Have I left it too long?

[bs0u416d]

Hi guys, I've been trawling the forums for some reassurance regarding my own situation but I've decided to dive in and see if any of you have some wise words to offer. This is long, I'm sorry!

 

I broke up with my boyfriend about 6 weeks ago. We had been in a serious relationship for 2 years and seeing one another for a further 6 months before that.

 

Things had been great for us, we were in a very mature, loving and supportive *relationship. We had made plans to move in together next summer and had discussed the prospect of marriage further down the line. Things started going wrong for us about 3 months before the end.

 

For work and uni commitments, we had to spend some months apart in different cities. We were both working incredibly hard and it was difficult to get the quality time in, both in person and over the phone. This began to drive an emotional wedge between us which we failed to acknowledge in time. Before long, we were back living in the same city but the distance between us persisted un-checked and started to manifest into a lack of physical intimacy too. It got to the point that we were really bogged down and I couldn't see the wood for the trees. My boyfriend though we could work through things but I just couldn't see a way out of the hole we had dug for ourselves. Despite still being in love with him, I suggested that we ended the uncertainty and anguish and call a day on the relationship. I was heart broken by this decision but I dint know what else to do.

 

We both decided we really wanted to be in each others lives and promisednto stay friends. Easier said than done but we have seen each other twice in the past 5 or 6 weeks and texted each other checking we're ok and such like.

 

The thing is, I've regretted breaking up from the begging. It was really the jolt to the system that I needed and the weeks since have given me the clarity and *space to know that he is the love of my life and that we can fix our problems.

 

Having sent him a long email, explaining my feelings and taking responsibility for my part in those problems, I am waiting to hear back form him. He replied very quickly to say that he needed to process things before he got back to me but he thinks too much time has passed.

 

Do you think we stand a chance? I left it this long to give him and myself some space rather than breaking up and diving back in. I thought some time apart would give us the room to start afresh rather than dive back into our old relationship that wasn't working. Now I fear I've left it too long and he has moved on with his life.

 

I'd appreciate any opinions on how I should play this.

 

Regards*

Edited August 1, 2012 by bs0u416d

[flitzanu]

i personally don't believe there is a "waited too long" period.

 

if he wanted to be with you, it could have been years, and he'd still say yes.

 

instinct tells me he's either moved on and interested in someone else and isn't going to tell you (they'll always lie, so don't bother asking); or the lesser chance that he's being smart in that you've done this once, so there's no assurance you won't just dump him again in a few months.