldn't really care what he does or who he sticks it in. It's the fact I have such a strong moral compass. I believe in treating others with respect, and courtesy. And I absolutely have zero tolerance for the lying. I just can't wrap my brain around liars.
Author KatZee Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 it's summer - most everyone is flirting, join the throng, you might find out how much fun life is all over again xx hahaha i'm having a really fun summer so far, and actually am surprised how well I am moving on. I'm not really into the whole "flirting" thing. That's just me though. I currently have 4 guys attempting to date me right now and I'm starting to feel guilty because I know they either already expect something from me, or they're going to be expecting something from me, and I'm not the random sex, no strings attached kind of person, nor am I really wanting a relationship right now so I'm going to have to cut the cord on these guys. I can't get away with getting free dinners, and drinks forever! hahaha.
YorickBrown Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 hahaha the issue wasn't over the picture. the issue the lies. The constant, constant, constant lies. I get that dumpers lie. But my ex was a liar while IN the relationship as well, and I gave him AMPLE opportunity to just grow up, own up his ****, tell me the truth. I told him I felt someone else was involved. Just to LET ME KNOW so I could move forward. Does he do that? No. Instead he proceeds to tell me he sees us getting back together, that he just needed to work on himself. Put this whole, "holier than thou" horsesh*t speech out there on how I'm such a great girlfriend and wants to start fresh... and then this? I mean COME ON. I'm not an idiot and I knew he was trying to hide something weeks ago, so this really isn't a complete surprise, but how stupid can you be? Honestly? He runs around trying to hide, be a little sneaky sneak. Don't liars know that sh*t will pretty much always come back to bite you in the as$?? It's so simple. TELL THE TRUTH. There is less to remember that way. THAT'S what made me pissed off. Not the fact that there is someone else, b/c of course there will be, and I couldn't really care what he does or who he sticks it in. It's the fact I have such a strong moral compass. I believe in treating others with respect, and courtesy. And I absolutely have zero tolerance for the lying. I just can't wrap my brain around liars. Honestly. Would you have been less hurt and angry if he admitted that he was ending the relationship because of someone else? My ex practically did the same thing to me (except she's a girl --and quite stupidly spectacular i might add)...and I caught her lies in a much much worse circumstances. Did I go bonkers? For a little while, but not by that much. I guess it helped that I kinda knew from the start that the relationship was not really meant to last and it could end at anytime so I had prepared myself for it. My "crystal ball" was at work more than my moral compass...you might say, I wasn't concerned much where I was going, but just looking up ahead ---way ahead. And while I admire that you're a "Good Girl" or "Moral Momma" of some sort, you hafta drop or leave the friggin compass sometimes, because it doesn't work all the time especially in matters of love and life. Instead, get yourself a pretty good camera....and take pictures of those boytoys of yours
Matt145 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 My ex said the exact same things to me, and im not gunna lie but if she ever does what ur ex does which i think the probability is high, if im over her or not i would go psycho on her still for lying to me and making me believe her, but thats just me and im a guy too.
TaraMaiden Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 you've definitely lost the plot..... And you have Karma completely wrong too, BtW... but now's not the time or the place - I might get a knife in the ribs.... Dah-dah-DAAAAAH!
stillafool Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I'm so sorry you are hurting. After being broken up for 3 months I don't see anything wrong with deciding to date other people. Afterall he is only 26 years old and 4 years is not that big a difference in age. I think you should date one of the 4 guys that are chasing after you. You sound like a woman who has her stuff together and can get anyone you want. Forget about your ex and enjoy the rest of your summer Ex-free.
Author KatZee Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Honestly. Would you have been less hurt and angry if he admitted that he was ending the relationship because of someone else? Honestly it would have hurt but it wouldn't have come as a surprise. Knowing him for three years, I've really gotten to know who he is as an individual and what his MO is. His MO is to run away when things get tough, and just jump into something new without processing or getting through the old. And it comes back to haunt him every time. So if he would have said, I found someone else, at least I would have started moving on from day one. Instead, I hung around for FIVE WEEKS because of everything he said to me. (I love you, want to fix myself, I can see us starting fresh once my head is straight, you're my best friend, I don't want to lose you...etc etc.)
