Car10e Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 "I hope she is doing well and I still love her. I want no hard feelings there. Its just not right at this moment" My ex bf told one of my friends this a month after breaking up. Its hard to move on, knowing he is telling people we're not good for each other "at the moment." I know he has told other people this, including my brother. Should I think anything of this? I feel like he is still keeping the door open for us sometime later on?
k100danny Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I tend to think if you aren't right at the moment. Aren't wanting the same thing s ect then it usually doesnt work full stop. some people say they met the right person at the wrong time ect but this isn't the case. people adjust and there is no right time to fall in love and meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, it might be hard to maintain due to work ect and things like that but these hurdles are easily overcome when you are serious about a commited relationship.
Author Car10e Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 I tend to think if you aren't right at the moment. Aren't wanting the same thing s ect then it usually doesnt work full stop. some people say they met the right person at the wrong time ect but this isn't the case. people adjust and there is no right time to fall in love and meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, it might be hard to maintain due to work ect and things like that but these hurdles are easily overcome when you are serious about a commited relationship. I should say I'm 22 and still in school. He is going to be 25 next month, and still in school. We are still young, and both were trying to move forward in our lives, together and as individuals. One thing his friends have mentioned is the fact that all his friends have graduated college years ago, and have full time jobs. Some of them have stated maybe its because he feels you are at different levels of your lives. It never seemed to bother him before, but he has mentioned he feels like he is going through some kind of mid-life crisis and doesn't know what he wants right now. But the fact that he says we aren't good for each other at the moment, leads me to believe he is still kind of keeping a window open for us later on if we are for some reason reunited.
Dblock10 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 hey car. yeah i am 26 now and my ex was your age at the time. id say maybe he doesnt know what he wants because when your at school you dont know whats going to happen after. but tbh if he wants to be with you he will. yeah he is leaving the door open by saying that. i think its only fair on you though to know where you stand.. i mean, how long do you want to wait? is it fair to wait?
Author Car10e Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 I never said I was gonna wait. I mean I'm not gonna jump into a relationship just because I don't want to be alone. If someone comes along then yeah, but I'm not gonna sit and wait for him. I'm saying for right now, its hard to move on knowing he keeps telling people that.
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