Author KatZee Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 I'm so sorry you are hurting. After being broken up for 3 months I don't see anything wrong with deciding to date other people. Afterall he is only 26 years old and 4 years is not that big a difference in age. I think you should date one of the 4 guys that are chasing after you. You sound like a woman who has her stuff together and can get anyone you want. Forget about your ex and enjoy the rest of your summer Ex-free. It wouldn't be wrong if he just faced up to the issues at hand. This is what he does though. Jumps from person to person without fixing a thing. He runs and hides behind facades, he runs to the next thing that's new b/c there's no history, and no depth. He keeps things extremely superficial because he's very closed off due to something that happened 5 years ago. I'm not surprised it blew up in his face as fast as it did. And the funny thing is that he said he liked a certain "type" (blonde hair, blue eyes) and this girl he tried seeing is virtually a carbon of me. Dark hair, dark eyes, relatively same build. I actually do feel kind of sorry for him because I know him and see right through him. He's deeply unhappy, trying to chase a high, he has no idea what he's doing, no one close to him to turn to. It's sad.
Ruby65 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 So if he would have said, I found someone else, at least I would have started moving on from day one. Instead, I hung around for FIVE WEEKS because of everything he said to me. (I love you, want to fix myself, I can see us starting fresh once my head is straight, you're my best friend, I don't want to lose you...etc etc.) That's what drives me crazy, too....... the LIES they tell you JUST IN CASE it doesn't work out with the new bf/gf and they need to come back to you..... It's that BACK BURNER PLAN B b.s. that drives me crazy!!!! Good for you for bouncing back so quickly. I agree I would've been devastated to see posts like that on FB so soon after the breakup, given what he said. Btw, I used to live in the Hamptons and from what I hear, this year they're having the WORST TRAFFIC EVER hahahhaaaaaa!!
Author KatZee Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 That's what drives me crazy, too....... the LIES they tell you JUST IN CASE it doesn't work out with the new bf/gf and they need to come back to you..... It's that BACK BURNER PLAN B b.s. that drives me crazy!!!! Good for you for bouncing back so quickly. I agree I would've been devastated to see posts like that on FB so soon after the breakup, given what he said. Btw, I used to live in the Hamptons and from what I hear, this year they're having the WORST TRAFFIC EVER hahahhaaaaaa!! I'm not even sure if they were lies! Apparently he told his friends our split was only "temporary" so he may have been being truthful on the day of our split. Either way, he decided to end it fully when he thought he found something better, only to be smacked in the face with the reality that NO she was NOT better than me. What I'm now pondering is why did he ask to have that photo of them removed from FB? It was clear it was b/c he found out I knew... so if they were dating and happy, he'd have no reason to take it down. But within the hour of him finding out I knew, it was removed... dun dun dun...
Ruby65 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I'm not even sure if they were lies! Apparently he told his friends our split was only "temporary" so he may have been being truthful on the day of our split. Either way, he decided to end it fully when he thought he found something better, only to be smacked in the face with the reality that NO she was NOT better than me. What I'm now pondering is why did he ask to have that photo of them removed from FB? It was clear it was b/c he found out I knew... so if they were dating and happy, he'd have no reason to take it down. But within the hour of him finding out I knew, it was removed... dun dun dun... I would guess he just doesn't want to look like such a massive douche. Which is probably why he made a point of telling your mutual friends the breakup was only temporary....? Nobody wants to be seen as the bad guy, right?
Author KatZee Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 I would guess he just doesn't want to look like such a massive douche. A little too late for that. Why do I get the feeling he was thinking about contacting me? And then that picture went live and it was like *facepalm*
Author KatZee Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Which is probably why he made a point of telling your mutual friends the breakup was only temporary....? Nobody wants to be seen as the bad guy, right? I never even thought about it this way. I thought maybe he genuinely did want to try to make it work... but I never thought it could have been a ploy to make himself out to be the "good guy."
flitzanu Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 I really don't even know why I'm surprised. I'm not so much hurt as I am STEAMING angry. Even after all the crap my ex put me through, I still wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt and believe what he told me when breaking up. He had never been single, needed to be alone because he never was. Just wanted to focus on himself. Blah, blah, blah. Basically, why even read any further? Everyone here knows this is a load of horse manure. I'll go on anyway. So he's blocked on FB but I'm still mutual friends with everyone so I saw his cousin posted summer pictures and I just went to look. He's in a couple of them, one is with this one girl. Her body is facing him dead on, they are pressed together... it's not a family member. I was around 3 years. So being the nosey person I am, I wanted to see who I could FB stalk to fill me in on who this chick could be. Found a mutual friend that I know he spends his weekends with... and lo and behold... there is a post from this girl using a phrase my ex used all the time. Saying what a fun weekend they had. My ex took her to his Hamptons house. The one he always took me to. He brought her into the whole circle of friends. She's been introduced to his entire family. We've been broken up just under 3 months now. And she's around his friends group and his family. This clearly isn't something that just started... so EVERYTHING he told me when breaking up with me was a load of garbage. I know, I KNOW! I shouldn't be surprised. But I'm shaking I'm so angry. I want to call him out I'm so angry. Call him out for the lying, deceitful piece of sh*t he really is. But I know I can't, because then I look psycho. So that's why I'm posting here... so I can vent... and figuratively punch things. I hate him. I truly, honestly, fully, hate him. He couldn't even have been honest at any point. That's what gets me. sounds like what my ex gf did a week after we split up. new boy, new life, everything about me was nonexistent. i wanted to be angry and feel forgotten, but you know what i realized? it's a waste of energy to be mad at her actions. when someone no longer cares about you, no amount of angry words you yell at them are going to matter, and you'll just want to yell more and more.
Author KatZee Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 sounds like what my ex gf did a week after we split up. new boy, new life, everything about me was nonexistent. i wanted to be angry and feel forgotten, but you know what i realized? it's a waste of energy to be mad at her actions. when someone no longer cares about you, no amount of angry words you yell at them are going to matter, and you'll just want to yell more and more. I did get angry a month ago when he sent me the text telling me to lose his number. It was completely out of no where (for me anyway)... now I see it was because he wanted to explore with this new chick. The only thing I can say makes me feel OK about this despite the hilarity of this thread, is that he looks like the major as*bag now. Not me. He thought he found something better. Was SO convinced of it that he treated me like a pile of garbage and threw me out of his life despite "loving me." And here he is, back to square one, new girl gone... who even knows why it ended... but I don't care. Fact is, I'm a tough act to follow and no one is going to be able to compete with that. At least not in the after stages of the split... but he some how thought, she would be it. And now she's not. So not only does he not have this new distraction... now he has to face reality that he disrespected and he treated like crap the one person who was truly there for him, who had supported him, loved him, etc. Putting myself in his shoes, if that's the way I behaved towards someone... the guilt I'd be feeling right now would be immense and I'd feel like the biggest idiot on the planet.
skyisfalling Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Katzee.. ive been reading this thread and I must admit, it made my day. haha, you are so funny and I find your writing style absolutely entertaining, i love it!! You have so much personality, its quite fascinating. Your ex is a douchebag and I hope he loses all his hair before he turns 30
Author KatZee Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 Katzee.. ive been reading this thread and I must admit, it made my day. haha, you are so funny and I find your writing style absolutely entertaining, i love it!! You have so much personality, its quite fascinating. Your ex is a douchebag and I hope he loses all his hair before he turns 30 :laugh::laugh: You just made MY DAY! Turns out, my ex inherited the baldness gene from one side of his family. He was losing hair on the sides and it totally was receding!! I have no doubt that he'll one day be bald...and he I can tell you that he DOESN'T and WON'T pull off the Vin Diesel look very well! 1
Ruby65 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I never even thought about it this way. I thought maybe he genuinely did want to try to make it work... but I never thought it could have been a ploy to make himself out to be the "good guy." What's amazing to me is how hard it is to imagine you're being lied to. I know I always take everything that's said to me during a breakup very literally and examine everything that was said to me like it's the gospel...... but in reality, how often are you really told the truth about anything during a breakup? Speaking from my limited experience as a dumper, I rarely told the truth. Mostly because I didn't want to hurt their feelings. But also because my reasons were pretty messed up and I didn't want to appear to be as selfish and shallow as I really was at the time.... I think your ex was busy establishing a fake story about the breakup only being temporary to secure himself as being less-than-awful among your mutual friends.... but also so that if things didn't work out for him on his own and he wanted you back, he could pretend that was his intention all along. And yes: baldness is SWEET REVENGE.
Author KatZee Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 I think your ex was busy establishing a fake story about the breakup only being temporary to secure himself as being less-than-awful among your mutual friends.... but also so that if things didn't work out for him on his own and he wanted you back, he could pretend that was his intention all along. And yes: baldness is SWEET REVENGE. Seriously. First he tells mutual friends that it was only temporary, but the day he sent me that text telling me to lose his number, he was like, "Oh it was my fault I led you to believe there would be something more. I should have told you to sell the jewelry from the beginning." So what was it?!?!?! Temporary, or was it your intention to end it for good when you did? Like pick a story and stick with it! 1
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